2007-04-30 11:37:14 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sss point taken lol.
2007-04-30 11:48:34 · update #1
we've been married two years, i've always had trouble, but i find it hard to relax even though we've been together 4 years....it's my problem, I don't want him to think he's doing anything wrong. He's been trying really hard lately and it makes me feel even more stressed that I find it hard to c*m during intercourse with him.
I have no problem when I'm by myself.
2007-04-30 11:49:47 · update #2
yes it does
2007-04-30 11:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Certainly, if you let it affect a man's confidence!
If your telling him that he's the reason your not having an orgasm, then he will eventually stop having sex with you and go find someone that loves the way he has sex.
It's your personal problem if you can't have an orgasm. If you want to change that, he can only help.
2007-04-30 11:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably your difficulty is concentrating on your husband and what he's doing instead of concentrating on how you feel/ what you're feeling. Perhaps you feel that he's only trying to please you and not enjoying what he's doing so you feel under pressure to 'perform' or perhaps you just need to be in control of the angle and speed and you're not?
One solution is to have a couple of glasses of wine first, and then you might feel a little more relaxed and able to tell hi, what you want (as long as the wine doesnt become a habit it might help you to 'move things along' if you feel uncomfortable discussing it with him, too).
2007-04-30 22:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and no....
If she orgasms while you're doing it, you feel closer to her.
I wouldn't say her lack of orgasm affects your confidence in yourself as much as your confidence that the woman actually is enjoying the sex.
Nothings worse than going at it, any angle, any length of time, any position -- and all she does is sort of lie there, doesn't even act enthused....
When that happens, you get the feeling you're just using a body.
My theory, if a woman can't orgasm, at least act enthused, get off another way with him, communication and love make up for it.
2007-04-30 11:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by joe b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, could he before you were married? How long have you been married? If you've only been married a short time, then no, but if it continues, then by all means , yes it will . If he could make u scream before you were married, then what changed? Or if he couldnt make you *** before you were married, then what would possibly make you think that he could when you got married? Bottom line everybody is different, some guys are machines in bed, some are well ... sorry ladies total duds. I dont think that you supplied enough info, to properly answer your question.
2007-04-30 11:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by cribmaster_mn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it does. since you know that it's you that is having the problem you may want to talk to your doctor. also there are things at the adult stores that may be able to help you. some women have a harder time than others, so don't let it get you down to the point of no sex at all. you have already taken a big step in admitting that it's you and not him. experiment and keep trying. it will happen and when it does enjoy the hell out of it.
i went through 2 husbands before i finally had one, so it will happen if you keep trying.
2007-04-30 12:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by bmoline 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!!! Nothing makes a man feel like more of a man than not being able to bring his wife to orgasm. It's way up on the scale of confidence boosting attributes like being excessively fat, having small equipment, facial disfigurement, long term unemployment, living with your parents after the age of 25, etc.
2007-04-30 11:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by sss13579sss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really think so. Ultimately there may be other ways he can get confidence back around you, but that's a real downer.
My experience has been that ladies with a BOB (battery operated boyfriend) are less attached to letting a human with his own control system take over. It's either that or your emotions for him are too different for you to consider him a stud muffy.
2007-04-30 11:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like u got performance anxiety....and the longer ure together without him making you orgasm makes it worse for you.
if u dont relax nothing will happen..maybe ure own used to ure own touch and with a mans it isnt enough to bring u to orgasm
2007-04-30 23:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i too have a problem with orgasm and have not had one for a long time...i have not told my partner this because it's not his fault...it's me, maybe i am not relaxed enough....i could never hurt his feelings by telling him that i cant reach it....it would really upset him and he'd get paranoid the next time we made love....
2007-04-30 21:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think so. Men judge themselves by their accomplishments, or lack there of. If the man is your husband, then he wants nothing more than to make his wife happy and satisfied, and know that you need him. This is just one of the important ways he can show you that he can take care of you.
2007-04-30 11:41:48 · answer #11 · answered by CEO_Wife 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋