My husband has been keeping their rituals alive such as no curtains, window shades always open, plants ALL over the place, won't replace small washer, electric dryer and dishwasher that doesn't clean well. We did keep some furniture, but pieces that don't fit or have no place for, he fits in one of the rooms or puts down the cellar for "maybe we'll use it someday". Have not sold previous home yet and I'm ready to move back. Any solutions?
2007-04-30 11:18:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make slight changes here & there. Give the man a chance to grieve but explain to him that you need to make the house your home(yours & his). Add a few of your own things, like pictures. Change a rug, or if you don't like a sofa cover it with your own throw rug. But do it slowly & don't make a big issue out of it. If he freaks out too much or if a long time elapses & he isn't up to the change tell him you are moving back to your own home, where you are comfortable. Explain that woman like to have their own nest!!!
2007-04-30 12:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tiga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question doesn't fit well with your other question.
Your other question says that his father is still alive.
If you're in it just to control the property and control the contents of the property, then I say you're a GOLD DIGGER
Leaving would the best thing you could do for your husband, his 4 brothers and sisters, and all their families.
Don't be such a taker,
Greed is never attractive.
2007-04-30 11:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your sister's homestead extra advantageous? My sister and that i've got noted this considering we the two have agreed to take one yet another's toddlers if something happens to a minimum of one persons. Her house is extra advantageous so we would pass there. besides, it would keep something consistent for her toddlers to stay there. If she's 12, she could have the means to tell you what she needs and that i think of this is significant that she have a say in it. I additionally think of it incredibly is important what your husband thinks. you do no longer want him to resent you or your loved ones for his existence so dramically changing. you're dealing with plenty precise now, preserve your self by all this! additionally, in case you bought your place and acquired yet another what might that recommend for you all financially. i understand your loved ones is not any help with this occasion, yet for us we want kinfolk interior sight for our toddlers. i believe with a clean toddler and a couple of toddlers you are going to need help and that i might think of you may opt to stay interior the area. So, based on your sister's homestead being extra advantageous...i might stay interior the area. supply the school problem it sluggish and see what happens. If it gets worse or would not get extra perfect you ought to evaluate switching colleges or homeschooling her. yet it incredibly is basically my opinion. i'm hoping i'm in no way on your footwear and that i understand you basically do what you are going to be able to desire to do---yet hats off to you! You deserve a brilliant enormous hug and a pat on the returned for being a first rate citizen and maximum loving sister/aunt. There are not many human beings left in our international such as you! you're in my prayers and bigger of success!
2017-01-09 04:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by leeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him on this! Those things are family heirlooms to him. Give him some time to heal and he will eventually decide what is important enough to keep and what is not. Let him have his time to grieve.
Jellybean, if you are the kind of person who would actually sneak behind your husband's back and throw away things that do not belong to you, I hope your husband is smart enough to get rid of you before you actually have a chance to do that to him!
2007-04-30 11:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time for grieving and compromise. Furniture are just objects and not that important. Help him by being supportive.
2007-04-30 11:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by flieder77 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is still grieving and he takes your action is disrepect of his parents in their house. Given time, he will steadily come out it.
You are competing with his parents and they are no longer alive!! Your moving back your house is a sign of abandoning him and don't be surprised of his deeper resentment.
2007-04-30 11:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do it when he's not there as a suprise! Have a "while you were out" moment, envite some mutal friends and family to help. Be sure it's done thought by the time he gets back. he won't like it if he has to help in the transformation.
2007-04-30 11:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by properhillbilly 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think that you should let the man have his way for now, but you can slowly start making changes when he is comfrontable with them.
2007-04-30 11:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by danicolegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how bout you secretly start throwing things out little by little like one month throw one thing then next month another next thing you know you'll have all that isn't useful out by the time he even realizes it. Good luck and he won't get rid of stuff just yet just give it time.
2007-04-30 11:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
wow, i would probably let him be for awhile... how would you feel if it was your parents? after some time has passed, just explain to him, that you and he have a life, and that you would like to live that way
2007-04-30 11:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋