I was dating a guy for a while who is of the same religion as I am, and he would accompany me to my religious meetings, we'd sit together, and everyone assumed that we'd be getting married soon. Well, we broke up very recently, but I still have a lot of people coming up to me asking how he's doing, do I have a ring yet, when is the big day, etc. And a lot of them are older friends, so you cant really talk to them like you would your peer. I'm just wondering what the proper answer would be when they ask those questions. I dont want to lie to them and say everythings fine, but then I dont want to go into all the specifics either (which I know they will want to know if I simply tell them that we're no longer seeing each other.) Anyone else in a similar situation, how did you handle the questions and well meaning inquiries?
2007-04-20 06:26:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Gee...sorry but we aren't seeing one another anymore". "Why?"...well...we found out that we really didn't have as much in common as we had initially believed.
Anyone who presses the issue further should be shut down immediately by saying "I'm sorry but this is a personal issue and I still respect him as well as myself" this is not a topic for further discussion.
Sound harsh? Its meant to be. Anyone who has the brass balls to pry further needs to have this statement tossed out at them as they don't have the class or social graces to know when to shut up and stay out of your affairs.
good luck my dear.
2007-04-20 06:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be gentle but honest. They are showing caring for you but it's okay to tell them that you aren't seeing him any longer. DO NOT go into details. Just be honest and the word will get around soon enough and that will be the end of those questions. Then of course a whole new set will begin ...
2007-04-20 06:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can talk to those older people, they are the wise ones and will give you direction and advice differently then your peers. You can even learn from their mistakes. It is very interesting, I am 36 and my late friend Betty was 73 she was so cool and had so much that I didn't, our conversations were like non others... I miss her much! She used to say that I would rather have friends my own age but truth was I really didn't feel that way!
2007-04-20 06:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them that he is an ok dude but that after dating him for a while you decided that you don't want to bear the seed of his loin so you dumped him so you could find you potential mate through dating others.
2007-04-20 06:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by True Grits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that the two are no longer seeing each other. The sooner you do this the better.
2007-04-20 06:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them, "Why? Why do they want to know for?" Ask them personal questions back.
2007-04-20 07:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them the truth. Things didn't work out but we are still friends is all you have to say
2007-04-20 06:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest and tell them it hasn't worked out between you two. And remember to be nice. One of those old ladies may hook you up with their sweet grandson!!!!
2007-04-20 06:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that unfortunatly you are no longer dating him. If they want details tell them that you prefer not talk about it at the moment.
2007-04-20 06:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Latina4life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them you both decided not to date anymore, and if they ask questions just tell them you would rather not talk about it.
2007-04-20 06:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋