separated husband supporting other woman's 3 kids but not our own?

Question

long story short.
husband left 11 months ago because he wanted to make money back home. We were married for 12 years. I chose not to follow because I knew it's what he wanted and I didn't see our son and I having a good life it a 3rd world country.
After about 3 months, my husband and I stopped talking although he still calls his son every week for a few minutes.
Just recently, I found out (although I have been trying REALLY hard not to know anything about my soon to be ex husband), I found out that he is with someone else who has 3 kids and that he supports them yet he has never sent support money for our son.
There is no way to press for child support because he lives in a foreign country that does not have an agreement with Canada.

Now my question is: he seems to care about our son, but why the hell would he support someone else's 3 kids and not support my only child of whom he is the father???????
I guess I know the answer but I'd just like to hear some opinions.

Answer 1

continue to pursue child support and you need to communicate with him to see why is it that he is choosing not to support his kid. You should still have an order set into place in case he should bring his sorry a@@ back to the states and he will owe back payments. In the meantime, move on and continue being a good mother/father to your son. Don't bad mouth Dad, believe me, you will not have to. Your son will know he never sees Dad and your son see who hustles and bustle to provide his needs...good luck

Answer 2

Welcome to my world. I have been divorced from my husband for 10 years and he dated another woman that had 5 kids and he never ever helped take care of our three, he never came to see them unless I begged him to stop by and see them. Then when they broke up he wanted to be a part of their world and I let him, UNTIL he met his now live in GF who had a child previously to them getting together and once that happned he stopped seeing his kids and still not support. Then to top it all off they went and had a kid together, I do get support the last year, only because he has a court order to pay, but otherwise he only sees the kids once every few months, he never calls, nothing for b-days or holidays. So what I have done is just let it be. I mean my kids are older now and they see how their father is and the way he treats them and they do not like him at all. They don't want to go and see him unless I actually force them to go once every few months because they know what he is going to do NOTHING. SO honey get over it, men feel like they are punishing us and in reality they are PUNISHING THE KIDS, and their studpidity will not let them see it as that they still see it as them punishing us. Don't tell your son anything I know it is hard to do, but let him learn for himself and he will get hurt more than once but it is better for him to learn it the hard way then you trying to make the dad sound bad. Just love your son with everything you have and let him know you will always be there for him..
Good Luck..

Answer 3

I think you should be able to find a good lawyer to be able to go after him for child support. as for him supporting 3 kids that are of no blood relation to him well some people would say thats great, but since he isnt even paying you, his wife, mother of his child for HIS child, than hes no better than the rest of the jerks that knock someone up and leave. Calling once a week! just wouldnt be enough, i would want to make sure that my child was well taken care of.

Answer 4

He is a low life.You need to keep your child from knowing that though.Maybe you can buy your son a nice toy and tell him it is from Daddy.Tell your soon to be ex husband what you have ask us.Just maybe he will feel guilty and send him something.I have an ex son-in-law that is the same way.He thinks to much of himself to spend money on something that he don't want to. Where is the father of the 3 kids he is supporting? he should get off his *** too.

Answer 5

There is very little you can do to get money out of this loser. You cannot withhold the phone from your son, you cannot run the jerk down to your son...all you can do is regret the decision you made long ago about marrying the jerk. We all learn too late. Get on with your life, fill your son's with as much happiness as you can, and put down the bitterness, for it costs you valuable energy. You willl need all the energy you can muster to go forward. Only a fool wastes time on that he cannot alter. Don't be a fool.

Answer 6

He's a sorry excuse for a man! You know what? Even though you can't get that child support he will get everything he deserves in the long run! If he doesnt' want to support your children, then dont let him be in your childrens life and he will suffer the consequences in the future when they dont want nothing to do with him when they figure out he left you for a woman with a family.

Answer 7

Regardless of what country he is, he was living in Canada, with his biological son and he was the one who decided to leave the family in Canada. (Regardless if you agreed or disagreed of his descision.)

I think you should seek some legal advice to see what can be done, as I feel he's accountable to support his own son, regardless of where he's decided to live.

If you've not always lived in Canada, then there could be some issues, but I'm really not sure.

Good luck!

PS If he's instistant on not assisting at all with his own son, take his leaving as a blessing. If you know what I mean.

Answer 8

You chose not to go with him, and it sounds like your marriage is over. It may not be possible for him to send support money from his country to yours. The good thing is that he stays in touch with your child. Encourage that relationship and do your best never to speak against his father in his hearing.

Answer 9

Thats is just how it is. Its because the other kids live with him. I am sure if his love lived with him it would have been the same way. Don't beat up yourself about this. Things could be alot worst. Your son is so lucy to have at least his mom in his life. Some kids don't have either one.

Answer 10

maybe try asking him for support. Then try not listening to idle gossip. Just becauase a man lives with a woman or vise versa, it doesn't mean their "supporting" them. I've seen many low life men live off of women and their support and welfare.

I have to say, "KEY86"'s opinion sucks!!!!!!!! Parents hurting other parents from seeing children, only cause pain to the children dumba**!!