This guy and I want to live together. But we do not want to do that or have sex together unless there is love and commitment between us. Because it means nothing without that. We want our commitment to be a spiritual commitment. We have already discussed what would happen if I became pregnant, and how we are going to handle finances. Is there anything wrong with this? The Bible does not define marriage as a legal document.
2007-05-01 07:23:39 · 23 answers · asked by pocketful_of_sunshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-05-01 07:34:15 · update #1
I definitely think so. A marriage is more spiritual than legal anyway. Legality just adds a piece of paper to your collection.. it doesn't define how you feel about the other person or the relationship.
2007-05-01 07:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of anywhere in the Bible where it teaches that you can be married through prayer. If you can't afford to get married right now then perhaps you should either wait until you do have enough money or simply get married in a civil court. If you have sex outside of marriage then that is a sin no matter what. Can God forgive you for this? Yes, He can and He longs to forgive you if you haven't asked Him to already. If you're not yet a Christian then become one today! The apostle Peter declared: "Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved." (Acts 4:12) The apostle Peter was referring to the name of Jesus Christ. (See: Acts 4:10). Why go on another day without the true love of your life Jesus Christ being your personal Lord and Savior? If you already do know Jesus in this way then prayerfully read your Bible and pray. If you don't already have a Bible I personally recommend that you purchase or somehow obtain a copy of the New King James Version.
2016-03-18 22:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A spiritual marriage might be something very special to the two people involved but has no legal meaning. There are laws in every nation of the world pertaining to marriage and the vast majority require some sort of ceremony with a legal document (certificate) being issued at the conclusion of the ceremony. The Bible has little bearing on modern day laws. For example, The Bible preaches against homosexuality as a sin but there are certain nations of the world passing laws requiring homosexuals to be treated fairly as equal members of society whereas a country like Jamaica is a dangerous place to declare yourself to be gay. Even a cross dresser can find himself facing an angry mob of citizens before police come and rescue him.
2007-05-01 07:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on your religion. If you are Christian, then talk to your pastor. I think it depends on what you mean by "spiritually" married. I assume that would mean being "married" by a spiritual leader (maybe a preacher) but just not filing the legal paperwork. Ex: after a christian wedding by an ordained minister, you have to send your marriage certificate in to the county clerk in order to have your marriage certificate recorded. I assume you could just not file the marriage certificate. Then you would be spiritually married, but not legally. However, with all that said, if you really want to show commitment, a legal marriage is the best way to do it. Everyone says, "it's just a piece of paper" but when you decide to get a divorce, it's much more than just a piece of paper that you have to deal with. I like the idea of legal marriage for many reasons, primarily spiritual, but it also "keeps you honest" and by this I mean when the going gets tough and you just want to give up on the relationship, avoiding the legal issues of ending the marriage sometimes give you the motivation to honor your spiritual commitment......and it works. I do want to commend you (although I don't understand not wanting to be legally married) for wanting to be spiritually married before having sex together. That is biblical and the way God intended marriage. Good luck to you & God bless.
2007-05-01 07:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by Amy27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A spiritual union is what you feel it should be. When you are both ready you will know. If you are living as husband and wife, then you are husband as wife. I understand what you are saying about the legal document. I have been married to my husband for 5.5 years, not legally but we are married just the same, things are great for us, even if people do often tell us we should get married and make it right. Do what you feel you need to, just as long as you are sure about what you want.
2007-05-01 07:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the bible does not. However, The bible does state that we must adhere to the laws of the land. And the only way to be legally married is by having that legal document so therefore I would say that there is no such thing as spiritually married without a legal marriage as well.
2007-05-01 07:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by yougood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would prefer to separate these concepts more obviously; a legal marriage or a spiritual commitment. Once the law becomes the grantor of your rights and responsibilities, you are their (the state, who is granting the license, demanding id numbers and blood tests...) pawn.
Is there anything wrong with this?
Sure, if you try to apply for state benefits, or attend a congregation that is nosy into your personal business.
You know, laws are made because people break their word, and THE WORD IS THE BOND. So just keep your word, and love one another.
2007-05-01 07:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by pedro 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the Bible does not define marriage as a legal document. but the Bible does mention marriage ceremonies.
Legally you have the best protection to have that piece of paper.
What is the big deal about having the legal ceremony? Even with it doesn't mean a person has a 'spiritual' marriage.
2007-05-01 07:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, however legally a "commitment ceremony" is not recognized. I agree that it is all with what is in your heart and spirit. Why are you not up for marriage through a marriage license type of ceremony? I mean if it is for religious purposes, you are absolutely right, there was "marriage" before there ever were courts, laws and the like--THAT is according to the bible, the marriage ceremony was put into place by man's interpetation of God's laws. It really is up to you and your beliefs. Good luck to you and happy marriage--do what you feel is right and I commend you on the abstinence, and committment you show to one another.
2007-05-01 07:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want you to remember that you asked if there was anything wrong with living together. And secondly, you asked that question because within you there is a sense of morality. You also asked that question because you know deep down that something is wrong with "living in sin!" If you believe that marriage is spiritual, how will you make it spiritual without doing what God has outlined to make it spiritual? This question was for you to think about what you asked. Almost every culture has a marital ceremony of some kind. According to the Bible, commitment, sex and living together equals marriage. It is a sin according to the Bible to have sex before marriage because sex belongs within the confines of marriage. God performed the first marital ceremony! Where do you think "Flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone" comes from? You may also do a word study on the words "immorality" and "fornication". There is so much more I could say but if you really desire to do things the right way, don't move in with him until he marries you. The Lord of the Bible established the government and the institution of marriage. A spiritual marriage is one that has been performed before God and a witness; and the license is usually thrown in by the government if you desire.
2007-05-01 08:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋