Divorced with children? My husbands family hates me because I have children from my first marriage.?

Question

Yes, we have struggled since we have been married. I know he took on a lot. I do not make a lot of money, but I am a good wife. I take care of the house and love my family. They hate me so badly, that we lost our daughter when I was 6 months pregnant and did not receive one phone call or card. I also emailed Thanksgiving cards and they deleted them before they read them. I have sent emails and letters to try to have a relationship with them. I never received one phone call or response. It was like it never happened. My husbands parents have helped us during some difficult times, but it is not like I am sitting on my butt all day eating bon bon's. My heart hurts so bad. My husband and I have a wonderful marriage and my girls love him. We have been together for 5 years. But, I can not stand to see him so isolated from his family. They won't respond to him either. There is nothing worse then being completely ignored. Has anyone else had a similar situation? What should I do

My husband has a brother and a sister. They are all doing the same thing. His parents will talk with him. However, they completely ignore my attempts to contact them and his sister and brother completely ignore him and I.

For the jerk who left the kind message. I was not tramping around!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!MY HUSBAND LEFT ME AND MY 3 GIRLS . I HAVE WORKED 2 JOBS MOST OF MY LIFE AND HAVE SUPPORTED THEM ON MY OWN!!!!!!!!!!!! I HATE THIS WORLD!! I HATE IT.

Answer 1

If they choose to do this, then you don't need these negative, heartless, selfish people around you or your children.
Your husband, your children, and you need to stay strong and keep going. Don't allow their negativity to take over your life. As hard as it may be, you've got to get control over things and just stop attempting contact with them.
One day, they'll get their karma right back, what goes around always does come around.
Be the better person. You've tried with many unsuccesful attempts to make contact with them, they're not interested. All you can do now is move on with your life and leave the past behind.
You may need to get some family counseling as well.

Answer 2

I think you should just let the whole thing go. They have some nutty idea going, and will only hurt themselves in their hate. You and your husband should talk about it and just decide that you will live your own lives, create your future together and that of your children, and make friends and love each other and the kids and have a great life. Then go about doing it. Share your holidays with those that love and care for you.
Go ahead and send simple nice cards on holidays, signed by the family, but don't expect anwers or anything, just send them like clockwork as if nothing is wrong. Someday, maybe they will respond. If they respond with hate, don't react to it, ignore it and just send the same loving cards on holidays.
If the feelings turn around and they reach to talk to you all someday in love, all the better, but if not, you will have your life and not let them ruin it, which seems what they are trying to do.
Just let it go.

Answer 3

I"m soory to hear of your situation and all I can offer is my opinion that his family suffers from a dysfunctinal lifestyle and the reason I say that is because they cannot appreciate there son's or brother's happiness and support the both of you through your happiness or sorrows, their concern lies in their own selfishness and interests, a recent situation that has happen to me is that I and my wife have been seperated for over a year and are now going through the proceedings of a divorce, since the seperation and even now My side of the family has been supportive of all needs wether they were mine or hers or my son's or even my step daughter's but on the other hand her side of the family has shunned me and all of my side even after 14 years of history, there has been no physical abuse involved, however her side of the family suffers badly from drugs and alcohol and chooses to protect theor addictions and live in denial before they protect the real issues at hand and since I don't want that life style anymore they would rather divorce so to speak the whole family instead of just the one person or two people involved handle it together, I'm a true believer in families should stick together but this has gotten way out of hand and now I feel alienated as well as betrayed by them although it only makes my decision easier it will be harder down the road to ever accept any of them as a friend or someone I could possibly turn to for help, which in turn is going to affect the future lives of the children, they need to learn unconditional love and that during rough times we shouldn't tuck tail and run or ignor our responsibilities to try and love our neighbors as we love our selves, Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

How long are you going to allow these people to rule your life? You have your own family to care for, stop worrying what they think! Time for you to get tough and move forward without them.

My in-laws are almost the same way, except they'll show you kindness to your face and stab you in the back when you turn around. I made a choice not to see them anymore. I have other things to think about than getting their approval. I know for a fact that I'm a good wife and a good mother.

Answer 5

people can like or dislike the spouses of the children for so many reasons. The thing is that your husband picked you out for him not them. He obviously didnt need approval for you to date or to get married and his not needing approval is the decision he made long ago. Just be glad he made that decision in you favor and enjoy your husband. With so many of them out there that would pick his mommy over his wife you can go to sleep at night rest assured that you got one of the good ones.

Answer 6

You need to relax. Your husband loves you, and married you. Certainly, it's better IF his family is friendly, but, with a husband and 3 children, you have what many NEVER manage to get. Be thankful for what you have. His family will do as they please. That is their affair. Concern yourself with loving your husband and children. Do that, and you need NOTHING, and your husband and children will be more blessed than most.

Answer 7

ignore them dont send no more cards and have your husband to the same thing pretend they dont exist take care of your husband and girls the same way you always have see if then they come to you guys instead of the other way around

Answer 8

Here is what you must do for him. Let him have a relationship with them without you. Quit trying to force you way into their lives, they don't want you. Encourage him to spend time with his family. You are just going to have to step out of the picture, it is not going to work out. Be nice about it, but accept it, you can not be in their lives. Just let him have his family without you and then he won't resent you.

Answer 9

I would say scew them. I've been treated like crap before and you do everything right and they still treat you like crap! I would move on with my life and forget about them. If they come around, they come around I won't loose sleep over them! You're a good person!

Answer 10

Why are you seeking their approval? Seems like you have so much more to be concerned with.