i mean men are from mars, women are from venus, blah blah blah... but despite all these differences, can two people(who are married to eachother..:) ) live under the same roof year after year and not hate eachother completely ? can love be such a powerful thing ? if it is, is love alone enough ?
2007-04-04 11:13:28 · 22 answers · asked by Sweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes three to make a marriage work: husband, wife, and God.
2007-04-04 11:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Girl of the Forest 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Love is not enough, but it helps a whole lot bec. it helps keep you going when you do not like that other person very much. Bliss only exists when you first meet someone and there is the excitement of not really knowing what happens next, what you will find out,etc. Marital happiness is very possible-you must marry someone you genuinely like as well as love. Someone you would choose to spend time with even if you could not have sex with them. And then both of you have to make a commitment to communicate openly in a non-hurting manner. Get therapy as refresher course if needed. It can be wonderful and the best relationship ever.
2007-04-04 18:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by selkhet62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't enough, but it's a great start. My husband and I
were absolutely nuts about each other, we always treated
each other with honesty and respect. He was my rock.
We weren't exactly kids when we met, ( I was 33, he was 35)
and we felt so blessed to have found each other. Neither one
of us had been married before and we knew we wanted it
to be a lifetime thing. He could make me light up like a
Christmas tree just by walking into the room. We just thought
each other was the greatest thing, you know? Then after
10 years together, (7 married), God decided that was
enough happiness for this lifetime, and took the greatest
man I have ever known off this earth. No warning, no nothing.
He was in the prime of his life, age 45. The past 2 years have
been the darkest years of my life. It's like everything in my
life is in black and white now, not color. If you're in love,
CELEBRATE IT and NURTURE IT. It's the greatest gift there
is.
2007-04-04 18:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, it exists and it's beyond wonderful. But to keep it going takes work on the part of both, very open communications, rigorous honesty, and in my opinion, God. People change over time, so the bliss changes too. I think the key is to take steps to make sure you grow TOGETHER instead of apart. I haven't been too successful so far though, so I suppose I really do not qualify to give advice.
2007-04-04 18:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, marital bliss does exist, my parents have been together 20 years and they are madly in love. Of course, that doesn't mean they don't have arguements. But no, love alone is not enough, I believe that God has to be involved in the relationship too.
2007-04-04 18:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by cherybery07 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible to be married to someone for a long time, and still enjoy each other's company. Is "love alone" enough? Well, it depends on how you define "love". If by love you mean passion/infatuation, then no, it will not be enough to last a lifetime. But if you define it broadly enough to include compatibility, respect, sensitivity to each other's needs, patience, loyalty, committment - then love alone might just be enough to sustain a great relationship.
2007-04-04 18:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love alone is never enough. I have known plenty of couples who love eachother but due to many things, i.e, not enough money to move in, no job, no car, family differences, they can not be happy and if that is the case it will not work out.
2007-04-04 18:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one is not meant for each other and everyone argues. It is possible, however; to have a relationship with someone together under one roof without hating them. I still love my husband, but I don't always like him. There is a difference.
2007-04-04 18:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel that way now, but it took many hard and difficult years. My wife had an affair a decade ago, and sometimes I think maybe I couldn't have gotten to where I am now if it hadn't occurred. It comes from enjoying the simple things...stability, peace, contentment...things you don't always value when you are younger and want so many things. But, when everything goes bad, its the one thing you always want back again.
2007-04-04 18:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It can be sweeter than ever with each new day. It can make you feel like the world is yours and last for decades. It can happen and it is happening. Every year means even more. Sometimes I think I must be dead and in heaven. He says and acts like he feels the same way and we are in our own world or together within the same trance. Take my word for it. It happens. How and why? I don't even care.
2007-04-04 18:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many mixed questions, but marital bills yes, love alone enough...no
I am very blissfully married, but we BOTH work at it, and we both earn good money and have a very good life (Praise God), so I would say if we were piss poor, and he was on drugs, not we would NOT be happy, and no amount of "love" would compensate for that.
2007-04-04 18:20:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋