could U respect a stay@home husband?

Question

I have always dreamed about being a stay-at-home husband---am good at housework, good with kids, animals, and cleaning every room in the house but my own. Am all man---I just like to be home, to write, to make a house a home. Can a woman respect that kind of man, or will she just treat him with contempt because he is not out winning the bread?

Answer 1

get into this centuary, most women earn the bread now, and juggle kids, I work from home, with two businesses, and I earn the bread I earn more than him, and we both respect each other theres no his and mine if your a team your a team in everything

Answer 2

Oh, wow! You are a rare find! Any woman, in her right mind, would be thrilled to have a guy like you...especially, the part "to make a house a home and good at housework".

I have a male friend who did this. He and his wife switched roles. He raised their only child and kept a perfect house...he too, liked to write.

I think if the wife has a good paying job, is a career type (many women are!) this is a perfect situation! Of course, if she yearns to stay home, too...there would be a problem. She would find reasons to resent you.

It would be very important for you to continue to keep everything in smooth running order. As you probably know, there is ongoing laundry...wash,dry, fold, endless groceries to get in put away and cook!!! Bathrooms to scrub, floors to vacuum & mop, unending organizing, stacking, putting away. If there is a child/children, tons of stuff will be added!! It is a full time job, plus!!! Most men have no idea how rough this job is! Honestly, I don't think most men would or could do this job, at least, not right.

I'll say this. If I came home to a clean house, the smell of cooking aroma, the kids all scrubbed up...what a dream come true.

The big plus to staying home is that there can be a quick nap, a time to appreciate being outdoors, the change of scenery with errands. The satifaction of a lovely home to return to, etc. You're not stuck in an office all day.

You'll have to prepare your response when people ask, "What do you do". Even the stay-at-home mom braces herself for this one! People are not overly interested and show it, when they hear this! So, having a 'back pocket' line, like "I'm an artist", helps. :-) Maybe you don't care about this...

A man who elects to stay home doesn't lose his manliness. If anything he adds another, very attractive quality to who he is.

My husband works out of our home and has more flexible hours than your 9 to 5 guy. This may be the best of both worlds! Being 'self-employed', however, he has longer hours than just about anybody I know or have known!

I hope you and your wife/girl can work this out. It sounds like you would be a happier person, for it....and that makes for a happier relationship!

Answer 3

hell yeah! My ex-husband wanted to be stay at home as well, only he didnt want to have to look after the kids or do any housework! So that arrangement didnt work out so well.
I think if either partner is able to stay home, care for and raise children and tend to the house hold chores while the other earns an income for the family, it doesnt matter if its a him or her.
If my partner did the cleaning/cooking/school duties as well as Id like them done, then I would have no problem with it at all. I would NOT be happy if I had to come home from work and do all that on top too tho cos he wasnt keeping his end of the bargain.

Answer 4

I personally find that very... exciting. Like someone mentioned, there is nothing so intense as a father so committed to his family. I also thing though, that that is something you deeply need to discuss with your partner or partner to be. Reading your question it seems like a great deal, if it really stays like that.

My uncle is a "stay at home dad" but he does NOTHING. He is very smart and intelligent man but, he doesnt put that to work. He does nothing at home. Their house is a complete disaster. I find it so funny that he bought my aunt an anniversary ring... or in this case any gift or anything (laughs) but it's all with her money. She is a loan officer and makes very good money... all he does is spend it. I shouldnt make it seem like he goes out and just spends n spends but really all he does is buy $13000 tv systems n stuff like that. Anyway, the point is there is no respect at all for a man like that. Someone who is completely dependent on his wife, has no vision, and who is lazy. Why hire a maid to clean and watch after your kids and home when noone can do it better than you as a father and husband. Make sure you dont fall in that spell.

Answer 5

My husband would like to be the same way, unfortunately I don't make enough money to support the both of us. He was a pastry chef for over 15 years and now works as a restaurant manager. If he had it his way, he'd rather stay home, make cakes as a side job and keep the house clean and make dinner for me every night. I, on the otherhand, want to stay at home too and we can't both do that so we're both working. Personally though, I think the man should always work and provide for his woman - I don't like the idea of me slaving just so he can stay at home.

Answer 6

You have to find the right woman. I believe with all the feminism that you could esily find a woman who would want to be the bread winner and you to stay home. Being the person who stays home is more work then being employed most times ( if you're actually doing everything that needs done ) You may rethink the whole stay at home thing after a while.

Answer 7

There are some women that would, but I wouldn't because I'm a biblical person. Women weren't designed to be the head of the house, that was supposed to be a mans job
Men weren't designed to be the home-maker either.

But, people are switching roles all the time. A woman would have to be careful of that because if she takes on the role of head of house, and the husband staying home, and it doesn't work out, she then will have to pay spousal support and child support .. which happened to a friend of mine, and women just don't make the same money that men do even in the same positions.

Answer 8

I know the PC answer is to say "sure! any woman would be lucky to have a stay at home husband."

Honestly, it would take a lot for me to get used to that. If my husband stayed at home, took care of the kids, and the house and all the chores (like I would do if I stayed home) I would come around and be fine with it. I'm afraid, at first, I would not be happy that my husband wasn't "working."

I'm not proud of the way I feel about this, but I am being honest.

Answer 9

Actually, no. I'm divorcing one.

However, he was not a stay-at-home husband by mutual agreement. He just didn't want to work and decided to take the easy way out and sit on his butt at home, watch Star Trek reruns, and call himself "the nuturer/caregiver." (Trust me, he was neither. He did absolutely no housework, and although he was pretty nice with the kids, everything he did could have been accomplished with them in less than an hour a day.)

Didn't care if he made less money than I, but I certainly wanted him to contribute to the finances. We were not in a financial position for him not to, and even if we were....

He didn't do enough to earn his keep.

P.S. I don't have much respect for stay-at-home moms either, who often pull the same crap and try to say their job is "just as hard as a working moms." Working moms are doing the same thing that stay-at-home moms are doing, but they're actually contributing more. I think stay-at-hom moms are leeches too.

Answer 10

yes i would have nothing but respect for a man that choose to stay home and look after the house and kids. What is the problem with a man staying home to raise the kids and look after the house? NOTHING it in no way makes him any less of a man

Answer 11

I know a few husbands who stay at home while the wife goes out to work.

This arrangement suits some couples and yes, these husbands are very well respected by their wives because these women know the hard work that's put into a day at home with the kids, etc.