Today while cleaning our room I found a hard-copy of a bill, which I had perviously viewed on the internet. (on the bill are payments he made to the dating site.) If we for whatever reason divorce will I need it? My question is should I keep it or toss it?
Background information:
I caught my husband using a dating site. Later to find out that he was having cyber-sex and making arrangements to meet with women. Months have passed and we have been through counselling—aside from me feeling still a little hurt, overall, everything seems to be going well.
2007-05-01 08:10:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep it, you may never need it but I'd keep it anyways and I would confront him with it. But don't let him have the original, make a copy.
2007-05-01 08:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly keep it, you just never know if you might need it or not. And I always tell anyone in your situation, listen to your gut instinct on things, if more women did this, they'd be out of bad situations. I sincerely hope he's straightened out and is being honest with you. However, I don't feel it would hurt to keep this piece of paper and perhaps open a bank account in your name only and start putting some money away in it. Work on your marriage but have a backup just in case, make sure you have some money stored away and a plan, too many women get stuck when their marriage falls apart. Good Luck and hope it works out for you.
2007-05-01 15:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to answer this because I was in a very similar situation. First of all, if you forgave your husband and are choosing to stay with him now, then you have to throw it out. By keeping this piece of "evidence" you are telling yourself that you don't trust him and don't have faith in the relationship. And if those are both true, then you need to leave and file for the divorce now. If you choose to stay in a relationship and work things out after infeidelity, then you have to forgive the other person and give your trust back to them. Now, this doesn't mean to just forget about the whole thing..not at all. But you cannot mend a broken relationship half-heartedly. You need to be in it 100%, and if you want to keep your marriage, don't have second thoughts. If you feel the need to keep the receipt, then you aren't in it 100%...point blank.
2007-05-01 15:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by It's Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Protection is always good however if you feel you are going to need it should you really still be married? I have been asking myself similar questions over the same type of things in my marriage. You have to either let it go or move on... You will always be hurt betrayal isn't something you can get over and I don't believe forgetting is the answer either - the answer is accepting what has happened and where you are and moving to that place in your relationship.
2007-05-01 15:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Interestedinknowing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't come into play during a divorce as adultery isn't grounds for a divorce any more and certainly not cyber sex. Sorry. If it makes you feel better to keep it as proof for yourself then keep it as it sounds as if you haven't totally forgiven him at this point. (Understandably). I think when you are ready, you'll toss it in the garbage and close that chapter of your life.
2007-05-01 15:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toss it...in the event of a divorce, it will give you nothing. You won't get more child support, spousal support, the house or any material possession as a result of it. Holding on to it will only cause you to harbor the feelings you thought you were over.
2007-05-01 15:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, girl save it. I am going through a divorce right now and there are so many things like that I only wish I had now to help me. Keep it in a secret, safe place!
2007-05-01 15:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by trancegoddess2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep it. Although we want to believe the best about those we love you never know what the future will bring. Put it somewhere that you won't keep running across it and keep re-opening your wounds. I hope the best for you!!
2007-05-01 15:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♠Room for One♠ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is just my opinion, but i'd keep it just in case things don't work out. But if you're working through this and he isn't cheating the judge may ask why you're using it now and didn't persue it when you found out about it.
2007-05-01 15:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it, because if you do get a divorce and lawsuits come up you can present them.
hope everything works out for the best!
2007-05-01 15:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Yayaysbdjfbdjbdhd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋