if i run away will they stay together? my mom and dad got a divorce when i was like 2, and i saw the aftereffects it put on me, i live with my dad, who married my step mom, who also was previously divorced and had a girl about my age (my step sister) and they have two kids together (my two half sisters..) and my step sister and i have been trying to keep something like this from happening, but i dont want my two little sisters to go through what we did...and i know they always say its never the kids fault, and in this case it is true, but is there anything i can do? even to just delay it for a couple years?? is there something i can say to them? my dad wont talk about it but my step moms been reallly upset..help!
2007-05-01 00:56:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh you poor sweetie. No hun, theres nothing you can do to stop this, running away, pretending to be sick etc, all those things will just create more stress and tension in the house and you dont want that for your baby sisters.
Adults seperate for adult reasons, they have nothing to do with the kids. You are not responsible for your paretns actions and at this point, theres not a lot you can do about it Im afraid.
I reccommend though, that you talk to each of them, tell them how you feel, that you are scared, frightened, sad and however alse you may be feeling. These are very real feelings and you are allowed to have them, and you are allowed to talk about them. It may make you feel a bit better and unburden you a little. You parents may be so wrapped up in their problems, maybe they dont realise you have some of your own. Im sur ethey will understand.
Unfortunately, I cant promise that will keep them together, but it may help you feel a little better in the meantime. Goodluck love xx
2007-05-01 01:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but I do want you to know that your parents' decision are theirs and theirs only. You running away might actually put more stress on the situation. My parents are divorced and both remarried. I too went through a scare where I fel my dad and step-mom would end up divorcing but, I somehow at the age of probably 11, knew that I was not to blame. I knew that they were having difficulties in their marriage and that there was that possibility and I have to admit I was devasted. I asked why and it was explained to me. All I could think was I definately would not welcome the "next" one. They ended up working it out but the point is that being open with your parents and asking them what's going on can help you and give you some peace of mind. You are looking out for yourself too and want to know what to expect and your father needs to understand that it is not only them two but a whole family being affected. As far as your stepmom, I don't know how close you are to her but this is a good time to become her "friend" she's at a stage where she wants to talk abou what's going on and if tell her you feel I'm sure she can help you out too. You do have to remember though that if it meant for them to get a divorce, there isn't much anyone can do to prevent it. Just make sure you are mentally prepared for anything you might hear and/or go through.
I am at work so I am sorry if this doesnt make much sense. I been trying to rush through. Send me an email if anything.
2007-05-01 08:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by morozco5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault, or any of your sibs faults either!! There is one thing you can do.....tell your folks that you and your sibs want to talk to a couselor, if that can't be arranged go to your school counselor and I bet he or she can get you kids the help you need. Your parents should be very proud of you, you sound like a very bright and level headed young lady, stay on course kiddo!!!
2007-05-01 08:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
running away wont help
no
whatever you do, just let the adults deal with it, and you deal with things like school and boys
2007-05-01 08:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea, run away! That would totally keep your parents together. You know, if you get yourself murdered that would be even better! The statistics on dead offspring and staying together are great. /sarcasm
Get over it.
2007-05-01 08:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋