Marriage & Divorce - 20 April 2007

Not only is there the baggage from the rocky relationship, but there is also my issues over the father not wanting anything to do with the child until she was almost 1 year old. Now that he comes around, how do people move on from the bad feelings? I don't want to waste any more time than I already have on this guy.

I have accepted my part of the responsibility of creating this situation and although I really do not like the father, my child is the best thing to every happen to me. I would appreciate any ideas on how people have moved on with their lives.

2007-04-20 08:46:12 · 14 answers · asked by Kim 3

in writing exactly what she wants me to do as far as remodeling goes in the house. I'll do whatever she wants, but I want a list. That's not too much to ask, right?

2007-04-20 08:44:08 · 15 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

He is feeling bad about be unfaithful, but i know his wife is retaliating and cheating on him..should i get into it and tell him..or just stay out of it~

2007-04-20 08:15:35 · 46 answers · asked by Unique 2

2007-04-20 08:09:00 · 30 answers · asked by ms housewife22 2

slammed his fists down on the table when we argued about him trying to ublock the sink..said it was my falt and i should of used bleach..i am upset because he used to have a drinking problem last year..now i notice the mood swings com again..what should i do?

2007-04-20 08:08:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

And it ends in divorce how often do these type of relationships work out? Do they last?

2007-04-20 07:51:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for over 10 years. During that time I have had many female friends. Sometimes we will go out and have dinner, (maybe twice a month), in most cases there is no touching, and at most a hug.

My Wife has never liked this but tolerated it. Recently I brought her out to dinner with two friends and everyone seemed to have a good time. A few days later there happened to be another event she could not attend with the same two friends but I wanted to go.

In the end it started a fight; we have fought about this a great deal. My question is it wrong to have female friends (Yes, some are single some are not) if you are married, even if nothing is happening other than being friends?

Would most women expect me to give up my friendships?

Before you ask how I would feel if she went out with guys, she does not have any guy friends (or female for that matter) but I would fine with as long as it was a couple of times a month and was strictly friends having dinner.

2007-04-20 07:48:48 · 35 answers · asked by Linus J 2

what is the secret? re: trust, possible infidelity, children, money. how to survive and not be a divorce statistic?

2007-04-20 07:48:42 · 16 answers · asked by A C 1

2007-04-20 07:44:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

after people divorce, why cant people just co habitate with there new partners.. who initiates getting remarried? for what ? are people that insecure.... once you have been doomed once....... why attempt to be doomed twice, etc., etc?

2007-04-20 07:37:28 · 11 answers · asked by greeneyedflavor 2

My daughter has 2 children 12 and 2 years old. Police have been out for domestic violence. She continues to want to try and make it work. What can I do?

2007-04-20 07:33:05 · 67 answers · asked by Dee D 1

2007-04-20 07:26:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok here it is. she calls me stupid and immature. she's the one that failed at marriage-she cheated with the best friend who was also married. she calls me names and continues to contact my family as nothing happened- asking for favors. then she tells me when we get into arguement about the kids that since the actual visitation dates aren't in the arrangement that she'll not let me see my daughters. after that she normally knows i'm pretty mad so she says well your mad b/c you aren't getting it anymore. how do i stop this? i have to have contact with her b/c of the kids. i try to avoid by sending text messages or by meeting in a public place so she doesn't argue. i have tried many different things but it seems as if nothing is working. If i don't answer the phone she blocks her #. she doesn't respond to e-mails since i just try to have some what of a business relationship with her. I need some help here- i'm afraid that this anger b/c of this will roll over to other relationships!

2007-04-20 07:06:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-04-20 06:47:29 · 24 answers · asked by Forest Breeze 2

My husband and I sat down last night and had a heart-to-heart conversation about him not trusting me and me feeling violated everytime that he breaks into my private stuff (ie, cell phone, e-mail, etc). Basically, I told him that I can no longer trust him b/c he violates my privacy and he cant trust me w/o doing that. B/c we are both strong-headed about this, we are at a stand still and I dont know what to do. I love him dearly but I cant keep having my privacy intruded upon like this. During our converstion he brought up the "d" word (Divorce) and I told him that I didnt think that we expended all of our opitions yet (ie, counseling). It's becoming more and more difficult for him to set up an appt for us b/c of his job status (he's Military and on PRP). What should I do in the mean while? I've tried my hardest to be there for him but I also need him to be there for me and all I'm getting is "eh..." What should I do? Is there anything I can do at this point?

2007-04-20 06:41:16 · 11 answers · asked by Chybabi 2

Ihave been married for 28 yrs and have 4 young grand kids my husband works most of the time but wen hes finished he goes streight to the pub .6 days a week.Iam not a bad looking woman for my age as Ihave a few admirers but my husband dosnt seem to care all he wants is the booze should i leave him ?.

2007-04-20 06:39:55 · 34 answers · asked by intreaging_lovelylady 1

My wife gets in a mood and threatens to leave me and then like a day later everything is ok. We are fine. Does she just say that because she knows it hurts? I am a little lost. We have 3 kids together and have been married for 4 years.

2007-04-20 06:37:22 · 20 answers · asked by Some SoCal Dude 2

My husband cheated on me during the first few months we were dating. I happened to be pregnant at the time and decided to try to work things out...I never full recovered but somehow managed. We just had our one year anniversary. We moved to this area a year ago and I have yet to meet any of his friends,(he is military)...He goes out with them on weekends that I convenitly can not attend due to my work. He recently told me that when he was in his home state (I was not present) That he "bumped" into his x girlfriend who he had dated for over 5 years...and he told me they hung out and had a few beers and that I had nothing to worry about. Also...I'v been catching him talking with local girls via the computer...I don't know if anything has gone on with any of the local girls...But I know it's not what a happily married man schould be doing. I guess I just want feed back. I'm scared to be a single mother with two small children...But I don't know what else to do. Any sugustans?

2007-04-20 06:34:49 · 12 answers · asked by Georgia Girl 1

I was dating a guy for a while who is of the same religion as I am, and he would accompany me to my religious meetings, we'd sit together, and everyone assumed that we'd be getting married soon. Well, we broke up very recently, but I still have a lot of people coming up to me asking how he's doing, do I have a ring yet, when is the big day, etc. And a lot of them are older friends, so you cant really talk to them like you would your peer. I'm just wondering what the proper answer would be when they ask those questions. I dont want to lie to them and say everythings fine, but then I dont want to go into all the specifics either (which I know they will want to know if I simply tell them that we're no longer seeing each other.) Anyone else in a similar situation, how did you handle the questions and well meaning inquiries?

2007-04-20 06:26:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-20 06:25:50 · 29 answers · asked by notredamne n 1

We Have Been Married For 22 Years. I Feel That My Husband Has Really Changed Over The Last Year! What Are Some Signs For Me To Divorce Him And Move On? More Details: He Has To Constantly Go Someplace, He Reads The Paper While I Am Talking, Stays Up Late With Are Kids 19 and 20,Does Not Like Paying The Bills Anymore,Makes A Key For The Kids To Our Apartment I Am The Last To Get A Key. I Have Left Several Times!! But He Calls And Tells Me I Belong At Home Not Where I Went To Stay. He Can Really Be Confusing To Me! Is This A Change In His Age Or Are We Heading For A DIVORE ? It Would Not Be A Problem For Me To Be Divorced.

2007-04-20 06:22:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, so my husband and I have this friend. We've always known that we have a crush on each other, but never could do anything of course because I AM MARRIED. We ended up kissing after a night of way to much alcohol...more like making actually, and hugging. No touching, no sex, etc. But we did kiss and now I feel awful and so does he and I don't know if I should tell my husband because I don't want to wreck his friendship with this guy. but I feel so guilty I don't know if I can or should keep it a secret. It just happened 2 days ago. What do I do? Would u want your spouse to tell you or no? Nothing more will come of it, because the friend and i have agreed that we cannot get drunk together anymore, at all. To be honest with you I really like the friend, but know I cannot do that. Anyway, I am a really good girl, NEVER would even think of doing something like this, so I don't label me please. Just tell me what I should do and HOW I should word it if I do tell.

2007-04-20 06:16:00 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 3 jobs, my 1st goes to bills, my 2nd goes to buy the kids stuff, and the 3rd goes to pay for my vacation.

2007-04-20 06:10:07 · 5 answers · asked by francinebars 2

If a married couple(3years) has bought expensive vechicles during their marriage and the husband has insisted that the titles be worded as John Doe or Jane Doe instead of John and Jane? Husbands credit was worthless and had to use wifes credit score to get loan. Does this mean that he can sell vechicles and the wife has no say?Wht else would he insist on wording title with or instead of and?

2007-04-20 05:55:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

He's been unfaithful in our marriage once and i suspect that he is now-even though he says he has crossed no boundaries this time-i love him but he says his love for me it not as strong-but he wont move out and he tries to talk to me as if nothing is wrong-but he never tries to spend time with me, or get closer to me-it seems that he has absolutely no feelings for me and it is hurting me so much-i dont understand how he can throw away all the years we have loved and cared for each other....im an attractive woman..very intelligent with a nice income...ive always been by his side....he acts like he only wants to be friends and nothin more with me- but i saw an email where he told some other chic who is also married that he loves her. What is that about? How should i be handling this right now? Lately ive been avoiding him but i miss him so much. How should i deal with this so that i can be at peace while taking care of my kids....he has changed so much and i dont know what to do

2007-04-20 05:53:07 · 13 answers · asked by girlygirl 2

I have been married 4 yrs not so happily and have a 3 yr old son(possibly not hubbys).Hubby and i got married right out of college and were the perfect couple till hubbys gambling/alchol/partying set in . My hubby cheated on me our first year of marriage and i made the poor choice of having a fling with an ex.bf in retaliation.I got pregnant around this time and we moved to vegas for hubbys job.My son has never had a paternity test done but has the same piercing blue eyes the other man has(hubby and i have bown/hazel) as well as very similar ears/head shape i feel guilt whenever i see my son?Am i crazy could this just be in my head?

2007-04-20 05:50:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

we dont get along at all and we have two childrens together it a four month marriage that will not work

2007-04-20 05:49:10 · 18 answers · asked by chunkitos 1

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now, and he just dropped a bombshell on me.He has just revealed to me that he has a 7 year old son, and I am devastated.You might wonder how it was that he can get away with not telling me about this for 8 months.The boy’s mother lives in another state and has full custody.My boyfriend and the kid’s mother were never married, and he tells me that they only communicate with each other to discuss issues pertaining to their son.Apparently, my boyfriend only sees his son once a year, but for a month long visit during summer.I guess he now feels compelled to tell me because that visit is coming up soon.When we first started dating 8 months ago, it was love at first sight for both of us.I just knew that I had found my soul mate.I can already picture us married and having children together.We’re both 25 years old, and though we’d both dated other people,I’d never figured that he already had akidwithsomebodyelse.Thebiggestissueisdishonesty

2007-04-20 05:44:07 · 24 answers · asked by dede10527 2

I am very straight man but never liked to go downtown on a woman. I was wondering, do you any of you have husbands like me that do not like this or am I rare?

My loves to do it to me and tells me that it is ok if I do not like to reciprocate. I feel bad at times because I never try to be a selfish lover and I am not except for going downtown.

So, do any of you have hubbys like me and if so, does it bother you?

2007-04-20 05:41:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hey everyone thanks for the advise
I see and I feell you all. I know you all want the best for me. I feel the concern. Now its up to me to act. And i feel 60% that this will not work out. Its hard ........real hard for me. Trust me this is not the first time i expressed this concern to him. He also told me that he is absolutely sure that he married the wrong woman(ME). Its real hard. As of now i will just be quiet and watchful. I will make my decision soon. Will let u guys know. Thanks again.I love you all.

2007-04-20 05:40:12 · 3 answers · asked by viddy 2