I'm 16 years old, and my boyfriend of four years just proposed. I love him to death and I want to, but there's a little nagging voice in my head saying "You're too young!" Should I follow my head of my heart?
2007-04-30 09:15:14 · 59 answers · asked by April <3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-04-30 09:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Greg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HELL YES!!! The minimum age limit for marriage should be 25! Who you are at 16 is not who you will be at 25, 30 , 45 - you will find that you will do a lot of growing over the next 9 years - if you're still in love once you reach that age, then you probably have enough life experience to deal with all that life will throw at you as a married couple - not to mention knowing how to support yourself on your own, should the need arise.
2007-04-30 09:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by CDM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 16 years old you want more than nothing in the world to be with the person you love. You think only of the now, and when you do think of the future you think your siginificant other will do what it takes to provide for you. WRONG. First of all, it takes two incomes to keep a home or a half way decent apartment. You havn't been to college yet and experienced "life". And you are still to immature to make major decisions in a marriage, such as a house payment, insurance, car payment, car insurance, doc. bills, gas ect. It takes allot to be out on your own and be independent. I dont know your situation, but it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. If this guy is the right one , he will wait as long as it takes for you to pursue your goals and dreams. Enjoy being a kid, and finish your teenage years, its the best time of your life.
2007-04-30 09:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by soulpipes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts they are always right!!! if you two love eachother the way you say you do waiting won't be a problem..plus getting married is a formality but if you don't marry it doesn't mean or make you love for eachother anyless significant. But i would wait on marraige, remember you haven't had the opportunity yet to go to college, or be single as a young adult it is so much fun to go out and party and do the kinds of things you may miss out on.
follow your gut, think long and hard about it and though your in love now think of the many things that could change later.
2007-04-30 09:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 I thought I was with my future husband. Nearly 7 years later we're no longer together, and I know now he wasn't the best guy for me. Of course at 16 I thought he could do no wrong. I totally understand feeling like you're ready, but if he's the one, then waiting a few more years won't hurt. Don't rush, because marriage should be a one time thing. Live life and enjoy it a little before settling down.
Best of luck.
2007-04-30 09:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, you should definitly take your time. I just want you to know that a relationship when your 16 is nothing like when your older and married. I know you guys love eachother, but you both should wait because when I was 16 I wanted to get married and be with my boyfriend and I look back now and Im thankful I didnt. your way of thinking will be so different in a couple of years. if he loves you and wants to be with you, he'll wait until your done with school and when you actually know what you want in life. you might turn 18 and see all your friends that are single and partying and realize marriage is not what you want right now. you have years and years of life to think of marriage, for now just be 16 and have fun with your friends and stay with your boyfriend if you really love him. I was 16 and had the same thing happen to me, and we would even sit there and talk about how we wanted our house and everything, but we both have moved on and started our families with other people. so think about it.
2007-04-30 09:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by luvleebabygurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow you're head. The little voice is correct and you show signs that you are mature (but not enough to get married yet). You have so much more to experience and it may or may not be with this man. You don't have to make such a permanent decision at such a young age. Give yourself time. You're 22 year-old self will thank you for it.
2007-04-30 09:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sweetie, listen to the voice in your head. It knows better!! Enjoy your youth while you still have it. What you want at 26 will be a lot different that what you want at 16, I promise you. Your thinking, how you feel about things, etc. will change as you get older. Tell your boyfriend no to the marriage proposal.
2007-04-30 09:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is a little young. Do you know what you want to do with your life? Will you be able to do that when you get married. Can you stay engagged until you are really ready and have things going the way you want them for your life. Is college or work in your future? Look at things you want out of life and go from there.
2007-04-30 09:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"the heart feels what the eyes can not see, and knows what the mind can not understand"
u have every right to wonder if you are to young, because you are really young to get married you still have your whole life ahead of you. when you turn 18 your ganna wanna party and when you turn 21 your ganna wanna party more, if you can see yourself sharing those times with you boyfriend, if you can see youself in another 4 years sharing a home with him, and in another 6 years (or how ever long you decide) having kids with that man then i think you should say yes, its hard to find someone whom you truely love, let alone some one who loves u just as much or more, if and when you find that some one never let them go. because its a rare thing to find!
im sure in the end you will decide what is best for you! good luck! :)
2007-04-30 09:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would follow your head, and still listen to your heart. I mean 4 years it is a long time but you still have a lot of growing up to do. And I think you should wait untill after college and if you still want to get married I say GO FOR IT!!!!
2007-04-30 09:20:32 · answer #11 · answered by blue eyed blonde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋