Marriage & Divorce - 30 April 2007

What can be done to change this consensus? - Jackie Collins.

2007-04-30 13:07:29 · 1725 answers · asked by Jackie Collins 1

I ask this because my Mam had a nasty shock this evening. My Mam and Dad have had a joint savings account for over 30 years since they got married, although Mam's name is on the account, Dad keeps the bank books and treats it like his own rather than 'theirs'. Mam has always had to ask 'permission' to use it before she could spend any of it and because of this, she never does.

Anyway, this evening, she decides to go looking for the bank book that Dad hides. She found 2 bank books. The joint account and also a brand new account that Dad opened in January.
What shocked her was that he has removed the £13,000 savings from the joint account and put it in this new personal account he opened leaving only a few hundred in the joint account.

Mam would still not know anything about this if she hadn't looked for the bank book tonight.

Is Dad allowed to remove a large amount of money from their joint account without Mams permission also? She's really upset.

2007-04-30 13:00:04 · 31 answers · asked by Kyra 2

We been together for 5 years or so and we got married thigns were fine etc.
well things went down hill and down and down, now weve been living apart since november 2006.
he doesnt want a divorce, but I dont love him anymore, and I tried to make it work with him a few weeks ago but he treated me so bad.
I really cant afford a divorce so Ill have to wait....

But I dont understand why he calls me everydya like 100 times a day, I mean were living 100 miles apart. Why wont he move on? Im sick of the harrasment
Id hate to get the police involved Ive had enough of that.

2007-04-30 12:59:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He ask me to sign devorce paper,and a clean break ( mean we are not goin to sue each other ) I had just sign both.Then he told me that he don't want to devorce now and he will not post it off to the judge but give our married a chance and see how it go becuase he stil love me.My question is '' I have just sign most stupid thing I have ever done and we still living together is that mean I just carried on paid the mortgage and bills ( both in his name ) after I alredy know that I will not receive anything ? Or take a risk and hope that we are going to be happy forever ? '' All my family and friends are happy to heared that but they are concerned about why he would like me to sign the clean break thing ? and then ask me to stay married? But his family say that we shouldn't be together I ask him, did his parent know that I alredy sign everything he ask me to do but he the one who change his mind ? he said '' No'' he just told them he still thinking about it.

2007-04-30 12:48:55 · 3 answers · asked by Applewood 1

Hi im from Sydney and need advice of family law. I left my ex partner (my daughters father) 1 and a half years ago he hasnt yet taken me to court but is threatening too. I don't want him to see her and i no that proberly sounds selfish but i was with him for almost 2years and during that time he threated my life and the life of our unborn child. Before she was born i had knifes held to my throat beer poured all over me things thrown at me been told i was worthless and everyother name he could think of. After she was born i had been head butt whilst breastfeeding her, strangled to the point of blacking out. I told the police and he threated to kidnap her if he went 2 gaol. I got out of the relationship with help from family and friends and he was having visits with our daughter at my mums and later by himself i stopped those vists because his girlfriend told me he was planning to take from me. He hasnt paid child support since we broke up what are the chances that he wil get visitations

2007-04-30 12:34:19 · 4 answers · asked by sarah_tayiah1 1

my husband and i fight a lot about what is says is my problem with "just letting things go". what i cant get him to understand is that i dont feel that the problem was ever resolved. for example...his mother has a tendency to discuss personal matters with him without me being present. i have asked him many times to nicely tell his mother that the conversation needs to be continued when his wife is present. more specifically she will be discussing our finances or how we raise our child. i then ask him why he continues to allow his mother to have these conversations with him without me there, and he blows up at me. how do i fix this huge problem?

2007-04-30 12:21:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

And he wants to work it out, how do you KNOW its for real? How do you KNOW he's sincere? That he really wants YOU. I'm so confused cuz he said he had an affair cuz he wasnt happy, but he never treated me bad while it was happening. Like i have nothing to compare it too. Like behavior during the affair as opposed to now. I constantly find myself throwing phrases in his face like: thats what you said then, or thats what you promised then, or thats what you did then. He says that was then and I wasnt myself then, this is now and please accept me for who I am today. He has me so "jacked up in the head". I dont know what to believe. He is trying so hard, to make it right, that much I can tell, but theres always that lingering doubt when I compare the personalities he had then to now. Theres not much different. someone please help me, i dont know what to do or what to think.

2007-04-30 11:53:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiancee and I will soon be getting married but we can't agree on my name change. I would like to keep my last name and just add his on to mine but he doesn't like it. He says that he feel disrespected and he just wants me to take his last name. I tried to explain to him that some women add on, some women hyphenate, and others do take their husbands last name but he doesn't get it. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!

2007-04-30 11:45:09 · 15 answers · asked by Nicki 2

2007-04-30 11:37:14 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married at age 30 and divorced at age 35. Do you think I waited to long? I still want to be married.

2007-04-30 11:32:46 · 11 answers · asked by Douglas W 2

now the girl found me on myspace and she looks just like me. I'm married now and have 2 kids of my own, I love them tremendously, 16 years ago i fell in love with this girl and was going to get married, my father manipulated me and her to think something that was not true so she left. and I let her go. Now we have been talking and both discovered that had we known the truth about what my father had done, we would have gotten married and live out our life.

We have both fallen in love all over again, our flame has been re-ignited. but we also love our spouses (who were not even in the picture 16 years ago) We both know that our love is true, but cant figure out how to deal with it. neither one of us wants to destroy our excisting families, but we can't deny our love. If we lived closer to one another we would no doubt act out our love in a phyisical manor, but we live 2000 miles apart. someone please give some SOUND advise.

2007-04-30 11:25:55 · 31 answers · asked by troubled12345 1

don't know how to feel about this situation,but what happened was I met this guy, a few months ago, and he told me found me to be attractive, and a cool person to hang out with and to call him if I wanted to go out.I finally did, after a month of giving it some thought, and took him up on his offer, so the first things he says is that he's broke, and in a few weeks we'll hang out, then a few weeks past, and he tells me something came up, and he will let ME know when he has time, so a few months past, and I run into him again, and he asks me when is he gonna let him take me out, and he aplogizes says he's been going throguh some things, so we set a date, he calls me a few days later, and tells me he's had some deaths in the family, and when he runs into me again we'll aset another date,I run inot him again he doesn't brings it up, and he tells me that i should have came over to him and said Hello, and during the conversation he doesn't bring it up, so i bring it up he's still clamini

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After that I asked him to hang out again, and he's tells me oh well, I 'm going to this club to check out the atmosphere for this new gig I'm getting, and he told me that he's broke that's why he's taking on a second job, and he saying all this crap about when he gets on his feet, he's going to make it up too me...but then a few days alter I see him at the gym and he says nothing too me, we actually made eye contact and he rolled his eyes and never said nothing too me the entire time I was at the gym, so I text messaged him and asked him if I liked more than a friend, he says sorry he cant say that he does , even though he finds me to be attractive and cool, he's not interested in not pursuing a serious relationship with me, and the next day he changed his status to from single to "in a relationship" wow do i feel bad.

2007-04-30 11:20:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has been keeping their rituals alive such as no curtains, window shades always open, plants ALL over the place, won't replace small washer, electric dryer and dishwasher that doesn't clean well. We did keep some furniture, but pieces that don't fit or have no place for, he fits in one of the rooms or puts down the cellar for "maybe we'll use it someday". Have not sold previous home yet and I'm ready to move back. Any solutions?

2007-04-30 11:18:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do when you feel taken for granted in a relationship of five years??? Walking away is not an option obviously.. but how would I let him know without making him feel like he's not good enough or I'm complain too much about him? How can I make him understand how I feel?

2007-04-30 11:16:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend who recently became unemployed and her husband will not assist her financially. She was fired after reporting abusive behavior she was receiving from her boss. He got a huge bonus and did not give her a penny. She recently discovered some money that her husband was apparently holding. Each time she asks him for money, he becomes verbally abusive.

She has always been there for him when he needed something. He was fired in the past and she paid all the bills. His motor went out on his vehicle and she co-signed and paid the downpayment so that he could get a new vehicle. She is a very giving person and he is very selfish. She is considering leaving him.
They have been to counseling in the past because he was physically abusive. She thought they had worked everything out, but it seems like his is displaying other forms of abuse. She says he screams at her and tears her down (privately) and then pretends to be the loving husband.
What advice should I give her?

2007-04-30 11:01:51 · 14 answers · asked by Twilight 1

my friend is leaving her husband. i think what keeps her in their marriage for more than 16 yrs is the comfort that her husband can provide. my friend took care of her husband and her kids half of her life and husband cheated, and she can't over it. she will end up with nothing if she leaves but she's not happy?

2007-04-30 10:42:09 · 12 answers · asked by Bakekang 3

I love my fiance' dearly and want to have a great life with him. I've always been very attractive to him physically, but lately, I'm not. He's grown his sideburns long and they look terrible. I tried really hard to talk to him about it in a very nice way, but he doesn't seem to care if I find them repulsive or not, his son doesn't like them either, so it's not "just me". I am trying very hard to get over the way he looks right now, because I love him either way - but it's really turning me off every time I look at him, and knowing he doesn't even care that I feel this way doesn't help. I'm afraid I'll damage our relationship by not being as sexually active as I normally am (I'm a bit of a freak!), but I also can't feel like I'm lying and all turned on when I'm not. What should I do???

2007-04-30 10:38:54 · 15 answers · asked by wellbeing 5

I am going to be 50 soon and been married 3 yrs .I have always been healthy and have my own business for many yrs.Recent my knees hurt so bad I didnt think I was going to be able to wrk.My job is all me and without me it wont run.In the midst of all the tests medically it entered my mind tht I didnt want to be a burden to my husband financially or partner wise ! My husband has lots a money and he was a bacholer all his life and I couldnt get it out a my head tht he wouldnt take care of me had I became ill ect.....I think he married me to take care of him .I now am fine but is there something wrong in this relationship ?Im still shocked I thought this.why did I think this?

2007-04-30 10:37:20 · 16 answers · asked by jessy 3

For his bestfriend, we've had asecret affair for over 6 months now, and he is really great in bed, and doesn't want children.

2007-04-30 10:31:42 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had unprotected sex 5 days ago with an ex.bf i am having a fling with(he has a gf) currently i am worried because i am not sure if i was ovulating my last period was april 11th ish.The fling was supposed to have been payback for my bf cheating on me because i wanted to wait to have sex with him(we never had sex now broken up)and on my ex.bf's gf who i suspect he left me for my payback looks like it backfired.If i turn out to be pregnant do i have to tell my ex.bf i dont want the drama?

2007-04-30 10:29:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

the debt is mostly from a bad divorce and "guilt money" for his young children.I have the money to pay the debt but feel funny him asking me for it.I would never ask anyone to pay off my debt but thats just me.mature answers only please would a decent guy ask his fiance to pay his debt off and how would u feel if he did?

2007-04-30 10:26:30 · 11 answers · asked by carriemartin7869 1

...with Bruno- our German Shepard. I don't know what to do. Any advice.

2007-04-30 10:05:30 · 18 answers · asked by Ronin 4

2007-04-30 09:50:13 · 8 answers · asked by yvhonne 1

My ex-husband lived in another state with our daughter. I gave him custody during our divorce a few years ago. I live in another state. I have tried living in the same town and he always pushes me to get back together with him and it does not work.

Now, he moved due to job reasons about 500 miles away. He keeps leaving me messages about our child basically being by herself. Her grandmother does stay with her.

My child is pushing people away and trying to fend for herself and take care of things on her own. The house is up for sale and she has to maintain it.

He is thinking of leaving his job because of the pain she is in. He left me a message that we should get back together for her sake. I don't think I can adjust to his ways.

What is my role in this? I am willing to take custody of the child if he gives it to me.

I am extrememely worried about my child. I don't know what to do.

2007-04-30 09:31:51 · 10 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I'm 16 years old, and my boyfriend of four years just proposed. I love him to death and I want to, but there's a little nagging voice in my head saying "You're too young!" Should I follow my head of my heart?

2007-04-30 09:15:14 · 59 answers · asked by April <3 1

My husband and I were smokers when we started dating. He smoked about 3 packs/day, and I was up to 1 1/2. Then, I found out I was pregnant and I tried to stop (got down to 1 cigarette per week and for whatever reason couldn't do better). He cut down a little, but could not quit. He said he was going to, but it would take time. It's been 7 months and he has actually increased. I have been nagging him about cutting down more because seeing him smoke is making me want to smoke and I keep blowing my goal once a week. I told him it needs to be a joint effort and that he needs to quit before the baby is born because even the chems. on clothing can cause problems with an infant, and that I really need his support in my efforts to be smoke-free (completely). We fight about it constantly because he just keeps smoking. He says I'm just nagging him and I should mind my own business in the situation. Problem is that his business affects mine. Should I shut up about it or am I right to nag?

2007-04-30 08:56:31 · 34 answers · asked by TruthSeeker 4

Me and my husband married too young, he cheated on me, but then we decided to work things out, but then we started arguing too much and then we realized how much we are different in personality and likes and dislikes and then he tells me he wants to be with me and grow old with me and spend the rest of his life with me, but right now he needs to be by himself and wants to be left alone and when he's ready for us to get back together he'll let me know.

But I feel as though if you really love someone dispite what you may go through you would stay together and stick it out. I feel by him asking me to just wait around for him until he finds himself and get his self together, thats not fair to me. I mean he was my first love and boyfriend and husband, and my first experience. I dont want to wait on him because who knows what he's doing while we apart, and It makes me look desparate. Its not that I can't live without him, its just I dont want too. But I also dont want to be no fool. HELP

2007-04-30 08:42:46 · 16 answers · asked by Survivor 2

The computer at home had all of the history deleted on day. I hardly ever use this computer. My husband said he didn't know how all the history was deleted. He said he didn't know how to do all that. I just had a computer problem, and he emailed me exactly how to do it. I asked on here and didn't get an answer that precise. I called him and said how did you know that, and he said He knows a little about computers... So is he lying about deleting the history from the home computer?

2007-04-30 08:35:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently found out that I'm not the father of my son. My wife said that she went to a party (We were still engaged) and she cannot remember what happened that time. Her friend who is now dead (Car Accident) told her when she found out she is pregnant that he might be the father as they had sex the night she went out with all of them. She thinks he might have drugged her. Not sure how true her story is and I feel like I was tricked. We eventually got married and now that I know, I don't know what to feel. I cannot afford to see a psycologist and I cannot talk to anybody about that. I realy no longer trust my wife and I'm very angry but. I love 'my son' but not sure what to do. I don't want to desert him, as she is not a good mohter either and it would break his heart if I had to leave her. Anybody else who this has happened to ? Pease tell me what feelings you experienced. I have a lot of anger not sure how to handle this anymore. Please advise ? Thanks

2007-04-30 08:28:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-30 08:25:47 · 8 answers · asked by chargor1222 1