slammed his fists down on the table when we argued about him trying to ublock the sink..said it was my falt and i should of used bleach..i am upset because he used to have a drinking problem last year..now i notice the mood swings com again..what should i do?
2007-04-20 08:08:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him to stop drinking or get out,it could get worse
2007-04-20 08:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's an alcoholic, honey, and as such, this is what you will get. Alcoholics are already in a relationship, it just isn't with you, it will never be with you... he is not available. It is a personality defect that is not curable, and barely treatable, and only for short periods of time...... And AA doesn't have a very good long term cure rate. Call them yourself... Alcoholism is like any other addiction... gambling, computer porn, drugs, sex, whatever..... What should you do? Run. File for divorce, and get out. You will spend you entire life getting blamed for things that don't even exist.
2007-04-20 08:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a good talk with him when he is sober and lay it all out on the table. it sounds like this has been an ongoing issue and i think now is the time to get things sorted before it gets worse and worse. if he isnt prepared to sit down and discuss this then i would suggest packing a bag and leaving for a few days to give you both some space. you need to show him how serious you are. this cant carry on and isnt fair on you.
2007-04-20 21:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use soda chrystals regularly to keep your sink from blocking.
Don't ask a man to do something when he is drunk.
Most men get drunk as a release so nagging them is definitely a no-no.
When sober see if he can talk about what has triggered his drinking.
And read some of the advise in the rest of the answers.
2007-04-20 08:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him when he is not under the influence and find out if he is drinking more than usual again (try it in a jokey way) so as no to get his back up, it is not right to be with someone who is going to install fear into you and under the influence is even worse because oftern we dont know our limits when we are drunk. If he is willing to get help then that is good, if he doenst recognise that he has a problem then maybe it is time to review your place in his life
good luck
2007-04-20 08:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his drink problem is back again. Try talking to him when he is sober not when he is drunk as he wont listen. He will blame everyone or anything rather than himself. If you dont get anywhere talking, then think about what you want to do next.Maybe he needs an ultimatum.
2007-04-22 05:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack! There is no such thing as used to have a drink problem. You can't cure an alcoholic, only stop them drinking, and once they start again it's a slippery slope.
Get out of this relationship while you can an before you get physically hurt.
2007-04-20 08:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as "used to" when it comes to drinking. Once you have a drinking problem, it's with you for life. You can't turn it on and off. You remain an alcoholic for life. The only thing that changes is whether he is active or dry.
2007-04-20 08:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe AlAnon help families of those with drinking problems, give them a try. My advice is get out before it's you that's getting hit and not the tabletop. Stay safe x
2007-04-20 10:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by babydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know by drinking it causes all sort , mainly it is so dangerous that he can act violent towards you , and is showing aggressive signs which is totally not good, or acceptable behavior , you yourself you know better and not get involved by drinking with him, stop drinking , other wise it will get worse and you don't want that on your self you want your partner to be better of himself not worser.
2007-04-20 08:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about his problem... It sounds like this is turning into a repetative process. Last year to this year? I guess it depends on how bad it is and how often and how much you're willing to put up with. If it makes you miserable and it doesn't seem like you can help him, maybe you should think about leaving.
2007-04-20 08:13:28 · answer #11 · answered by assunta81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋