respect it? He's said that we've gone through too much everyday since we've been married (we've only been married for a year) but should I respect that and give him his time? and if so should I continue to do the things that made him fall in love with me to begin with? Let me just say nothing was to the degree where infidelity was involved but more of insecurities, jealousy, and financial issues. What do I do in the meantime of waiting on his decision?
2006-11-20 06:17:20 · 9 answers · asked by bettyspagettii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't necessarily agree with a "time out". If it's problems in the marriage, you should both be in agreement to work it out...together.
Perhaps a better solution would be to agree to work on issues together. Set a time for resolution, say 6 months to do a relation check to see if you really belong together or not.
2006-11-20 06:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only a year, how do you feel about him?? most of the time a person asks for time to think about a relationship and leaves the home, ( you did not say if he did ) it is a big warning sign that they will be out screwing around,
you need to look at it this way,, is this someone you can see your self married to in 5 years,, sit down with a paper,, write the pluses of the marriage and write the negatives of it,
2006-11-20 06:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're married I don't believe in time out...Once you past the 24 hours and not coming to any agreement or atleast convesation...That's pretty much down hill from there...Always tell your husband how you feel...Don't ever let one issue slip away...Even though you feel it's the littlest thing, or just not a big deal..Trust me it will be a big deal later on...
2006-11-20 06:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by $&$& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give him a reasonable time frame to form a decision
ask him whats resonable and what you feel is resonable
form a compromise. I would think in terms of days or week, or 2 week
while like this, dont be rude, dont be loving, be polite and distant
2006-11-20 06:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really only have 2 choices: give him time or get divorced. If he wants time, he will take it whether you give it to him or not. I know this hurts you and I hope that things work out the way that you want them to.
2006-11-20 08:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest couseling b.c you are in a marriage and his decision affects you as well. and i would like to know what he thought marriage was going to be... with fun there is always hardships and better to go through those hardships with someone you love. again get acounselr and if you decide give him his space if he wont go to the counsler you still should.
2006-11-20 06:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So hes asking for space...... or he's having second thoughts weather to continue on with this relationship? This includes you so i think you should talk to him what the pro and con are?
2006-11-20 06:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a marriage counselor.
Other than that, you won't be able to force him to do anything, so yielding some space may help.
2006-11-20 06:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No move on chances are he already has
2006-11-20 06:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋