why does your spouse feels that the grass is greener on the other side?

Question

I've asked some questions here and for the most part I get good answers.but there are some of you,woman for the most part that think there is 2 sides to the story.my wifes side from what she tells me ,loves a younger guy who knows shes married and has 2 kids .I'm 32 and shes 33 yrs old.this is my side of the story.I grew up with out a father because my father cheated on my mom,I promised my self at the age of 8 yrs old that I would not do this to whom ever I got married to.I saw my mom suffer why would I make my wife (the person I'm deeply in love with suffer like that?)I grew up with good values and morals.now I'm the one being kept in the dark.I know my wife loves some younger guys whos already had a failed marriage after only 2 months because he tells her his ex wanted him for money.lets be real he lives with his mom now how much money could he realy have and what kind of a man is he since he knows shes a married woman and is still chasing her?

Answer 1

Yuck. Sorry this is happening. Here's a quote from a smart guy I saw on here, actually. It goes like this:

"The grass in not greener on the other side, it's greener where it's watered and fertilized."

Good luck

Answer 2

Now this is comming from a woman here that has just ended her marriage after the cow had migrated to the other side once again after she forgave him again!......


Is there something missing in you marriage that you may not be aware of? Communication, intmacy (don;t mean just sex either) spending quality time together....

This other guy is playing on a weekenss with your wife and if you did some research I think you will find his wife kicked him out for cheating...

Talk to you wife ask her why she is more interested in this guy and is it really love or lust? Some woman can not tell the diffrence because of issues they have.

Counselling is always and option but if she dosn't want it and wont' stop seeing this man then I am afraid you will be better off without her.

I wish you luck.

Answer 3

Regardless of the situation, cheating is never acceptable. The guy isn't the problem - your wife is. She should have enough respect for you to at least end this relationship before getting into another. Let her go. Even if it doesn't work out with this guy - she'll always be looking elsewhere. It's probably just the fact that her relationship with him doesn't involve any responsibilities or conflicts, like a marriage does. The grass is NEVER greener on the other side - let her find out herself, the hard way. It's the only way she'll learn.

Answer 4

These women probably look at the situation from both sides, because being women they can see both sides of the coin......and a woman knows, what another woman thinks like.....I feel bad for you, and im sorry she is doing this to you, you need to understand that there must be a reason why she is doing this? There is no way in situations like this, that it is one sided, nothing is ever one sided, there are always two points of veiw, two different reasons for doing or not doing what she is doing.....catch my drift? If you dont like the way she is behaving, you too have a choice...you can either stay and put up with it....or leave her.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like your a very loving and attentive husband. And it sounds to me like she's being very selfish and thinking of only herself and isn't thinking about you and your feelings. It's possible she may feel that she's not being satisfied, and thinks that if your not satisfying her, she needs someone who will, and I feel that if that's the case, she's going to find herself in for a big let down, because if this other guy finds another woman, then she's going to be out on her own.

And I also feel for you, especially if you and your wife have kids. Because it's not fair to the kids for the parents to have problems like this, because even though people say that the kids adjust, it's a lie. Parents having problems are toughest on the kids because the kids will blame themselves thinking it's their fault.

I hope that your wife will look at what she's doing and see the pain that it's causing you. I hope that things turn around soon for you.

Hope that this helps.

Take care and God Bless

Answer 6

They are looking at life through rose colored glasses, not at reality. Once they get to know the other person they find out that they are not that great and come running back. What type of a man hits on married woman? A scumbag.

Answer 7

The guy is obviously a big loser - But what about your wife? Do you think she is cheating? My husband and I would NEVER do that to each other - my ex cheated numerous times and so did his. I think you need to have a talk with her and talk about what is really important ! What she's doing to your marriage, your kids....what the he** is she thinking? He cheated on his wife, he's gonna cheat on her too if she chooses to be with him DUH
Are you not giving her enough attention? What's making her stray?

Answer 8

thats too bad ,
but you cant make something be what is not .
in other places the guy would have been shot .

go and have a talk with him to leave your woman alone
but there is always the women .you cant make her mind different .

it is unfortunate cannot give you a legal solution

Answer 9

if she is cheating you need to ask your self if its worth hurting your self are should you just tell her you know and move on it will hurt but you will hurt more staying with her and knowing she is cheating

Answer 10

Dump the broad! She's going to bang someone else eventually. And she IS in her sexual prime. Use it or lose it!!!!