I hate my inlaws but have been trying for a year to get along with them my pity and disgust against his mom is affecting the way that I feel about my husband WHat do I do now!!!??? Help Please
2007-04-04 12:18:32 · 10 answers · asked by Nautia75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WOW in - laws. For starters dont get to concerned about whether they like you are not. Some people are just like that. Stay away from them as much as possible. If they do something wrong just kindly tell your husband that it hurts your feelings and could he possibly tell them to stop being so freaking hard on you. :)
As taking it out on your husband.. geesh can i understand that lol... like i sometimes take it out on my hubby because his son (hes older than me) is a complete arrogant jerk.. so i guess we take it out on the partner bc we are really looking for them to do something about this frustration and anger we are feeling towards their family..... BUT we both :) need to say to ourselfs that I am not going to go around, I am going to have a life outside his family and if they dont like you or are not nice to you then... thats THEIR problem.
Let them be miserable.... talk to your husband.
2007-04-04 12:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by RAIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! Mother-in-laws are tough... but we all have them.
Depending on the situation, you just need to play nice and keep smiling through it. Remember always that you love your husband very much and try to avoid your inlaws if possible. Just remember that you will out live his mother. Also you must remember that his mother was the first and most important woman in his life...
If he is treating his mother like she is more important than you is a different story. You and your kids are his family, his parents and siblings are still his family too, but you should be the primary importance.
My husband and I had a long talk about this after he spent our whole reception with his mother and then gave her our honey-moon money....
2007-04-04 12:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I know how u feel the best way is to keep your distance whenever u can and when u can't make the best of a bad situation, like be kind and considerate and never try to fit in because that makes u an easy target. Always be pleasant and be yourself if they push your buttons let them know and maybe they will like you more because they will see that you will not tolerate no mess and you will not allow them to destroy your marriage. If you can move if they live near u then do that. LOL!!!!!!!!
2007-04-04 12:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-10 23:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree about in-laws, but you can change yourself and not them. He loves his family and you, so both have to find some medium to get along. If you have to stay away from her or what do it. If you value your marriage you will change about this. You don't have to like her, just don't discuss her with him. One thing people don't like is talking about the ones they love, they can but they don't want someone else doing it. I use to shower my ex mil with kindness, let me tell you it made her sick because she knew what I was doing. When I would do that it also made me feel good because I had gotten one on her for once and wasn't anything she could say to her son about how I had treated her. If you love your husband, don't let her win.
2007-04-04 12:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem for years with my in-laws until I just was not around when they came to visit my husband. The only time they see me now is weddings, funerals, and Christmas. They are usually glad to see me then, in that polite civil sort of way, and I am not around them enough for their ignorance to piss me off. Because of me, I was the high income earner in my marriage, we live way better than any of the rest of them. They hated me early on because I would not share the wealth of my hard work - he is one child of 14!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't do it!
2007-04-04 12:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never allow my parents or my husbands parents to interfere in our relationship we are not married to parents we are married to each other so parents and in laws need to stay out of our marriage or any problems we may have and they would not be involved if you didn't or your husband didn't allow them to.
2007-04-04 12:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my m.i.l gave my husbands x our xdirectory phone number so i called to tell her that we were changing our number and we wouldnt be passing it onto her then i put the phone down .....peace and quiet ...bliss... you may think this is drastic but she has caused problems in past with her interfering and im not married to her im married to her son so im not obliged to deal with her crap and this was the last straw what to do??thats up to you depends how much you are willing to put up with in laws from hell are no joke but draw a line somewhere for your own sake good luck
2007-04-04 13:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept that you cannot change them and they are who and what they are; they are not your husband.........
Just ignore them....smile at them, nod at them......take lots of deep breaths....minimize the time you are around them.....
2007-04-04 12:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hating his mom is not going to help your marriage. You might as well gt a divorce, if you are that nasty, he will leave you eventually.
2007-04-04 12:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋