Marriage & Divorce - 20 November 2006

We tried to work things out for quite some time before separating & I realized that emotionally I left the marriage a long time ago. We had 2 children together (4 and 7) & we share parenting 50/50% The kids seem to be doing remarkably well. Between the sep & the divorce, I started seeing a 35 yo woman. The relationship has developed into more than just friendship. We're not looking to get married or move in together, but the long term potential is there.

My ex knows about the new GF & is very bitter. I'd like to introduce my children to her (I've met her 14 yo son) & the ex has gotten very nasty about this. I'm not worried about the kid's reactions as I think that they'll be fine with dad having a new "friend." The new GF & I have talked & agreed on no affection in front of my kids. I'm more concerned with the ex's reaction & how it will affect the kids.

The new GF is not pushing. This is something I want. Tired of letting the ex control my life. Any advice would help

2006-11-20 07:03:33 · 14 answers · asked by toledoman6 2

Should I start looking for another woman first to take her place, or propose divorce first and then start looking for a replacement afterwards.

2006-11-20 06:52:00 · 20 answers · asked by STEVEN P 3

When we had child support set up it was supposed to be that I claim the first year, then he gets the next 3 yrs, then I can claim again and so on. But I think I remember them saying that if he was behind on his support than I automatically get to claim him.....I think. Does anyone know if this is true or something I Imagined???? I live in AZ

2006-11-20 06:51:04 · 16 answers · asked by wendyb204 2

My wife of ten years is wanting to trade me in for a new model. She is the love of my life and i don't feel i can mently go through this. Thoughts of sucide, yes. I have two kids that i love so that wont happen, What to do, read, talk to. help.

2006-11-20 06:48:54 · 10 answers · asked by brian b 2

I have been involved with a physically, emotionally and verbally abusive man for the past 5 years. The relationship is now ended, but the loss feels like a death. Having been abused, I no longer have friends and family to lean on or talk to, so the feeling of loneliness has quadrupled. My emotions and body have been so battered, that I feel like nothing. Where do I start on this healing process?

2006-11-20 06:48:18 · 16 answers · asked by * 2

I have been involved with a physically, emotionally and verbally abusive man for the past 5 years. The relationship is now ended, but the loss feels like a death. Having been abused, I no longer have friends and family to lean on or talk to, so the feeling of loneliness has quadrupled. My emotions and body have been so battered, that I feel like nothing. Where do I start on this healing process?

2006-11-20 06:47:40 · 20 answers · asked by * 2

My wife and I went through a losing business venture. It was not only my fault thought she blames me and tells everybody she knows how I am responsible for everything. Any idea how to proceed so I could have respect without going through a divorce?

2006-11-20 06:46:07 · 11 answers · asked by Last hope 1

2006-11-20 06:40:08 · 7 answers · asked by neutral 2

okay-first I know what you all would think... you're in an abusive relationship, GET OUT! Yeah, it's not that easY! I am feeling depressed and helpless, maybe this is where he wants me to be.. he tells me to get out of his life one day, then he loves and hugs me another day, I get all these mixed up and crazy signals... that I don't know what to do, when I do love him. I just don't have the strength to get up and move on with my own life... I will be living life in a strugge & i am scared!... He is my husband! and he is a good provider for me, but I am feeling horrible about myself...
He is not physical anymore since I reported him , but now he is mentally abusing me... which is just as bad. Help me build strength with good solid advice! I have nothing litterally if I don't have him is how I am feeling right now... when I know there are other men out there that would never be this way to a woman!

2006-11-20 06:35:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

explain please

2006-11-20 06:26:18 · 17 answers · asked by Baha o 1

I have a very low self estime, which I am working on, but I want to be in a commited relationship that will someday lead to marrige. Do you think it is no longer a posibility for a woman that will b turning 28 soon with a 9 yr child.

2006-11-20 06:25:52 · 15 answers · asked by castillo5247 2

My husband is on Second life whenver posible. He gets really jumpy when I get to close to him on the sofa when he's on it. I've seen him go to clubs on it, and yes, he is very sneaky about it. I feel like I'm in the dark about this whole thing. I need to talk to another person who is in the know about second life, or had their spouse behave the same way.

2006-11-20 06:19:28 · 21 answers · asked by sammy s 1

im getting it once a week on the lords day(sunday).i no i need to change that day but if my partner doesn't agree should i change him and get another one.because i need it more then once a week.

2006-11-20 06:17:55 · 13 answers · asked by coco 1

respect it? He's said that we've gone through too much everyday since we've been married (we've only been married for a year) but should I respect that and give him his time? and if so should I continue to do the things that made him fall in love with me to begin with? Let me just say nothing was to the degree where infidelity was involved but more of insecurities, jealousy, and financial issues. What do I do in the meantime of waiting on his decision?

2006-11-20 06:17:20 · 9 answers · asked by bettyspagettii 1

2006-11-20 06:16:56 · 17 answers · asked by kb 1

I have tried to entice my husband with flavored lube, body paint, handcuffs and other toys - but he is still a Wham Bam Thank You Mam kind of guy.... any hope for foreplay?

2006-11-20 06:16:49 · 28 answers · asked by The Lizard Queen 3

2006-11-20 06:16:21 · 12 answers · asked by Cookie 1

As I said I am not so happy in my marriage, just bored, my husband has never been romantic but he is secure. I ran into an old fling from 9 years ago, he is also married, it is obvious he feels uncomfortable around me, not sure if it is good or bad but whatever it is I can't get him out of my head! I know I don't want him but what we had I feel I am lacking in my marraige, my husband has never done for me what that guy did, I miss it.

2006-11-20 06:12:02 · 10 answers · asked by susan 1

I think people can be and stay happily married even if they are not madly in love. A deeper love and fondness can grow over time if you give it a chance and are both commited to making it work.
So does anyone else think arranged marriages can work?
Of course when I say that I don't me children or adults who are forced into it but two consenting adults who choose to marry strangers.

2006-11-20 06:10:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anguissette 1

I'm in my mid-thirties and have been married for 13 years. I have two grade school age kids. I love them all, however I'm bored out of my skull with the banality of our life. We are lower middle-class and don't have the money to buy excitement. But it is more than that: I am discontent with not being able to pursue anything new (career wise) for myself because it may set us back further financially than we already are (I make significantly more money). I'm so sick of sales and it's all I've ever done. I don't mind helping with housekeeping, but outside of washing the clothes, feel like I'm doing way more than she is and I can't stand the domestic monotony. SEX, she seems content with once a week - Sat only - but subtract an average of twice a month for her period, misc. illnesses or anything that may interupt her getting her in the mood emotionally. There's more but I don't have the space here. Am I starting a mid-life crisis, and being a jerk - or do things need to change? HELP.

2006-11-20 06:10:07 · 28 answers · asked by mr_slacker70 2

There's more (sorry). Yes, I am depressed. I am on 4 different kind of meds. My husband wants to change, begs, pleads, etc. But i feel like it's too late. I am exhausted in trying for the past 5 years. Numb, depressed, and liking another guy who is a total sweetheart to me. My HB does not know about the other guy. The other guy and I have been in contact for about 2 months (never thought it would come to this, was not looking). My HB and I are going to our first marriage counseling tonight. I am also seeing my own therapist. HB cries to me and says "how can you leave me?; I can't live with out you; how can you do this to our children?" I love my girls with all my hear, and soul. But I am numb towards my HB. How am I ever going to get out of my marriage, without feeling horrible?" I used to be happy, I used to laugh, now I lay on the floor and cry. I just WANT TO BE HAPPY AGAIN. Am I being selfish? What do I say to our children?

2006-11-20 06:08:46 · 6 answers · asked by Amy B 1

2006-11-20 05:56:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

we aren't broken up or anything like that, but sometimes i feel like we have lost some of the sparks that used to be there when we flirted with each other and tried to impress each other and all that jazz. any ideas on how to bring that element back into our relationship would be great.... it sucks sometimes to not really have time to miss each other and stuff like that.
thank you.

2006-11-20 05:54:38 · 32 answers · asked by don't be rude. 3

Serious Answer only Please! am 33, married with 3 kids. My husband and i seem to have the worst luck. I have many finacial problems right now trust me! I need a car and Need help so bad. Trust me life doesn't alwys seem fair. I have so much love for my kids and for my family, that it hurts being so far in debt. My husbands hours cut down so much, and we keep Robbing Peter to pay Paul. we even recently got trapped in cash advance places to try to help. I am telling you sometime i wish that someone would donate a helping hand my way. Do you ever feel like those who don't try get all the extra help through life and those who never quit get a big kick in the face? right now as bad as this sound, my husband and I have to vehicles( both old vans) I swear to you the white one my husband is driving hasd no revers, it has to roll out of the driveway, doesn't go past 2nd gear. the other no forward. we got a pay advance for a $600.car. Every bill is behind. I swear we Try everything HELP!

2006-11-20 05:54:30 · 7 answers · asked by Ruthie38 2

That is my impression now. He is competley destroying his professional, family and personal life by becoming irresponsible. (Not completing assignments, not paying his bills, alienating his family.) The people who tell me I don't have the heart to say "I don't care, sounds like a personal problem." Anyone have this experience?

2006-11-20 05:44:54 · 8 answers · asked by terry g 1

I have been married for 5 yrs. My HB and I have 2 girls, ages 4 1/2 and 2 1/2. HB is a wonderful father & good man. Thing is, for the past 5 yrs I have been alone. He is the head high school fb coach and a teacher. He's very busy. When we did have time together, i felt like he ignored me.We had 1 hr in the morn. before the girls got up to talk. I begged him to turn the radio off, he never did. When we would go somewhere, I would beg him to sit with me, he was always busy with someone else. Never wants to take me or the girls anywhere. Never tells me I am pretty/beautiful/cute. Just says "you look nice."I want to be cute. He told me on the phone the other day that a girl was cute (she was standing beside him). We are at a skating party, i said "look at our daughter talking to that little boy, they are going to get married and have beautiful kids." He said, "her mom and I could have beautiful kids." Meanwhile, I found someone(not looking)whom treats me wonderful. Im in counseling.

2006-11-20 05:44:23 · 21 answers · asked by Amy B 1

My wife and I have been married for a few years. She is going to inherit some money and on the advice of her parent she wants me to sign a post nuptial agreement. The reason this parent is pushing for me to sign is because the money is being inherited due to my wife losing her other parent in an accident. My wife and I have had our ups and downs throughout our marriage but I have no intention of taking her money and I don't like the idea of having a paper looming over me. I have told my wife that I am not going to sign these papers and she said that the only reason it should be a problem is if we get divorced - then I won't get half of her money. I don't look at it that way - i look at it like I am married to her and her post nuptial aggreement and neither her nor her family trusts me - what should I do?

2006-11-20 05:43:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-20 05:41:35 · 5 answers · asked by Lee Anne S 1

I have been married for 6 years and with my husand for 8. We dated for two months and I got pregnant, I am starting to think I just made everything work because that was the right thing to do, now I think I might have settled. He is a good man but I don't have the passion I think I should have with someone. We are secure and he treats me good I am just not happy and don't know why. We also have a two year old now. Am I normal or unhappy?

2006-11-20 05:38:03 · 18 answers · asked by susan 1

is he leading a double life? they have one 6yr.child together, a home,car, and all that. he wants to be in control and smacks her when they argue. plans a day for the family,then gets mad and stays gone all day,?at friends house,male friend is a cheater also. he is a truck driver. really jealous,but controlling and leaves.

2006-11-20 05:30:21 · 10 answers · asked by granny 3