I fell in love with a married woman since last year. She is not happy with her husband who had cheated on her and admitted to me that she loves me. But every time I try to touch her, she resists. I have convinced her 100%, she is the one I love and if something happends to her I will take care of her. She told that she hates it when people touches her. She gets some kind of nervousness. Question is, did something happened to her during childhood that is making her like that or something that I do not get? I have been with so many women, religious ones, that finally was okay with kisses but with this one I am very confused. One time I took both her and her sister out, and I touched her hand many times. Later, her sister told me that she spent nearly two hours in the bathroom taking shower, scrubbing herself. I am confused with this girl, is she mentally sick? She is religious and if she follows religously she should not be talking as I don't call her, she call me.
2007-05-01 09:45:11 · 14 answers · asked by Shah_Ru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay away from her..
She is married..
2007-05-01 09:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is YOUR touches she doesn't like. She's married somehow, so one would think she was OK at some point with her husband touching her. She is married to someone else, that's why she doesn't want to be touched by you. She might be telling you stories how unhappy she is in her marriage, but nonetheless she didn't end her current relationship. Don't buy any of that "love" stuff. Respect yourself a little more.
She is not mentally sick. That's a common reaction to an unwanted experience, especially touch.
2007-05-01 10:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um it's possible she could have been molested as a child or maybe even raped.
I have a hard time with the same stuff (not to that extreme though). And it was because of one of the above reasons. It's something that just sort of needs to be worked through and she really needs to talk about it..not in detail but just to start getting over it. It doesnt sound like shes coping very well with it.
One thing my boyfriend did was he went slow even with holding hands and made sure everything was okay before he went further. Just make her comfortable.
Either that or she's guilty for the whole husband thing.
2007-05-01 09:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Corpsegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's guilt. She doesn't like you touching her because she's still married, still feeling obligations to the vows she took to her husband.
Your relationship isn't healthy. SHE IS STILL MARRIED. Her sick guilt over a relationship with you that she keeps pursuing is a sign that she doesn't have the willpower to end something that ultimately makes her unhappy and conflicted.
End the relationship. You're not getting what you want and you're just making her miserable. Let her work out her broken marriage and either fix it or end it--she is apparently not ready to be involved with you or any other man, in any case.
2007-05-01 09:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She gets "nervous" because she is MARRIED and being with you is CHEATING on that marriage. She is doing the same thing to her husband that he did to her and she is feeling guilty for it. YOU are the one who is mentally sick, to go after a married woman. Stop taking her phone calls when she calls you.
2007-05-01 10:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she is married stupid. You should know better for getting involved with a married person. Have you no integrity. Leave her alone so she can work on her marriage, obviously she is just not that into nor should she be.
2007-05-01 09:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ama A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesnt wantr you touching her because she is married. It doesnt matter if she is happy or not, she is still married and maybe she doesnt like the idea of being an adulterer. Leave her alone until she isnt married anymore.
2007-05-01 09:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by My two cents 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be guilt from knowing she's MARRIED and you really shouldn't have the right to touch her. Could be obsessive compulsive disorder. Either way, it's two red flags...waving for you to see. Don't disregard them. Something's not right here and you know it. Let her go.
2007-05-01 09:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds like your touch isnt the touch she wants and she may be feeling "nasty" shall i ? i guess i dont understand... where is she going with this ? her hubby is the one who messed up, she has a choice to make. She is either going to forgive him and continue loving him, or she is going to play and loose her self respect
2007-05-01 09:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by georgia k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... Have you consider that she could have been raped in the past? It might be because she is Married? There are a lot of questions you could ask her.
2007-05-01 09:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So just what is it that you find so overwhelmingly positively attractive about a woman who is repulsed by your touch?
2007-05-01 09:53:12 · answer #11 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋