Marriage & Divorce - 4 April 2007

i went to get my kids back he wouldn't give them back to me, He is a jerk. I had a lawyer tell me all i needed was my divorce papers get them certified and that would be my court order. Well she was WRONG!!! We had did a temporary custody paper deal, 6 months to a year. But there was no temporary custody paper, because he never went to file them. He knew what he was doing. Now i am screwed. but i have a jerk for an ex husband. HE JUST DON"T WANT TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT! He has this girlfriend that sticks her nose in our business. For all you people that say go get them, It's not that easy if you have a real jerk for an ex husband. My kids want to come home he want let them!!! I didnt want to take them out of school, thats why i left them there for a year. All my life growing up i moved from school to school.I am not doing that to my kids!! My ex has all ways tried to run my life. I say everything to him. But it doesn't work for him. O and by the way I live in Florida.

2007-04-04 12:56:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-04 12:40:25 · 2 answers · asked by uthinkso 3

Im inlove with a married man and hes inlove with me as well we have met on net and our relationship grew over the past year he is indian and im american, he lives 7 hours from me, The question is its his wifes birthday this weekend and he told me he wanted to come be with me the weekend, as its her birthday on saterday id think he would want and need to be with her but he said he will come be with me. My question is is this love that he has for me, wanting to be with me and not with his own wife on her birthday?

2007-04-04 12:32:50 · 18 answers · asked by Alone s 1

My husband and I broke up almost 6 months ago. I left him with the idea of getting back together if he could JUST acknowledge that he needs to treat me better and not like a subordinate. When I left, i did not go to our friends or family to tell them how horrible he was during our marriage or what he finally did to make me leave. I thought maybe we could work it out and nobody would ever know.

Unfortunately, the FIRST thing he did was go to all our friends and family and tell everyone I left him and he's so hurt and I'm keeping our child from him, etc., etc., etc. Since I left, i have found out numerous things about secrets he's kept during our marriage. He continues to drag my name through the mud. Should I go ahead and expose what I've learned to everyone and stop keeping why I left a secret? Or do I not be vindictive and just stay quiet, knowing the truth will come out on its' own? I have stayed quiet for my childrens' sake.

2007-04-04 12:28:35 · 11 answers · asked by Shannon H 3

http://news.yahoo.com/s/dear_margo/20070329/en_dm/margo_howard20070329;_ylt=As7OdxSwRsxYgG8Z_sG9ZCemG78C


Please read the second article...funny things happen to woman once they start earning a little money...they think the world revolves around them, and the world is waiting at the other end of that cell-phone(for THEM)...

And some woman wonder why men leave them when that head swells up SO much...ego...self-love...self-absorbtion...yet a electric blanket is a poor subsitute for the real deal...maybe one can buy love and happiness? With ALL that money...

2007-04-04 12:24:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Let me start by saying that I was 24 the first time I got married to what I would say if the best man God could have created for me. He was loving,kind,gentle and a great family man and father. He died July 1994 needless to say I was crushed, so I focused my life around raising my children and going to church. I finally got up the nerve to date again and it wasn't horrible because no one could compare to the wonderful husband I had so I basically gave up. Well my best friend introduced me to the equivilent of my husband -just a great person and loving man....we got married 12-2-06 and I love him more than life itself....the problem is he is in the MILITARY and is going off to Iraq in 7/07 at least for 12 months.....I am trying not to think about it but it is driving me crazy. I don't know what to do, so I treat each day like its the last. I really love this man and I am praying that God protects him and send him back to me, I don't think I could survive another death.
Help!!

2007-04-04 12:24:19 · 29 answers · asked by Pegi 3

My cousin is getting a divorce from her husband. she had the papers served to him but she says that she has to wait until the divorce is final before she can make him move out.
I never heard of this before, is this really true?
They argue alot and he's being really disrespectful to her (leavin the house a mess, eating up all the food ect.)
i was wondering was there any way that she can get papers to get him kicked out the house?
This was her house before they married.

2007-04-04 12:24:03 · 6 answers · asked by Diamond Princess 313rd 2

I hate my inlaws but have been trying for a year to get along with them my pity and disgust against his mom is affecting the way that I feel about my husband WHat do I do now!!!??? Help Please

2007-04-04 12:18:32 · 10 answers · asked by Nautia75 2

i hve my doubts, its been 3 years and were still engged. we are total opposites to put it mildly and i see problems in the future with when our personalities clash.when will i know its time to marry him? and how did you put aside your doubts and marry your mhusband?

2007-04-04 12:06:57 · 15 answers · asked by Barbie 1

2007-04-04 12:04:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think she had an affair. Iam not sure. however she walked out over a weekend leaving me with the kids. I changed the locks. She came back all seamed fine for to weeks, then she told me she loves me but is not in love with me. We talked and she the moved in with her girlfreind to get come couselling but she has done that yet 2 weeks later. Do i move on all give her another go ???

2007-04-04 11:54:30 · 23 answers · asked by oscarjohnemail 1

I have been married 9 years and have 2 kids. Things were great the first 5 years but after we bought a house my wife had to live under a tighter budget. She spent thousands and thousands on credit cards that I didn't know about. By the time I found out we had to declare bankruptcy.At the same time she had her loser mother move in with us because she was homeless and welched off of everyone else in the family. That really changed my wife. She began to turn into her mother. Sleeping all day, not doing any house work while I worked 10-12 hour days. I feel like she has become a totally different person and it's getting worse not better. I feel like no matter how bad it gets the children would be better off with both parents. We rarely fight in front of them, we are not screamers/dish breakers. I can't believe they would be happier with Mom living somewhere else.

2007-04-04 11:31:22 · 18 answers · asked by jackbarrack 1

I left my husband a week ago. Our marriage is nothing but lies. I don't trust him or believe a word that comes out of his mouth. His anger is becomming very violent. He wants me to come home. He says he loves me and will change. I beleive he has been involved with other women. He is never really there for me. Can he change or should I go on with my life? Can I trust him again?

2007-04-04 11:25:52 · 27 answers · asked by runssome 1

My sister-n-law and I were talking about mine and my husbands financial problems and my proposed solution to them, which is that he deposits his paycheck into my account from now on and I give him a cash allowance. She commented that I needed to make sure that he gave me his check stub. She then said, "Trust me, get the check stub. I can't say anything else, because I don't want to cause any problems between me and your brother, but Mike hasn't been completely honest with you about the whole money issue. In fact, his story to you has not been what he has told your brother." Apparently, there has been some issues going on with my husband and his paychecks, like him saying it was this amount and it was really more, but he just kept the x-tra, or him claiming that his job is screwing him on hours, something he never told me anything about. If I say anything to him about his dishonesty, he will know where I get the info. Should I still confront him and see what he admits?

2007-04-04 11:15:01 · 18 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

i mean men are from mars, women are from venus, blah blah blah... but despite all these differences, can two people(who are married to eachother..:) ) live under the same roof year after year and not hate eachother completely ? can love be such a powerful thing ? if it is, is love alone enough ?

2007-04-04 11:13:28 · 22 answers · asked by Sweety 2

I have been dating this guy for a yr and 1/2 of it was great but the other 1/2 has been shakey. he has been divorced 3yrs and at first he used to tell me he loved me and we were going to live together and all this happy stuff now his x-wife calls him when she nows he has money and brings the kids around and then he dogs me. After she has spent most of his money he comes around talking about how fed up with all of the games from her and it is not what I think. He doesnt tell me he loves me anymore either. He tells me that we will always be close and have this special bond one minute and she calls again and it is back to I am bugging himshe wont take him to the doctor or do something as simple as buy him a pack of cigs but here I am the one who goes all out and he does things for me to make me think he means it but then will tell me we need a break what should I think at this point I am tired of the roller coaster.But I luv him I even got a divorce thinking we were really getting 2gether

2007-04-04 11:09:23 · 2 answers · asked by kayaboo2263 1

ok so my husband is a certified mechanic for a huge car dealership, we have been for 7yrs, and have 2 kids and one on the way. He is so in love with his money, he saves it and refuses to spend it! I work as a teachers assistant and I only make like 800 a month, I keep the job because of my benefits! I have to pay my car payment of 300 month and I have to pay for my insurance and I pay for groceries, babysitter, and all medical bills go through me! I once asked him to help me pay for the kids shoes and he refused said that he didnt have the money! He makes about $1800 every 2 weeks! Our home is paid for, and he is just so selfish! We have separate accounts! I just feel we should be mutual especially when it comes to the kids expenses! He just expects me to pay for everything and yea I always end up doing it because they need stuff! is this normal? Am I overreacting? Should I leave him? Because I truly cant stand his actions they speak very ill of him!

2007-04-04 10:57:19 · 20 answers · asked by Naomi 2

One was that she diverted our funds into her own private account. I have joint custody and made out good financially. It has been brought to my attention just now that she may of been having an affair while we were married. All of my counselors tell me to let go of the anger and dissappointment especially for the kid's sake. I am working on it but they make it sound so easy. Is it really that easy?

2007-04-04 10:50:31 · 12 answers · asked by paco 1

I am 25 years old. My fiance is 25. we have been together since we were 12. We are getting married in 8 weeks. I love her but I dont think I am in love with her anymore. I know its probably cold feet and I know other people have felt like I do now, but I cant help but feel that there are other things out there. Its not that I am afraid of commitment, I just feel like if I get married I will never know if life could be different. I think about what it would be like if I was with someone else all the time. The worst thing about this that is bothering me is that she is a great catch. She is pretty, educated, has a good job, and I know she loves me like crazy. and I feel the same way about her but I dont feel the passion like I used too. and I now that you wont always feel the passion but everyday I feel guilty of how Im feeling. The wedding is all paid off. Everything is set in stone. and I dont know what the hell to do. To top it off I dont even know how I would break it to her. HELP!!

2007-04-04 10:49:54 · 15 answers · asked by SoCalGuy 1

My husband and I have recently divorced. In our shared parenting agreement it states that he get visitation of our 2year old son every other Saturday/Sunday and the holidays are divided, he gets our son on odd numbered years for Easter, Christmas, etc.. Anyway, we are having Easter at my sisters this year and it's a big production with family coming in from out of town. My husband has absolutely no family in the area and in fact doesn't even celebrate Easter. My point is he won't give up his Easter visitation, even though I offered him two extra days in return so that I can take our son to Easter dinner with my family, some of which only get to see my son two or three time a year. I don't understand what is wrong with him that he can't be reasonable and just visit on Saturday instead. Help!!

2007-04-04 10:46:10 · 16 answers · asked by Don't shop, adopt! 3

My boyfriend is absolutely georgous, he has a HOT body (seriously). and he has girls over 20 hitting on him, ALL the time!!
And he doesn't want me to get jealous, over one of his ex g/f's.. that wants to be w/ him, and is calling him, hanging all over him. (he said; i like her, but i like u more.. obviously cuz i'm with u.)
It's making me really mad!!
But he told me that he would never break up with me, unless i cheated.
Don't u think i have my rights to be upset? (he doesn't)

2007-04-04 10:42:36 · 8 answers · asked by Britt 3

My husband and I broke up October 12. He was not (to my knowledge) cheating on me at that time. I left him because he was extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. I left with the intention of getting back with him if he could just acknowledge he doesn't treat me well. Instead, he was cheating a month after our separation. We are going on to the 6th month now and I believe there have been at least 3 women, but he's still smoozing me because I am pregnant with our 2nd child and he thinks if we're not on good terms, I won't allow him to be part of our children's lives.

1. Is it cheating - 1 month after our separation while still in negotiations to get back together?

2. How long do I try to work things out, knowing he's cheating. Pregnant or not, the guy is not trying to acknowledge fault in anything...I need him to treat me like a person! Do you think he'll actually change or is it better for my children to walk away and never look back?

Opinions?

2007-04-04 10:39:03 · 17 answers · asked by Shannon H 3

I broke something of his that can be.
He gets like this from time to time.
He talks like these things are my fault and comes up with excuses.
I am afraid of what will happen when he comes in, either he will be saying he wants a divorce, he'll leave and act like I'm the bad guy, or he will get even madder.
When it all blows over he will blame me and then talk like he was not the one who was mad to begin with.
I am afraid that if he leaves, I will not have a place to stay and be on the streets (he told me he won't leave me and he loves me days after going ballistic and talking divcorce when I gave him an ultimatum).
I have physical problems and am very financially dependaent and isolated and don't have anywhere to go; he has a place to go with lots of women to comfort him when he has problems with his mean bad wife who makes him abuse her (me). He also still has relatives and supportive parents (but won't go b/c that's "defeat"--I thought this was supposed to be love not a war).

2007-04-04 10:36:24 · 16 answers · asked by Desyra 2

should i even think about taking care of his dog ? i feel sorry for the dog but not him, but i have 2 boys by him , what should i do ?

2007-04-04 10:34:13 · 29 answers · asked by dawn p 4

My wife of 9 years tells me that she does not love me, and she has gotten involved with her friends husband and now they too are separating and divorcing. She kissed him and talks to him every day. Even while we were on vacation in mexico. What I am concerned about is that that prior to us meeting she was married and cheated on her husband to get out of an abusive marriage, ours is not in any way abusive. I have given her the world and three lovely daughters. I realize that it is over, but she will not move out nor will she stop talking to/seeing the guy while under our roof. She will make no attemts to restore any faith in herself in my eyes, everyday she disrespects me more, I cannot leave as I am fearfull of the legal ramifications. She has no viable plan for the future nor does she want any more help from me. I do not doubt her ablitites as a mother but her actions speak to unstability and I am fearful that my daughters welfare will be sacrificed at some point. Help!

2007-04-04 10:28:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiance always saying im to slow but still he wants to be with me i ask him why he says because he told me would stay with me

2007-04-04 10:23:09 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend has been together with his wife for 15 years and the entire time his wife has been overweight. He has asked her to try and lose weight for the last 14 years and she says YES I WILL TRY but Never sticks to it and HE SUPPORTS HER IN ALL WAYS .He tells her lets go for a walk babe And he even got both him and his wife fitness memberships but she never sticks to it. What can he do He mentally going crazy. He wants a baby and so does his wife but if she doesnt lose weight that is not possible.

2007-04-04 10:22:25 · 11 answers · asked by Scott B 2

Let me preface this by saying that I love my wife with all my heart. She is a good woman and I am NOT leaving her. I love her too much to let something like sex tear us apart. Sex means a lot to me (I'm a man) but not enough to leave my wife over. Now...I'm 29 and my wife is 30. I have the sex drive of a typical male (all the time) and she has absolutely none. The funny thing is it was like this from the start. She just doesn't seem to want to have sex, ever. If we never had sex, she's be perfectly fine. I feel like the only reason she has sex with me for two reasons: 1) because she HAS to 2) to make sure I'm still attracted to her. It's like a chore for her because when we're finished, she gets right up and goes straight into the bathroom and cleans up. Another thing is that I am ALWAYS the aggressor. My wife absolutely positively NEVER initiates the sex. I've tried everything...romance...forepla... the whole nine. She enjoys it but getting her to do it is like pulling teeth.

2007-04-04 10:22:03 · 14 answers · asked by Allen W 1

I don't even know where to begin. I think it would be fantastic to have my new husband adopt and no longer have to deal with an ex that can't even keep a job and insurance. He hasn't seen his son since Christmas and before that it was about 8 months. He was also abusive to me and is now abusive to his new wife and step kids. I know I should get a lawyer to draw up the papers but then what? Anyone else dealt with this before?

2007-04-04 10:17:19 · 6 answers · asked by Kat S 2

I am wanting a divorce and i have a daughter with him. I want to know if there are any free forms or formats that i can go by so that when i file it will go through. No fault for Nebraska.

2007-04-04 10:12:43 · 4 answers · asked by smileychic_2002 1