My friend has been together with his wife for 15 years and the entire time his wife has been overweight. He has asked her to try and lose weight for the last 14 years and she says YES I WILL TRY but Never sticks to it and HE SUPPORTS HER IN ALL WAYS .He tells her lets go for a walk babe And he even got both him and his wife fitness memberships but she never sticks to it. What can he do He mentally going crazy. He wants a baby and so does his wife but if she doesnt lose weight that is not possible.
2007-04-04 10:22:25 · 11 answers · asked by Scott B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was reading a lot of your responses, and having a baby and being over weight could be a difficult pregnancy. I'm sure it's possible, but there maybe health risks that follow. Also when you have a child shouldn't you show them how to live healthy?
I also understand that the physical attraction to make that baby will be hard to come by also. I'm sure he loves her, however if this woman is living such an unhealthy lifestyle that can be quite unattractive.
I also think that he does show her that he loves her by trying to support her and do active things with her. That right there is true love. He doesn't put her down, he tries to make her active with him.
I think that he should tell his wife that he needs serious changes asap, if she doesn't want to make those changes and if this man feels very strongly about this issue, let her know that he will be leaving.
2007-04-04 10:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lenka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should take her to a doctor to see if there is a health reason why she cannot loose weight. She may have a colon that is too long. He should get her to eat yogurt, oatmeal, fruits and vegetables every day. He should learn to cook low fat, low sodium, low carb, low calorie, high protein meals for her. She should stay away from breads, pastas, rice and potatoes. He should remove sugar, candy, sodas, and gatorades, and other unhealthy foods from the house and not let any of that travel back through those front doors. Help her limit her caloric intake to about 1200 calories on days when she won't exercise, and about 1600 on days when she will exercise. She has to burn more calories than she is eating in order to loose weight. No snacking in front of the tv or in bed after dinner. Buy a treadmill and put it in front of the tv. Get her to agree to 30 minutes of exercise per day and do the exercises with her. If she was overweight when he married her then he should accept her the way she is. If she gained the weight after they got married, then she should at least try, especially if the weight is prohibiting her from getting pregnant or will make her have an unhealthy pregancy.
2007-04-04 10:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is having a baby impossible if she is overweight? Overweight women have babies. But to answer the question your friend can't do anything to encourage her to lose weight. It is something that a person needs to want on their own. The best thing he can do is let her know he loves her and accepts her the way she is. If she starts to feel confident with herself the way she is she may then decide on her own that she is worthy something and then decide to lose weight. What you call support can be construed as pushy and condemning. It more than likely perpetuates her self loathing.
2007-04-04 10:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by shellybellycocoapuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why she can't have a baby if she's overweight. In order for the wife to stick to losing weight, she has to want to do it for herself. He can't make her.
2007-04-04 10:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he's in a tough situation and unfortunately it can also be a health issue to her. If she's not willing to do anything about, he really can't either. It's too bad that she won't stick to anything or make promises she can't keep (I guess). If iwas him, I;d sit down with her and have a serious discussion about it. It's causing them not to move on in their marriage and grow as a couple if she's hindering those steps. But there's only so much one can do....
2007-04-04 10:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does her being overweight have to do with them getting pregnant and having a baby? i know a couple of women that have gotten pregnant and has gave birth to a health baby that could have easily been classified a clinically obesed at the time of conception. maybe she is not motivated to do it because she feels like he is trying to contoll her.
2007-04-04 10:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stop talking to other people about her weight, that is disrespectful, and is not helping anything. He should be looking for resources instead of gossiping and whining about it. Over eater's Anonymous is a good start, FYI (oops, I mean tell your "friend")
2007-04-04 10:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you tell your friend to take hs wife to the gym and help her start a fun diet that she can enjoy and soon her an her husband will be able to have kids!!!! that will help her loose weight for sure amke sure she sticks to it!!!!!!!! jsut supporting her is not enough!!!!!!
2007-04-04 10:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by alex t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs ot be straitforward wit hehr and put his foot down, obviously encouragment doesnt work. he is hte man in the house he needs to tell her she needs t oget on a diet and a fitness program or he is going to consider leaving, if he wants a baby with her its for the both of themn and not just her. she needs to be supportie of him and take care of herself.
2007-04-04 10:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why is it impossible to have a baby if she's overweight? I don't think it should matter, he should love her how she is.
2007-04-04 10:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋