I had unprotected sex 5 days ago with an ex.bf i am having a fling with(he has a gf) currently i am worried because i am not sure if i was ovulating my last period was april 11th ish.The fling was supposed to have been payback for my bf cheating on me because i wanted to wait to have sex with him(we never had sex now broken up)and on my ex.bf's gf who i suspect he left me for my payback looks like it backfired.If i turn out to be pregnant do i have to tell my ex.bf i dont want the drama?
2007-04-30 10:29:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Catholic so i cant have an abortion and i dont think my ex.bf is parental material.
2007-04-30 10:33:31 · update #1
TELL HIM. He deserves to know hes going to have a child.
2007-04-30 10:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Polkadotgurl636 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you're cheating on your current boyfriend, who is in turn cheating on you, and your ex also cheated previously on you and cheated on his current girlfriend to have sex with you... you already got drama, there's no avoiding it now.
You better hope and pray you're not pregnant, or make sure you're ready to raise this kid on your own, because neither of these relationships is healthy and neither will last long. You need to stop playing games and obsessing about revenge, because you're only hurting yourself.
Star being honest, and start taking responsibility for your actions, and start building some self-respect and good karma. If a boy cheats on you, dump him and don't look back. If you want to have sex with someone who isn't your boyfriend, then break up with your boyfriend first. Don't steal a guy who belongs to someone else.
First, take a pregnancy test as soon as you can and find out if you are pregnant. If so, yes, you should tell your ex, he has the right to know if he's going to become a father (or if you're getting an abortion). Either way, you should tell your boyfriend the truth - don't try and pass this kid off as his.
2007-04-30 10:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you find out you are pregnant before getting all worked up, first of all.
Second, ever hear of a condom? You're putting yourself and everyone in this apparently very sordid triangle at risk - not only for an unwanted pregnancy, but also for STDs. Mmmm... nothing's sexier than herpes, right?
Third, grow up. Using sex as revenge is childish and stupid. Two wrongs do not make a right; you should have enough self respect to LEAVE your cheating boyfriend, not try to get back at him by making a ho out of yourself and causing more trouble all around.
For your sake and the sake of the potential child resulting from this, I hope you're not pregnant, and that this has taught you a lesson.
If for some god-awful reason you are pregnant, yes: you have to tell your ex. Take some responsibility!
2007-04-30 10:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Courtney 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell him, don't go after him for money or any other type of support. You will have to support the child 100% or find a sucker guy and quickly have unprotected sex and tell him you got pregnant and make him pay for everything.
2007-04-30 10:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him, he he the right to know as a parent of this child. Now you both have to pay consequnces. Also, I'm not trying to be mean, but if you are so religious, why sleep around with a taken man?
2007-04-30 10:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is only right that you tell him so that he can make the decision whether or not he wants to be in the child's life. Some guys are stand up guys and want to take care of their responsibilities.
2007-04-30 10:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by benz s55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a bad way of seeking revenge. Two wrongs don't make a right. Don't want drama? Hmmm, looks like you put it upon yourself already. You could've at least used protection.
2007-04-30 10:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you can't have an abortion, give the baby up for adoption...you sound to young and immature to be a parent...you are not ready
2007-04-30 11:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catholic did you read the bible? no sex before marriage "ring a bell". It was immature you don't use sex as a weapon to get even. You don't go making babies out of revenge. Why not a abortion? you already went a stray from the church anyway?
2007-04-30 10:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't want drama, yet you slept with him for "payback"? Drama would be raising a child without a father.
2007-04-30 10:39:57 · answer #11 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋