Even after years of being with a married man in which he lives with you and his wife is aware of all of this he has still not started divorce proceedings. Opinions not judgement is needed.
2007-05-01 08:27:01 · 26 answers · asked by deecee4ever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At what point do your needs become important? dont u think u are worthy of someone better? as long as he is with her.u will always be second.How do u know she is aware of everything,just because he says so? I would never be able to trust a man like that.Leave and learn from it.
2007-05-01 08:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's so in love with you, why hasn't he started divorce proceedings? I'd say tell him to poo or get off the pot. Then follow through. Give him a concrete time that certain things need to be accomplished or you will move on with your life.
My husband had a 4.5 year affair and after a lot of work, we're still together and the other woman is past history. My husband told me it was good to have the two women because when he was fighting with one, he could go to the other and never be forced to actually resolve anything.
Also, if your guy DOES divorce his wife and marry you, can you be 100% sure that he won't do to you what he has done to his wife? Just a thought.
2007-05-01 09:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by K. F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlikely . . .
that is why most women do not want to be the other woman. They already know this trick. The man says he will leave her and then with mere words he gets you to give him all you have to offer - your love, your body, your home, your time, your commitment. Meanwhile, he is obligated to do nothing. He may even hint at marriage in a cryptic fashion and seem to be seriously considering it. All the while he is enjoying good sex, fine cooking, and the comforts of a clean home. He is comfortable with his life. Any pressure from you and he will find another woman to shack up with or maybe he'll go back to his wife if she lets him in. In any case, he isn't the type of man anyone should marry. He would do the same to you in a heart beat. For 7 years another womn, a wife, has seen her husband parading in and out of your house with you and the rest of the world has seen it too. Whatever pain she might have felt has probably never fully left her - all becuase of him. Why would you want to be the one to enter into a sanctimonious relationship with a person like that? You made a mistake by being with a married man, no matter what story he gave you, and now you are thinking of further sabotaging your life by marrying someone who degrades the institution of marriage. It would be a cycle of pain repeating itself if you did marry him. Do you deserve it?
2007-05-01 09:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if he hasn't done it by now then it's probably not going to happen. I don't understand why he or she have have not started the proceedings though. They're practically divorced already. Do you plan on marrying this man? If you do then you need to tell him that he needs to get divorced before the two of you get married obviously.
2007-05-01 08:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should he leave the wife and marry the other woman? He's got the best of both worlds. He's living with the person he wants to be with, and can still claim married on his tax returns, and not have alimony, division of property or child support.
The other woman is so being played.
2007-05-01 10:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the reason he is not leaving. Is there kids involved?
The other woman should find out why he is getting a divorce. I think he will get a divorce if he loves the other woman.
2007-05-01 08:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Here kitty kitty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. He will not leave his wife. It seems like you would have figured this out long before now. There are countless single women who have dated married men who told them that they would leave their wife, but they never did. I also don't understand why these women are willing to date a man who cheats on his wife with them and will likely cheat on the "other woman" too.
2007-05-01 08:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems as though he is just comfortable with things the way they are. No matter how you put it, you are still the other woman and entitled to nothing. Tell him to get the divorce done or you are out of there! From personal experience, you will have to push, push, push if you want it done! And yes, if he is happy with you, he will marry you.
2007-05-01 08:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so and if the other woman sits around waiting for him to she is wasting her life. He just wants them both. He is in heaven having two women wanting him at the same time. The only way anything is going to change is for one of them to move on! They are just stuck in a tug of war both of these women and waiting for one of them to give up. It's not about the quality of love here ...it's about who is going to win. If the man chooses one of them over the other she will be bored with him sure as hell.
2007-05-01 08:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if he ever had any plans of actually divorcing her. Seven years is a long time to wait and I think that I'd be looking elsewhere for a man. He can't be that great,since she hasn't bothered divorcing him even though she knows he lives with you.
2007-05-01 08:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by BOXERGRL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋