how do you know if your husband is having an affair?

Answer 1

he acts different, like either he completely ignores you or the total opposite and showers you with more attention than normal.

you can tell by looking into his eyes.

is he secretive?

is he paying more attention to his personal hygiene?

Answer 2

There are lots of ways you can possibly find out without asking him direct.

He will have changed his behaviour towards you - either more loving and sexual or much less so. He starts doing things he didnt do before - like spending more time in the bathroom, fussing about his clothes, watching his weight, buying new aftershave.

Possibly he will be going out more with 'mates' that you don't know (alibi) or even invent a friend. Like 'I met up with Dave the other day, you dont know him he was my mate at school' and then we will start doing things with 'Dave' - going out for drinks or the gym.

He will NEVER leave his mobile lying around. If he does you will find all sent messages deleted etc (if he is clever).

He may start using words that you have never heard him use before (having picked up on her vocabulary).

He may start picking on you for nothing. Saying things like 'I dont know why you never wear high heels' or something like that.

If you go through his pockets you might find a receipt for something that he doesnt normally buy..... or from a place he doesnt usually go to.Like a petrol station receipt for a place that he has no reason to go to.

If you feel suspicious, dont let on but watch him for a week or so and he will probably give himself away. Men are not so clever at that sort of thing as women!

I hope he is not for your sake. My first husband had an affair and it broke up our marriage.

Answer 3

Change in attitude toward you, hang up calls. He might also say he's working late. Also starting an arguement then storming out, just so he could go out. Change in his appearance, not as loving or attentave to you. I hope he's not, but remember there are alot of flirtatious and jealous women out there and if they know you have a good marriage they'll do anything to destroy it. Also remember it takes two to tango so your hubby is not off the hook. And if he is having an affair - you need to get on with your life because he does not deserve you.

Good luck!

Answer 4

If your husband is having an affair you don't really think he will live clues around for you.Waite till you have something more concrete before thinking about catching him out,he may not be cheating,or if your sure he is then how did you find out?

Answer 5

usually intuition gives you the answer. But sometimes watching for different things like new aftershave - creating a row just for the sake of it. Try taking a bit more notice of him yourself and if he shuns you well maybe you have answered your own question. Being on the guard all the time usually gives it away as does blaming you for everything and trying to make you lose your self esteem and confidence. Good luck - I speak from the heart

Answer 6

I'd cut his bollocks off and ram them down his throat....that's after i pack his things and throw them in the street....no seriously i have had my ex hubby do this to me and i felt terrible...it felt like the whole world was against me....the only way i got over it was by going to my solicitor THAT DAY and filed for a divorce...you need to take action...as much a it hurts. DO IT, he's cheated on you, and things will never be the same again...there will be no trust in your marriage any more, so the best thing to do is get shut of him, pack his things in a nice shiny black bin bag an throw him out, if you have kids then plan visitation, then go see a councillor to get over the grief...it's not easy, then focus on you and he kids, try not to contact him unless it's about the divorce...it's easy to say that you can forgive him, but it's so hard to forget....be strong and do the right thing....he does not deserve you...let him go to the little skunk who he's been cheating with and have her take care of him...change the locks to the house and refuse to let him back...he'll do it again, i can promise you that much...once a cheater, always a cheater, he's not to be trusted any more...good luck

Answer 7

Comes home late, hardly speaks, Has a sudden interest in some hobby that does not allow you to take part, Becomes overly hygienic, Takes the courtesy light out of the car, says its broke not got round to replacing it. buys you presents when its not your birthday.Can look you in the eyes without blinking. Can offer proof of where he has been. Has less money than normal. Talks about the girl at work too often. All mistakes I have made. ha ha trust me I know...

Answer 8

Takes more interest in his appearance, says he has to work late at work or work all night ( yeah ) Comes back later than usually
Talks about a new work colleague a lot
This is what happened to me it took me about a 6 week period to finally realise

He has never admitted it but I left him started a new life (after emptying the house of its entire contents ) I'm in a lovely relationship and doing well him I don't know and I don't care

HOPE YOUR MAN IS BEING FAITHFUL TO YOU

Answer 9

they may act differently. If you can, try and look through his phone and see if he has any strange txt messages on there or girls numbers that you havent heared of or names that dont look right, symbols instead of names etc. Is he going out more often?, talking to you differently on the phone, like he's with someone and can't really talk properly? Or doesn't answer the phone. I hope that you dont find anything suss! Good luck.

Answer 10

You just know.
Trust your instincts on this one.
I knew mine was; I challenged him; he denied and denied, but I just KNEW.
What alerted me was that he'd changed from being cranky and complaining and critical to being nice to me, becoming even-tempered. I aske dhim about a pair of sports shoes I had found under the bed, with a "Love,Marion" label on them, he said they had been given to him by a customer.
I just knew.
We had a six month old baby; he finally left before our child was a year old.
When he was gone, I started to get rid of his stuff, and I found all the love letters she had written to him - at work!
As I read them, one thing became clear; she did not know of my existence either. So he duped some other poor girl too.
Check his mobile phone bills; try and check his e mails; go through his pockets, look for hairs on his clothes that are not yours.
Trust yourself on this.

Answer 11

All of a sudden his personal appearance has become priority one.
He tans or works out when he hasn't before.
Hang up calls,
Coming in late at night.
Not being at work when he is supposed to be.
He is treating you better than he ever has..."guilt complex"
Sex is more often with you to validate sex with her.
Or non existent b/c he is getting it from her.

Hire a P.I. and stop assuming. Get the real answers.