The majority of divorces are caused due to infedelity mainly because of the husband. One's ithe divorce is finalized, the Ex-Wife always seems to get the better end with the alimony, child support, custody, and assets. It bother's me that She still gets the better end when she's the Cheater. Even worst, since the great and wonderful Ex-Husband has moved on with a better woman and re-marries, the Ex-Wife can't accept it and is filled with anger, envy, and jealousy that the only way of getting his attention is by utilizing the children by keeping them away from their father and accusing him of the unimaginable because California will for ever believe a woman's word over a man. I'm tired of these women labeling themselves as "victims" and forgetting the only people that really matter are the children. They are so busy trying to ruin the Ex-Husband's new marriage and father's rights that they forget how much they're hurting their kids by bad mouthing their father in every aspect....
2006-11-25 05:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by Jackeline P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you 100%! I am so sorry for what you are going through but I am heartbroken that she is using the kids like that. She not only ruined her marriage but she is destrying her children. If this is any consolation to you, your children will end up hating her for what she is doing and one day they will turn on her for that. I am sure that doesn't make you feel better because you don't sound vendictive at all, and I am sure you don't want your children to hate her. But in all honesty, that will happen. I have seen it happen quite a lot.
Try a mediator.Document everything! Tape phone calls if you have to cover yourself. Communicate with her in writing, so everything is documented. Reassure your children of your love and do not resort to her ways. Give your children and extra hug when you see them and find a good attorney to help maitain your visits with your children. Be the better person out of this because you are right, the law does seem to side with the mother more often, so you, unfortunately will have to work even harder.
I am a female, married with a wonderful son and I have made mention to this abuse by women over and over. There are some women who live through hell and back and deserve to fight tooth and nail for what they deserve and then you get these type of women who abuse the system because they feel they can.
(I don't know the whole story and I am only going by what you said, truly there are two sides of every story.)
Good luck to you and your new marriage. And keep in mind, she is jealous, that even though she cheated on you, you moved on and are happy now. She thought you would fall apart. That's why she is acting that way.
Be there for your children, they should be the main concern.
2006-11-25 05:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by megabites42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get over the divorce is very hard thing. People mostly think about children how hard it is..of course, I do not deny this fact, but its very hard as well for (at least one Of the) partners. U dint blame woman behaving like this. It s just logical and human. She feels dehonested. Even in society she feels "less". She has lost her securities, her basics.. U re saying that :"Ex-Husband has moved on with a better woman and re-marries". How u can say this? That they were not o much compatible or just one of the partners felt this.. Do u honestly think d woman will sent her children to the house where partners are explaining to children that father has just remarried a better wife? The new wife should never give this children this feeling (until mother is not a prostitute or in drugs...). Ex husband is always saying to a new potential wife sth bad about his ex. It s normal. This woman just needs time, her ex has hurt her a lot. And it s not easy to get over it. In her eyes he betryed her, so she cannot talk about hi nice yet. She needs help, she needs understanding, not abusing, or anybody to try to show her that she is less, that s why his whole has happened..
2006-11-25 05:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by w_chantall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can find a good lawyer, you can win custody of a child who is being raised by a drug addict. Otherwise, she will have the right to take your child wherever she wants. My suggestion is to get a lawyer and go do battle in the courts. If you lose, have a backup plan whereby you get every other holiday and ALL summer long with the child. Courts often go for that. You'll have the entire summer to make a good influence on your little girl and, maybe, find proof of your ex's bad mothering. I know you don't want your child to grow up to be like her mother. Good luck.
2016-03-29 08:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the new wife is doing drugs or is engaged in some other illegal activity, the ex wife cannot legally stop the children from visiting. Get some legal help and counseling for the children! They are the victims, and you may end up with full custody!
2006-11-25 05:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible you try to get custody of the kids. The reason she is doing is because she thought you were going to be unhappy forever, begging for her to come back, now she saw you are happy and she is not the center of the world, that she wants to attacking you using the kids. It is sad. Don't let her know she is getting to you using the kids. Otherwise she will do more and more. One day the kids will know the truth. She is digging her own grave. The children wont be children forever, and they will know the truth. Ignore her and try to re marry her if possible.
2006-11-25 05:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you classifying all ex wives in that category ? I sure hope not cause i am an ex wife and I am sooooo glad that my ex-husband has remarried and she is a good woman and she takes excellent care of our children when they are in her care. She never lets them out of her sight. Hell they even babysit when I have a date. I did not play the victim. I only got the house and i have to make the payments on it ,not him .I also have to pay my own electricity food and water and all utilities. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-25 05:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right on with your statements. Too many women are vindictive and vengeful. It is best to stay as far away as possible from these people but if kids are involved you don't have any choice.
2006-11-25 05:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most ex wives think of themselves as first wife not ex wife.
2006-11-25 05:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by DDLynn l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋