I really love my husband, but a lot of times that we go out or we are somewhere he stares at a women's butt. He said is normal that guys do that. It doesn't mean that he means to do that on purpose but he says that it is normal that a guy looks at someone butt. It really hurts me a lot. Is it normal? Should I get jelous?
2007-05-01 02:45:39 · 25 answers · asked by Yaira C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL @ Valerie. I agree!
My wife and I are so comfortable with each other about it that she points girls out to me, and I point guys out to her. We do it all the time, even while watching TV.
Yaira, as long as we don't give each other a "reason" to be jealous, then there is really no reason to be jealous.. know what I mean? :)
Amber knew that I was a butt man when we first met.. so she does know that I will look. The key is what others were saying earlier. I never disrespect her by turning my head and obviously gawking.. or even staring. This is whether my wife is with me or not. As long as I'm wearing a wedding ring (which I am), then I realize that even to exhibit such behavior when she is not around is disrespectful to my marriage.
See if you can explain that to your husband, and let him know that it's okay to look. Just don't disrespect the marriage.. and going even further.. don't disrespect that woman by being so obnoxiously obvious!
I hope that helps.
And if it doesn't.. then wear your booty jeans next time you're out together. Tell him that while he's wasting time looking at that girl walking ahead of you, those other men following behind are checking you out!
I think he'll get that ;)
2007-05-01 05:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by michaeljazz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have enough respect to not do it around you.
Tell him you know all guys do it but geezus have some respect for me man i am standing right here. check out another girl while i am with you and i will punch you in the balls - i don't care where we are.
Men who complain they are incapable of controlling such behaviors should be treated like the retarded lower vertebrates they claim to be. Carry a stun gun and every time he is with you and checking out another woman's a*ss, give him a taste. I mean that's how we stop animals from practicing unwanted behaviors, and he says he's an animal so why not?
Your other option is to say 'go ahead - but i have this thing that i have to give any guy i see with a cute butt a bl*ow job. gee sorry hunnie i can't control it. just like you.' then just *start* to follow through on it by walking up to some guy and see what happens. little hubby will come to jesus real quick.
2007-05-01 03:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how old you & your husband are, there is no excuse to have your DAD paying your rent for 2 years. If you are responsible enough to enter into marriage, you should be able to support yourself. Do you have kids? Do you have a full time job? Your husband sounds like he's just taking advantage of the situation & doing the least expected.
2016-05-17 23:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal. They are just really bad at being sly about it. I think its funny. Try not to be hurt about it, he's married, not dead. He's with you. Looking is natural. If you are bothered by it, be very obvious the next time you see a good looking guy and see how he reacts. Do you trust him? If so, lighten up. Remark how nice a girls butt is when you see him looking. Appreciate it with him. He will be more relaxed and himself with you. If you take the jealous route he'll be less likely to be who he is with you and you might push him away. They all look, how you handle it makes the difference. Good luck :)
2007-05-01 03:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although all men look at other women's butts, boobs, etc., it is very disrespectful that he does it in front of you. Have you ever asked him how he'd feel if the shoe were on the other foot?
They always say that they're sick of the so called insecurity, but how are you supposed to feel when they do things like that?
To make you feel a little better, other men are checking you out, too!
2007-05-01 03:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I, myself, feel that all people are inclined to look at others at some point in time. Some men it happens to be women & some women it happens to be men & vice versa. Then you have people like me who will join in with my husband just for the poops & giggles. My husband along with myself tend to look at everything & then converse about it. I wouldn't get jealous but that is another thing that's easier said than done. Let your husband know how this makes you feel, may be he could be a little more considerate.
2007-05-01 02:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy might be a very sexual guy. Some guys have so much testosterone that they can't help themselves. it's normal to look but he's shouldn't make it obvious or he kind of should restrain himself when he is with you out of respect for you. It would be okay if it didn't bother you. I have firends where the women actually points out attractive females to their husbands. I find this weird but to each their own. He might need more sex to get his mind off of it. You can get jealous all you want but just know that he can't help himself. its part of being a man.
2007-05-01 02:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by frank_d22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal but disrespectful. If he choses to role his eyes to see another woman he should respect you enough not to do this in front of you or at least do it in a way that it's not obvious. I think that you should have a talk with him. It's not about him looking, it's about the way he is going about it. Shouldn't hurt you though or you shouldn't be jelous. He is only looking not touching, no biggie.
2007-05-01 02:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for a man to look at other women, but it is not ok for him to do it in front of you!
I don't know that I would be jealous about it, more like really pissed.
He needs to really know that it hurts your feelings, and learn how to not look while he is in front of you. I mean on occasion, sometimes we just can't help but look, but all the time? Come on, that's too much.
2007-05-01 02:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes your husband is right, it's natural for men's to look at another women esp. when it comes to our body part. If every time we get jealous when our husband look at another woman or women, we will all be arguing or divorce. So love just don't worry about it,cause men does it no matter if were with them or not. Just tell your husband how it makes you feel when he does it while being with you, he might just pay attention more next time...
2007-05-01 02:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋