I say dont do it. You'll just end up getting a divorce if your personalities clash alot.
2007-04-04 12:10:12
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answered by Anonymous
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To be honest, I didn't have any doubts. After knowing him for 3 months, I decided he was the one for me, and my feelings haven't changed in the 2+ years we've been together (married for 6 months). If you can't come to terms with the negatives in your relationship - it will NEVER be the right time. You just have to make peace with whatever differences you have, otherwise you'll be wasting years of your life on a dead-end relationship as you keep waiting on things to magically change. After three years, you should have a pretty good idea of what your life will be like if you marry this person; if you don't like what you see - cut your losses and get out; things are unlikely to suddenly get better. I'm venturing a guess that you don't have a lot of relationship experience; once you have had several relationships "under your belt", it gives you more confidence in making your decisions and trusting your "gut feeling". If it doesn't "feel" right - honey, it probably isn't.
2007-04-04 19:22:38
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answered by Anonymous
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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I know what you're going through, kinda. We are so in love and happy with certain things and with other things, I don't know about us sometimes. But the love out weighs the bad. We're not engaged yet because I'm not ready to get married. I want us to be financially stable and ready for anything that might come. We love together, but are only renting. I tell him that when we can afford to buy a house and have enough money that when problems come up we won't cry all night about how we can't afford it, then we'll be ready to get married. Having children is a different story with similar guidelines.
2007-04-04 19:24:17
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answered by Jess 2
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Don't do it, at least not yet. I had a 5 years boyfriend/girlfriend relationship because i was not sure, got married and divorced after 12 years.
If there are doubts, wait a little.
I think now, looking through the eyes of experience that you should get married IF you couldn't bear being apart from him, if waking up without him by your side seems impossible and you KNOW that any issue that might come up WILL be talked about extensively and properly resolved,
2007-04-04 19:22:11
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answered by AMBER D 6
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Sorry but no one can answer that for you. My husband & I both knew almost immediately. After less then four months together we got married it's been 16 years. If you have doubts then you need to look at the whole situation & really think about what you want out of life first - marriage is a huge step. Good Luck!
2007-04-04 19:23:45
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answered by Anonymous
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If you have been dating for three years, you should know of any potential problems by now. Unless you have had your head in the sand, he has shown you everything you will see while married.
If you have doubts you need to figure out if they are real or not. Maybe you are not right for each other, or maybe you are not ready. However it could just be cold feet too.
You are better off saving him from himself and tell him you don't want to get married. Marriage is for women not for men, it will only be a jail sentence for him.
2007-04-04 19:12:13
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answered by Just a friend. 6
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opposites attract....having different personalities isnt always a bad thing. if u truly love one another, think of it this way: your individual personalities complete one another. if that is so, i think that is sweet and should be acknowledged with anticipation of things to come for the two of you.
there is nothing wrong with long engagements. howver, if u are having doubts, u should sit and talk out whatever it is that is bothering u.....talk it out with your fiancee.....together, you will reach a fitting solution. don't call it quits just because u think u r too different....whatever u do, make sure that u r doing what is best for you and the relationship as a whole.
2007-04-04 19:30:43
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answered by cheaptrick_flame 1
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No one can tell you when to marry it is something you yourself have to know deep within your own heart . If you feel you should not marry him then you should not marry him. If you feel deep down inside that you both are ready and your love is strong enough to have a beautiful marriage together then decide if it is time only you can decide but without unity nothing last long and that is a fact.
2007-04-04 19:16:12
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answered by crystal_clear_0000 3
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I have been engaged twice before I met my husband! haha I'm the cold feet queen.
I ended up living with my man before we got married to see how things would go. We got a contract for 6months and had a "trail run" basically.
If you ever decide to live with a man be sure to use birth control or things will move quicker than you might want!!
2007-04-04 19:11:13
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answered by Anonymous
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When you stop having doubts. Imperfections are in every relationship. Stop focusing on the negative and see if that doesn't help a little with the doubts.
Good Luck!
2007-04-04 19:24:21
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answered by a j 2
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