We got married after living together for 2 mo. I came to know of his true nature but still I married because he has spent on me quite a lot and with the idea that he would change for the better in future.He is paranoid abt me because he is a womaniser and on the very day of marriage he was doubtful abt the marriage vows he made, like he said "God I do not know how far I'll keep up the vows I made today.Help me".He would never allow me to lift his mobile nor take me out.He never left any decision making to me.Right now I am not living with him.He asks me to confess my past while he totally lies abt his past despite I read so many mails in his inbox asking girls to come on a date with him.I found this behaviour disgusting and I want to part with him.He has been lying to me abt everything right from the start like he said applying for license itself is a marriage,that he doesnt smoke or drink etc. please advice as to what I should do.
2007-05-01 01:37:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him!! This is not what a marriage should be. In fact, you should have never married him to begin with. Who cares how much money he spent on you! Chalk this up to lessons learned and realize that getting married to someone won't change who the other person is.
2007-05-01 01:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hello.. i really felt bad when i read your problem..In my dogma, the first mistake u did was, u settled down wid him so earliar. U would hav taken ur time to understand him better..To be very true, u flew in emotions.As u hav mentioned, he had spent a lot on u, see really this not such a strong reason dat u kept in ur mind n married him.There r many who will spend a lot on u..This does not mean that u marry wid the one who spent.Only money does not matter in a gud relationship.This will not help u to lead a happy life.His gestures does not seems to be gud as i read wat he use say..The person who is doubtful abt the promises he made on the vry first day of marriage, just imagine how long he will b able to keep them, definately he wont..See if he had to keep good relationship wid u, i think his inbox and his phone calls would b far off from girls atleast from those asking for date.He totally lies abt his past,his behaviour,his gestures and his talks does not seems as if he is made for u..
If u want to part, just do it..The person who cant care for ur emotions even cant tell u his past or present truly, rather, this very first thing which is necessary for strong relations that the two must b aware of each other's past n present, is not the perfect match for u, really..I think u will not b happy wid a person of this kind..
Try to forget him, i know this very easy to say but, this is to be done for ur betterment..If u wont part now, it will become very difficult for u to do da same later.Keep ur points in front of him, just hav a peaceful talk with him n take the final decision.
And now, start finding a perfect spouse for urself, u may take help of ur parents.Start a new life and live happily..
Lots of luck for u... Be happy...
2007-05-01 02:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by at ur service 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake. Get a divorce as you have no children except for the man you married. Once again we have an SMS message - Selfish Male Syndrome. Sorry but he is a loser and he might change if he loses you but he will simply manipulate you otherwise. Good luck and get close to your real friends to share the tears with them.
2007-05-01 01:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biggest mistake is urs. U married a wrong guy due to a wrong reason.
Only way to rectify ur mistake n life is to divorce him.
How cud u live with a guy hu is not honest with u but expect u to be one? DISGUSTING...
Now wake up madame, better late then never.
Just leave that gud for nothin looser n get a life, Coz this guy can never keep u or any other girl happy.
2007-05-01 02:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by vids007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him in the first place if you knew about his " true nature"? That I think is why most people live in together to get to know eachother but it is not always necessary that you'll be sucessful in finding a good partner.
The best thing for you to do is leave him as he'll not CHANGE.
2007-05-01 03:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Aura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your guy is a real player. You are probably a great person, and I am sure you do care for him. It will be hard to leave, but it would be more heart breaking to stay. Hang in there, when one door closes another opens. Someone is out there who will treat you like you should be treated. Let him have his lies, secrets, and other women. Nobody will put up with it.
2007-05-01 02:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, one doesn't marry because someone spent money on them and second, people don't change. Your guy was a loser from the beginning and he's still a loser. What's to decide?
2007-05-01 01:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inshort he is a dishonest guy, kick him and move forward as u may get good one,atleast better than him. but this time confirm all the things first and then go on. BEST OF LUCK FOR UR FUTURE !
2007-05-01 03:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by drishti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is a cancelled cheque,
the future is a promissory note,
The present is the only cash in hand,
Use it wisely and well...
2007-05-01 04:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sanjay Khanzode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done it!!!!!!!!!!! Your away from him, now keep it that way, he's a liar and a cheat and he is NOT going to change!! Your doing the right thing, keep up the good work and AWAY from him!!
2007-05-01 01:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋