He is feeling bad about be unfaithful, but i know his wife is retaliating and cheating on him..should i get into it and tell him..or just stay out of it~
2007-04-20 08:15:35 · 46 answers · asked by Unique 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't tell him. Just let him find out for himself. What if he stays with her anyway and the wife knows you told him? I wouldn't really want to be put in that situation.
2007-04-20 08:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If they're assembly a resort, and no longer within the foyer or eating place, and until he is dwelling there then that is fairly all of the evidence you wish to have. There is not any rationale why she will not consider assembly a different guy in a resort room isn't mistaken. You ought to be a person and quit taking crap. Put your foot down. I consider you might have a couple of choices. a million) Your quality wager might be to confront the opposite guy as he typically hasn't notion up of a a thousand excuses to hide his tracks. Just ask him instantly out if he drowsing along with your spouse. two) You would inform his spouse of female friend, if he has one approximately his and your spouse's mystery rendezvous. three) You must confront your spouse. Tell her instantly out that you understand that she is assembly him at a resort and that you do not approve. It will obviously begin a battle, however so be it. You cannot tolerate that form of habits. She could supply a few excuses, however simply be adamant and persist with your weapons. There is not any rationale why she must meet him there. four) Tell your spouse that you simply now not wish to be along with her on account that of her infidelity (sexual or emotional) and on account that she cannot see how assembly a different guy in a resort is mistaken. Be all set to finish your dating over it. Maybe you should not be along with her if she treats you this manner. five) Hire a personal investigator to discover out what she's doing. 6) Call the resort and ask on your spouse and what room she is in. It probably in his identify. Then move as much as her room and confront her. You might ought to have faced her earlier than hand (object #three). 7) Just move out and do the equal, or simply say that you're.
2016-09-05 18:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes most definatly tell him but don't let him know it came from you- do as such- mail a letter to him or create a false e-mail account, he needs to know. just put a little hint there. he should be wise to follow it up. if not may be it's better off. i've been in the same sitiation but i did it as eye for an eye. one night stand type. if this is more than that, yes he should know. the marriage is already done for. the trust is gone. it's hard to get back. at least he can try to start protecting himself from finaical ruin. you are his friend. not her's. do the honest thing and let him make the decision to either follow up with a divorce or seek marriage counseling. since he was in the wrong at first doesn't mean that 2 wrongs make a right.
2007-04-20 08:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a train wreck waiting to happen...... don't be the bearer of that bad news. Why not arrange for him to find out and then you can stay out of it altogether?
He is not without fault, you know. Although I think the 'retaliation cheat' is a bad idea, I know what it's like. Once trust is destroyed it near impossible to regain.
2007-04-20 08:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have photographic proof you risk ruining your friendship by saying anything at all.
What goes around comes around...he cheated and now supposedly she is getting even in the end there won't be a relationship between them but that is their problem.
Only tell if you have hard facts in bold photographic print
2007-04-20 08:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you looking to cause more problems in a marriage that has enough drama? You know if you tell on her it will only make things worse between both of them. I think you should mind your own business and stop adding gasoline to the fire. If you can't do anything to help them My advise stop looking to make trouble and get a life..
2007-04-20 09:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it "what goes around comes around" he is now getting what he deserves...and just like he got caught doing his dirt she will get caught doing hers as well. If you get in the middle of it both (your best friend and his wife) can turn on you.
2007-04-20 08:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by kristin747 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you do tell him his wife will be furious and possibly not want to be your friend anymore. but if you dont say anything your friend will get mad at you for letting him belive everything was ok. i would hate to be in this situation. do you want to loose ur freind or his wife as a freind. id keep it to myself and if your friend ever finds out what shes doing id say i didnt know. i know its lying but y get involved and loose a friend? tak to her and say well how did u feel when you found out he was cheating dont make hiumn feel that
2007-04-20 08:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Stay out of it. Things will be found out eventually. The LAST thing you need is to be in the middle of it. Been there done that. It just doesn't work out that way.
2007-04-20 09:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have cheated on her in the first place,
maybe she needs to get even. Honestly stay out of it and let them do what they need to do.
2007-04-20 08:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋