i have no proof-just very obvious -i havebeen keeping quiet for 3 years-however, last monday the cheating spouse left her after she came home from hosp. with newborn. he told her he's unhappy-he disclosed a girls name and all types of info about this woman-but my gut thinks it's not her but the 1st cousin he's pursuing-just covering it up-this will cause a huge rift as it involves family. the 1st cousin is about to turn 19-has just moved out 2 months ago. i think i should tell my nieces' sister as they are very close-she is level-headed and will know how and when to disclose this to her devastated sister. i believe the husband lied as to who he's having an affair with for two reasons:1-when it started, the girl was only 16 and hes afraid to be in trouble and 2-she's a member of our family and he knows it is even more unforgivable. i have no proof-but my gut is telling me i'm right-my husband at first thought i was insane-he no longer thinks that-he believes it is true.
2006-11-25 03:50:43 · 8 answers · asked by bondsmom2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mind your own business. What happens happens. You did not make the choices your relatives have made, and it is their harvest they are reaping. IF you stick your nose into it, trust me, the messenger is always killed. Be sympathetic, be kind, be loving, be supportive, but for heaven's sake, don't set them up for an "I told you so" from you..that is exactly what you will be doing. It does not matter one whit who he is playing around with. Some members of your extended family have very little sense (1st cousin...etc), and your blowing the whistle is not going to change things. The 1st cousin will get all that is coming to her soon enough, for this guy will not stop messing around ever. The soon-to-be exwife is the lucky one here..she is escaping.
2006-11-25 03:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl is going through a very painfull time due to the mans disrespect for the newborn and the mother of the child . I personally would focus on the mother and child help her through a very painfull time and not go out of my way to cause more given her situation . Being a new parent she needs alot of support even if it is just wathching and taking care of baby so she can take a shower . ANd tell her your suspicians and see what she wants to do with the situation s he may not care what he is up to and be focused on the positive in her life and focus on her child and making their life better .
2006-11-25 04:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by pheonix F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your cousin for many reasons the first would be so that she doesnt get any STD's and I think you should of been told your niece because now he's been cheating for three years and shes really going to feel self concious and insecure and even might be mad at you. Good Luck!!
2006-11-25 03:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I believe you should keep your nose out of other peoples' business.
You have no proof, and all you're going to do is hurt a lot of people. Leave it alone.
2006-11-25 03:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough situation, because you don't want to see your niece's sister get hurt but if you don't have proof, it's really not your place to get involved.
2006-11-25 03:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth closed and get a life
2006-11-25 04:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by adahen2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her so she can get over her boyfriend and move on with her life, but when you tell her, give her something to make her feel better.
2006-11-25 03:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-25 03:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by fn_49@hotmail.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋