Isn't it expecting too much to imagine you're neglected because he doesn't pamper, wine and dine you?
2006-11-25 03:15:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you're presenting two ends of an extreme: EITHER women should just be happy that they are "kept," OR they want to be pampered, wined and dined. The reality for most relationships is somewhere in between those extremes.
For some women, I guess being supported would be enough to inspire love. I might argue that these women don't think much of themselves and have very low self-worth, but that's another question. On the other end of the spectrum, some women want to be romanced and pampered--perhaps suggesting a constant need for attention.
I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I would not be comfortable with either scenario. I am not "kept" by my husband--we both have careers, and I would feel uncomfortable if he provided the only financial support in our family. I like to contribute--it's important to me to provide for our family, too. I also just enjoy my career and can't imagine not engaging in it. And pampering is fun, but not if it's one-sided! My husband plans nights out for us, but I do the same sometimes. Or we plan our pampering together. It's a partnership---we're a team. My husband needs to be pampered as much as I do--why should I have all the fun?
For me, the best relationship is one in which my spouse and I are partners in everything--we "keep" each other, and we pamper each other.
2006-11-25 03:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by psych_donkey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A women sometimes feels insecure when you don't compliment or take them out...They feel as if you are loosing interest...you must keep the fire burning...people get tired of the same routine...learn to be spontaneous and fun! Make them feel special by just giving them a rose...or by just going out for a moonlight walk...try to pamper them atleast once every week...You make it seem like you are talking about a dog...but you are talking about a women and she will always love you no matter what...but their is the difference she is grateful that you are willing to support her and she loves u. But that doesnt mean you gonna become one of those boring relationships that never go out and always stay home doing the same things...
2006-11-25 11:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by SEXYCHULA 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a woman is more than being kept and supported. It includes feeling feminine. It includes feeling sexy and loved and desired.
I would rather assume the responsibility of changing my own oil in the car and taking out the trash in exchange for a bit of spontaneous, sensual action from my man. I can support myself. I can keep myself. I can't feel like a real woman without a real man. A real man understands the needs of a woman and will remember to wine/dine and adore you even if you are not feeling all that sexy.
2006-11-25 11:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tammie R 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't have a man if all he wanted to do was support me and keep me. What happened to the affection? I wanted someone that treats me good and is there for me. What is so bad about pampering someone that you do truly love?
2006-11-25 12:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me, yes. it is enough. to most other people who are not at all old-fashioned, no. I guess it's all personal preference. but a lot of women are jealous and see what other people have and want it too. I would rather have a roof over my head and food to eat and heat in the cold and clothes to wear. Although it does make for some nice energy in the home for the husband to come home and be in such a good mood he perhaps can't keep his eyes off you. I don't mean all the time, but sometimes it's a gr8 way to keep a relationship alive!
2006-11-25 11:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by i-care 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If all my husband did was bring home a paycheck, and supported me financially, but gave me no attention, I would go out, get a job, earn my own paycheck and move out. Women need love, affection, and interaction, not just your paycheck at the end of the week.
2006-11-25 11:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed, no longer is a woman "dependent" upon a man to support her. There are so many other options.
2006-11-25 12:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Tom S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
willing to support you and keep you is a character that most girls easily fell in love with a guy, but its not enough reason to force yourself to love him if in the first place you don't felt the magic... Though in time or eventually you would somehow felt that you are finally falling for him, it would be very unfair for the guy to find out that you only try to love him for the reason that he made you feel secure... but nevertheless its better to love a guy or be with a guy who love you more than you love him, and who would make you feel secure compare to you are the one securing them... In short in an intellectual point of view... you better try to love the guy who makes you secure compare to a guy who you love but brings nothing but trouble...
2006-11-25 11:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is a partnership. I stay at home and my husband supports us. While he works, I take care of our family and our home. I think it is too much to EXPECT to be wined and dined all the time. But all women need romance occassionally. We need to feel appreciated. But that goes both ways. Our men need us to do things to make them feel appreciated as well.
2006-11-25 11:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by peach 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ugh...................NO! Think about it you just can't go up to your wif and say hey I got the Bacon I'am going to bed. You have to spend time even if you don't wan't to. Because when you read those vows you promised not to be selfish. Think about it you share your house an dyour bed wit this person wouldn't you want to know what they have been doing while you weren't at home?
2006-11-25 11:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by B Wondaful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋