we dont get along at all and we have two childrens together it a four month marriage that will not work
2007-04-20 05:49:10 · 18 answers · asked by chunkitos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Follow Chos example. kill your family them kill yourself
2007-04-20 05:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Four months and you are just now realizing it won't work? I don't mean to be harsh, but why did you get married to begin with?
First, I would suggest marital counseling. You made a commitment till death do you part.... Did you mean it or was it just some words you said? Marriage isn't a contract that you can just cancel when you want to, although that's what society tells us it is.... It is a binding commitment between two people and not to be taken lightly. So if it is at all salvagable... meaning, your spouse isn't abusive to you or the kids and your spouse is faithful, then I would suggest some good counseling... and for the kids too.
Other options:
You might be able to get an annulment...but you have to check with the local laws in your state.
Your other option is a separation. See if some time apart helps but only while also getting some counseling.
Finally, the dreaded "D" word -- Divorce. It isn't pretty. Think about these things because they go hand in hand with divorce:
Child custody -- who gets the kids
Visitation -- when do the kids spend time with mom and when with dad
Child support -- how much you will pay to support your child financially (both parents are responsible financially)
Alimony -- one spouse may have to pay the other spouse money
Assets -- Your "stuff" . Who gets the TV, who gets the CD collection, who gets the DVD's, who gets the car, house, couch, dog, cat, dishes.... all this stuff will have to be divided between you two
Debts -- depending on your state, you may be responsible for debts incurred by your spouse alone and vise versa. Credit cards, student loans, house mortgage, lines of credit, etc.
Cost of divorce -- getting an attorney is expensive, but if you want to be protected, you should consult an attorney for your divorce. Filing fees, court costs.... all adds up.
Waiting period -- many states have waiting periods before you can become legally divorced. In my state, it is 90 days (3 months) but a divorce, even a simple one can drag on for a year or more!
Think about your children.... What is the best for them?
Good luck to you!
2007-04-20 13:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had two children together then you have been together a lot longer than 4 months. What made you think getting married would "fix" the relationship.
Hire an attorney - that's how you get out - and make sure to have a bit of cash when you go in to hire the attorney as it will cost.
2007-04-20 12:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of what - the responsibility of being married, raising a family, having a home? "the marriage that will not work:" is a cop-out. But if you are willing to work together, see a counselor -if not then by all means hire a lawyer and walk away.
2007-04-20 13:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been married four months. Have you really given it enough time ? The first year is usually the hardest. It requires alot of patience and forgiveness. And you also have two children together. Please, for the benefit of your whole family, give it a fair shake before you throw in the towel.
2007-04-23 20:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant get out, your stuck for life. Marriage aside, you have two kids together. So be misseriable together or apart either way your going to be around each other for the kids! You can get a divorce but your still going to see her. Next time "don't be a fool wrap the tool!"
2007-04-20 12:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage + 2 Kids = no way out.
2007-04-20 17:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to make the strong effort to find assistance to help you understand what your problems are together, and how to get thru this 1st year....which can be the hardest year to overcome. Dont throw away your relationship based on the fact that you have disagreements......but seek the answer to the reason behind your disagreements.
2007-04-20 12:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months. Shades of Richard Burton and Liz Taylor. Why, pray tell did you even marry to begin with?
2007-04-20 12:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's been under a year, you can probably get an annullment rather than a divorce. That way, it will be like it never happened. You should see a lawyer, though. Don't try to do this yourself.
2007-04-20 14:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. Marriage is hard work. If you leave him and get someone else you're going to have the problem
2007-04-20 13:02:27 · answer #11 · answered by Emmit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋