2007-04-20 08:09:00 · 30 answers · asked by ms housewife22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do you love him? i see you do care about his feelings , when you lay in bed together weather just shareing an intamate moment you need to express how you feel, you can catch more fleas with honey then ****...well something to that effect, if this is the man you want in your life till your end, you have to tell him whats on your mind, alot of people get married because there beautiful, well looks daminish with age, gravity takes its effect, communacation is the key factor in life!
2007-04-20 08:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to be blunt, just like everyone else has said. Men get really frustrated when we beat around the bush and don't just say what we mean. Also check out the book The Five Languages of Love for some additional ideas.
The website has a lot of the information on it if you can't get out to get the book right away...
2007-04-20 09:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a card with your thoughts and feelings in it. A card that is just because. Don't be criticizing or demanding. Also let him know how much you love him.
Try making a date with him, just as you did before you two were married.
Think back to before you were married and remember what your relationship was like then. Try to recapture some of the things you two did before and set it into play.
But never start out with words like you, or don't because these words automatically send up a defense in the other person.
2007-04-20 08:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by grandma of 7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do you want to tell him or not?
Because if you are not blunt, with examples of exactly what you want, you are not really telling him.
So your question looks to me like, "How do I tell my husband I need..., without really telling him or giving him any useful, crucial details he will need."
Or perhaps, "How do I get my husband to read my mind and mood so I don't have to feel guilty that I cannot ask him to take me to dinner three times a month?"
Serious, as a man, I sit here reading this going, why wouldn't she just say, I like it when you tell me I'm beautiful. I feel loved when you give me card. Or, I really appreciate when you listen to my ideas.
Or just come out and say, my love language is: And these are the things that you could do to speak love to me.
Then ask, what can I do to speak love to you.
Stop beating around the bush, if you want something, ask for it directly. Ask him to tell you what he wants.
Then each of you agree to pick one thing from the other persons list and consistently do this one thing for a month.
The next month, you add another thing, and so on....
2007-04-20 08:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! You must carry the guilt by yourself and not make him miserable by wanting to offload it. Does he know the boy is not his or have you lied about that too? There may come a time when the child will want to know his real father - secrets have a way of getting out and you should face the fact that this one may. In the meantime, concentrate on being a loving and caring wife to the husband you say you love and care about.
2016-05-19 22:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell him bluntly then he won't get the point. Men don't take subtle hints. They don't understand them. Don't waste your time. The best thing you can do is sit him down and speak your mind. Make sure you give him some examples of how to accomplish these things. Good Luck
2007-04-20 08:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think men prefer bluntness. They can't read our minds!!
I have found that once you tell them what you want and need in terms that are direct and to the point, they generally do it :)
Keep in mind there is a difference in being blunt and being rude or hateful.
Be blunt in what you say but do it in a loving caring way
2007-04-20 08:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, most men don't get innuendo like that. You need to tell him bluntly but kindly. I know it helps for me when I manage to not cry when I'm talking to my fiance about emotional issues, otherwise he's distracted by the crying.
2007-04-20 08:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by lovebluenfluff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him exactly what you just said. If he is understanding he will find ways to make things better. You of all people have to know the best way to communicate with him (besides his mother and father)
Good Luck
2007-04-20 08:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men respond better to bluntly.
Don't be vague and hope he gets it. That's not fair to him.
Let him know what you need. And not just"I need more love and support".
Be specific with what you would like him to do. It's not being demanding, it's just being clear.
Let him know what actions you think show love and support(men are very action oriented) and praise him when he tries.
Don't be afraid to communicate with your spouse. If you don't your marriage could be in serious trouble.
2007-04-20 08:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋