Marriage & Divorce - 25 November 2006

I can see my daughter for three to six hours each wk and Im allowed to speak to her every night yet my wife won't allow me to have my daughter over night, yet Im a good father and my daughter who's nearly four wants to see her dad but my x will only give me this small amount of time with her and payes for a baby sitter when she goes out or her family has my daughter does anyone know how the courts would judge me Im not Voilent nor abuse I want to show to my daughter that I love her yet my wife would stop me from seeing her if I didnt do as she request ? please give me your honest points of view

2006-11-25 05:14:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

The majority of divorces are caused due to infedelity mainly because of the husband. One's ithe divorce is finalized, the Ex-Wife always seems to get the better end with the alimony, child support, custody, and assets. It bother's me that She still gets the better end when she's the Cheater. Even worst, since the great and wonderful Ex-Husband has moved on with a better woman and re-marries, the Ex-Wife can't accept it and is filled with anger, envy, and jealousy that the only way of getting his attention is by utilizing the children by keeping them away from their father and accusing him of the unimaginable because California will for ever believe a woman's word over a man. I'm tired of these women labeling themselves as "victims" and forgetting the only people that really matter are the children. They are so busy trying to ruin the Ex-Husband's new marriage and father's rights that they forget how much they're hurting their kids by bad mouthing their father in every aspect....

2006-11-25 05:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by Jackeline P 1

are in a relationship or not??? some men get jealous of a woman's successes and tries to bully her...in that case...i would get a divorce....(because he is not GOING TO CHANGE)...he will just wear you down...what is your take on that????(hypothetically, you were not aware of that when you married him...because YOUR SUCCESS CAME LATER).....

2006-11-25 05:06:38 · 11 answers · asked by sweet 4

What reasons would you have to go ahead and get married, then? I know sex without love is possible, but I don't believe love without sex (in a male-female romantic situation) is worth it.

2006-11-25 05:06:12 · 9 answers · asked by charleston chew 2

2006-11-25 04:59:07 · 52 answers · asked by shaam 1

Do you think it's fair to either party to stay married? Isn't the marriage kind of a lie then?

2006-11-25 04:58:34 · 19 answers · asked by charleston chew 2

Yes, we have struggled since we have been married. I know he took on a lot. I do not make a lot of money, but I am a good wife. I take care of the house and love my family. They hate me so badly, that we lost our daughter when I was 6 months pregnant and did not receive one phone call or card. I also emailed Thanksgiving cards and they deleted them before they read them. I have sent emails and letters to try to have a relationship with them. I never received one phone call or response. It was like it never happened. My husbands parents have helped us during some difficult times, but it is not like I am sitting on my butt all day eating bon bon's. My heart hurts so bad. My husband and I have a wonderful marriage and my girls love him. We have been together for 5 years. But, I can not stand to see him so isolated from his family. They won't respond to him either. There is nothing worse then being completely ignored. Has anyone else had a similar situation? What should I do

2006-11-25 04:44:13 · 11 answers · asked by Julia 2

you know,its really sad that in our day and age people cant seem to communicate and resolve theyre problems anymore.instead its (let me see what else is better out there)yeah I'm in love with a woman I married 14yrs ago.and she decides to leave me for a younger man who knows shes married and we have a 13 yr old daughter and 7 year old son.we are in our early 30's.we married young but why am I in love with her like day 1 but shes not.people talk about did you give her attention?I've givin her my life all that I am while she was home drinking and on the internet thats where she met that person.it sucks when you dont know where things went wrong because your spouse gets defensive when you do try and talk to her.why would she leave someone whos been faithful to her all his life for someone she barely knows?

2006-11-25 04:42:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seven years ago I met a man who protrayed himself as being very passive and easy going. We had both been married before, I have 2 kids ages 28 and 24. He has one age 12. We have had constant difficulties with the 12 year old she reciently had to go live with her mother because she was expelled from the school system where we live. She constantly lies, steals, refuses to help with chores, breaks curfew, mouths off to everyone, the list goes on and on....My husband refuses to dicipline her or allow me too and if he does as soon as I leave the house he lets her do what ever she wants. He now refuses to let my kids visit and if I let them come he doesn't talk to me for weeks. The hardest part is my granddaughter she's 4, when she's here she can't do anything he constantly diciplines her. He says someone has to do it I spoil her and he say's my daughter is lazy and doesn't bother. Granted my kids aren't perfect but they don't deserve this kind of treatment. Any suggestions? I'm lost

2006-11-25 04:37:37 · 25 answers · asked by paulamcneil1223 3

I have been married for almost eight years. I am 29 and my husband is in his late thirties. My husband and I had to get married in a rush for legal reasons and we never discussed having kids before we got married. I think I just assumed that that's what everybody wants. Well, not my husband. We didn't talk about the subject for a few years, but when I was about 25 I started having a strong desire to have a baby. He told me he never wanted children. I thought that eventually he would change his mind. Everytime I would bring up the subject, he woud get really angry and defensive. Now, at 29, I am at a point where I feel my biological clock ticking really loud. I envy every woman that has a baby and wonder why I can't be among the fortunate ones. He will not budge. He thinks having a baby is absolutely irresponsible unless you are a millionaire. He went as far as to say he'd rather be dead then have a baby. Can this ever be resolved? How do you stop wanting to have a baby?

2006-11-25 04:12:01 · 22 answers · asked by amaya m 2

2006-11-25 04:03:08 · 3 answers · asked by georgia k 3

I am a bi f 36 he is st8 and is 50 she is 36 and is also bi. We have been looking for a bi f to join our family for 2 years and she asked a few weeks ago to come from her home state for a weekend to see us.

2006-11-25 03:57:46 · 10 answers · asked by hematitewitch 2

Can't Unmarried people be considered 'settled' in their lives?

2006-11-25 03:57:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

long story short.
husband left 11 months ago because he wanted to make money back home. We were married for 12 years. I chose not to follow because I knew it's what he wanted and I didn't see our son and I having a good life it a 3rd world country.
After about 3 months, my husband and I stopped talking although he still calls his son every week for a few minutes.
Just recently, I found out (although I have been trying REALLY hard not to know anything about my soon to be ex husband), I found out that he is with someone else who has 3 kids and that he supports them yet he has never sent support money for our son.
There is no way to press for child support because he lives in a foreign country that does not have an agreement with Canada.

Now my question is: he seems to care about our son, but why the hell would he support someone else's 3 kids and not support my only child of whom he is the father???????
I guess I know the answer but I'd just like to hear some opinions.

2006-11-25 03:54:56 · 18 answers · asked by cajoesgirl 2

Reading some of these questions and hearing so many people saying if you are viewing porn and such it's fine to masturbate to it......and getting steamed up over women on T.V
How can you men think it's okay to still be basically drooling over other women when you are married? Doesn't your wife meet your needs? Don't you see how disrespectful this is to her?
Women are women, and you have one of your own, so enjoy her and drool over her.

I can't imagine being married to a man that behaved in such a disrespectful way.

2006-11-25 03:54:11 · 18 answers · asked by Cjs 3

My seperation and divorce, not only ended my relationship with my ex-husband but also ended my relationship with my best friend. This is what happened I was having an indept conversation with her about my husband, who I serapated from at the time, when i flat out asked her "whose friend are you, "mine or my ex-husband". She could not answer the question. I asked her if she told him about our conversations and she admitted to it. I ended our friendship relationship. Wow what a friend. I was hurt, and for a moment I became just like her. I told him and his boss she has herpies (which is true).

So a year and a half goes by and my exhusband told me they were in a relationship, after we broke, up for the enitre time. He never told me even though I asked. I was so angry. After eight months i am still angry.

We have two precious children and would like our relationship to become more then text messages. I want a friendship which involves active co-parenting. How should I do this?

2006-11-25 03:53:33 · 18 answers · asked by InSight 2

Hi all,,,
I discovered that my husband has a secret yahoo ID that I donno about, he chats with women and getting himself dates. I got his ID and I chatted with him, I feel bad and I need to know what to do... please help me...

2006-11-25 03:51:12 · 34 answers · asked by ali_lolo29 1

i have no proof-just very obvious -i havebeen keeping quiet for 3 years-however, last monday the cheating spouse left her after she came home from hosp. with newborn. he told her he's unhappy-he disclosed a girls name and all types of info about this woman-but my gut thinks it's not her but the 1st cousin he's pursuing-just covering it up-this will cause a huge rift as it involves family. the 1st cousin is about to turn 19-has just moved out 2 months ago. i think i should tell my nieces' sister as they are very close-she is level-headed and will know how and when to disclose this to her devastated sister. i believe the husband lied as to who he's having an affair with for two reasons:1-when it started, the girl was only 16 and hes afraid to be in trouble and 2-she's a member of our family and he knows it is even more unforgivable. i have no proof-but my gut is telling me i'm right-my husband at first thought i was insane-he no longer thinks that-he believes it is true.

2006-11-25 03:50:43 · 8 answers · asked by bondsmom2002 1

Child as young as 2 years old.Never married.He only has seen her 3 times .Doesnt have a relationship with her.What I'm asking do u think a court will let a child 2 years old be taken out of state by father she has no relationship with.He is taken me to court.I havent got served yet but I know its any time.

2006-11-25 03:41:50 · 8 answers · asked by only me 3

Did it work out or did he cheat again? was the relationship the same?

2006-11-25 03:39:48 · 19 answers · asked by lucy c 2

2006-11-25 03:35:19 · 7 answers · asked by shamsher s 1

2006-11-25 03:34:10 · 10 answers · asked by Maribel A 1

Isn't it expecting too much to imagine you're neglected because he doesn't pamper, wine and dine you?

2006-11-25 03:15:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-25 03:11:55 · 6 answers · asked by ? 3

it all started when his sister and i did not get along . She was a royal B****.... but i just went with the flow. but then she started messing with my car and stuff , she just did not want me with her brother... i got kicked out of our home by his family. i am staying at my mothers , and he always has thephone off the hook and wont talk to me online or anything, but he has made a new myspace page that he wont let me see or even kno the email address to . i just want to kno if i should bother , he is hurting me deeply and i just cant take it . please help

2006-11-25 03:05:27 · 17 answers · asked by Casper 1

After 25 years of marriage, things haven't gotten better. I worked, took care of the kids, and never asked for much except that we share responsibilities. My husband does help at times but he doesn't realize how much it takes to keep a household and kids. He wakes up and does what he wants, goes where he wants, and never thinks about taking some of the responsibility off my hands. We disagree about how to raise out kids which caused so much bitterness between us that I can't stand to be around him. I have become very close to my children and their friends that he is jealous of the time I spend with them. I work just as much or more than him and do just about everything else around here. He is full of negative comments towards me. I have always asked him to spend time with my children, and their friends but he says they are girls and it would be different if they were boys. Well I recently started going out with friends, not at all looking for anything else and he hates it. What 2 do?

2006-11-25 02:56:39 · 16 answers · asked by maggie 2

2006-11-25 02:49:47 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need help. My sister has substantial evidence that her husband is cheating. Phone calls, sneaking around, not to mention that he hangs out with the town sl*t whom she requested he not hang around. However, she has no actual proof, and it is doubtful she ever will because he is the sneakiest bajastard alive. What should she do?? advice pleeeeeeease.

2006-11-25 02:48:22 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I been married for 5 years now and my husband is handicapped.sometimes i cannot cope with hes behaviour towards others.I feel so ashamed most of the time when we go out.What should i do? Do u think i am so cruel if i divorce him?but where he will go if i divorce him when he has no parents anymore?

2006-11-25 02:42:46 · 34 answers · asked by lostsoul_seeker 1

I've asked some questions here and for the most part I get good answers.but there are some of you,woman for the most part that think there is 2 sides to the story.my wifes side from what she tells me ,loves a younger guy who knows shes married and has 2 kids .I'm 32 and shes 33 yrs old.this is my side of the story.I grew up with out a father because my father cheated on my mom,I promised my self at the age of 8 yrs old that I would not do this to whom ever I got married to.I saw my mom suffer why would I make my wife (the person I'm deeply in love with suffer like that?)I grew up with good values and morals.now I'm the one being kept in the dark.I know my wife loves some younger guys whos already had a failed marriage after only 2 months because he tells her his ex wanted him for money.lets be real he lives with his mom now how much money could he realy have and what kind of a man is he since he knows shes a married woman and is still chasing her?

2006-11-25 02:39:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous