Marriage & Divorce - 20 November 2006

my soon to be exhusband keeps lieing to our doughter saying he will come see her than he dont show up and she takes it out on me she is only 4 and she dont understand that i did not do it

2006-11-20 19:29:02 · 5 answers · asked by tamiwalker 1

I am currently separated from my husband, soon to be divorced. I am, a "lieing, cheating, whore" in his eyes, although he is the one that got caught by me, naked in bed with a woman who was also naked.(says they didnt have sex, so its not cheating) anyway, he writes letters and text messages me about 3 to 10 times a day stating how much he loves me, wants me, etc. I, on the other hand have a difficult time understanding how he can possibly call this love when he calls me those things I mentioned above, at the same time he claims his love for me... hmm, I think someone needs to re- define what Love is, for me. Better yet, for him!

2006-11-20 19:25:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have two best friends we all look about as different as can be but if I do say so myself we are all pretty attractive. My husband likes short girls with dark skin just like my friend *Terri her husband likes tall/ willowy girls just like my friends *Sarah and her husband likes blonde small curvey girls just like me. We are all so jealous of each other and think our husbands think the other one is prettier. It's actually ridiculous but what I am wondering is do most men tell their wives that they actually prefer other body types or haircolors? It's weird that all of ours did. We all knew each other and our husbands knew all of us. So why did they pick us if we weren't the "type" they wanted??? My husband says it is my personality .. but why didn't he "try" with my friend first if that is what he is most attracted to. Ladies do you sometimes feel jealous when your girlfriends are around your husband not that anything will happen you just want him to think you are prettier. Just curious

2006-11-20 19:24:37 · 7 answers · asked by lovealabamagirl 1

As i stated he is married, and i said i would be his friend throughout his deployment. I didnt say i was going to interfere with the marriage when he is back home. That is his decision not mine & I wont be the cause of any issues then. But I promised no matter what i would be his friend throughout the deployment, I do not bring up love, relationships or anything of the sort right now he has enough to worry about and handle without some emotional mess added to it. Do you think that its ok to stay friends during this time as long as i am sure to keep the emotions in check?

2006-11-20 19:23:53 · 2 answers · asked by sweetkisz 2

2006-11-20 19:19:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-20 19:16:09 · 13 answers · asked by maggi_essam 2

next month i will turn 30 years old. i am married and have been for 10 years but we have no children together. what should my husband and i do for my birthday?

2006-11-20 19:14:56 · 8 answers · asked by beckdawgydawg 4

I lived with this man & we split up and within a month he got married then deployed, he has told me it was out of fear of being alone. I went to his base right before he went out of country and spent the night with him. He told me he still loves me and he wants us to be together yet he does have a wife in his house when he returns. Should i let it go? I cant stop talking to him I promised that no matter what i would at least be his friend throughout this deployment. I wont walk away from that promise. But when he gets home what should i do then?? HELP!

2006-11-20 19:10:18 · 16 answers · asked by sweetkisz 2

2006-11-20 19:10:09 · 22 answers · asked by shanan g 1

2006-11-20 19:09:32 · 12 answers · asked by marincaligirl 3

I've been married a foreign man for over 15 years, we have been living in his country and we have 2 kids.
There are many different cultures, and I try to follow them, however I sometimes upset if he doesn't show me his understanding my difficult situation.
In here, it is very important keep in touch with the family, and my mother, father and sister (married) in low visit us and have dinner together quit often once or twice a week, this is too much for me.
The reason, to gather in my house, we have a baby sitter also doing house keeping including cooking, this make them feel easier to visit us even if I'm working full time.
I have agued with my husband many times, however he doesn't want to understand me, and just push me his (their) way.
I want to ask to people who married a foreign, what's kind of problem you have, and how you solve ?

2006-11-20 19:09:19 · 4 answers · asked by kiraz 1

My fiancee is out of the country now and said that he does not want any men in my house, particualry a childhood friend that is a male that i had sex with before one time. So i called my friend who has never met my fiancee and told him that he cant come to my house anymore...........he was very upset but i feel that becuz we have had sex that my fiancee has every right to not want him at the house...........was i wrong?

2006-11-20 18:53:38 · 14 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2

My husband and I are getting a divorce. I have a daughter with him. All in all he isnt a good person unfortionatly I cant prove this is in court. He wants to fight for primary custody and I am afraid he will get are there other types of custody where we can split it or something? Any advice helps thanks.

2006-11-20 18:47:16 · 9 answers · asked by SunShineBabe 3

i've been married for 6yrs and have been fighting with my husband about this woman who is married and just entered my life a year ago for i felt that she is not quite honest but my husband insisted she is and even would refused to kick her out of our life even though i beged him to do so and i threatened him with divorce,he would always claim that they have nothing between them but friendship this has been going for1yr,couple months ago i found out that it was more then friendship and he admited and for having me back he asked her to get out of his life,he was the one who told me that he only hugged her twice and kissed her once on the lips and that he regret it we even went to church and he promised me there that he will never cheat on me ever again,since then he is praying every day without being embarsed which he never dd.still can't get over it even though i have to say that he was the perfect husband and the best father for our daughter,but my mind still can't explain or accept it

2006-11-20 18:25:00 · 20 answers · asked by maya7103 1

I don't get it. I mean I know women who won't like it when their men check out women on the street or lust after other women, yet let their men goto strip clubs? Why?? it makes no sense! How is watching a naked women dance around you and give you a lapdance any different than askin any chick you know to take off her clothes and dance for you behind your chicks back?? (Most women would have a problem with that and consider that somewat cheating). So if they have a problem with any random chick doing it, why do they let their men goto strip clubs and have strippers entertain them knowing they are lusting after them and using them for eyecandy and not thinking of their women at home and by that putting their relationship at risk for cheating??

2006-11-20 18:15:52 · 20 answers · asked by SmartyPants82 2

2006-11-20 18:10:15 · 13 answers · asked by fm_aqua 1

I am the wife of a man who plays in a band. We are not young (middle aged) He has cheated on me many many times in our 12 years of marriage, we are not living together at the moment because of this. However, we do just about everything together. Really, nothing has changed except that we have seperate houses. I will never be able to trust him, he has proven that. I know he will never be faithful. The good thing is, he helps me when things need fixing around the house, we go on vacations and he is not selfish with his finances. So, what do I do? As much as I can't stand the fact that I can't trust him at all, I am just as afraid to let him go completely. Why? I guess because I know I can count on him when I really need him. But is this any reason to accept this situation and keep doing what we're doing? Help, someone, please, what would you do if you were me?

2006-11-20 18:06:14 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

and what I got after marriage was lies, tricks to keep me under control..., threats of killing and suicide..emotional, verbal and physical abuse, I tried to make things work out...but no use...even I wished to wait for baby for a year as I was not sure about things working out between me and my husband...but was tricked into pregnancy too.....Now I hate everybody there and have been at parents house from 3 months and want a divorce ..mutual one without any fuss...he wants me back but I cant tolerate it anymore...can you get a divorce without going to the court?

2006-11-20 18:01:52 · 22 answers · asked by curious 1

anal sex, can it be stopped when married

2006-11-20 17:50:17 · 4 answers · asked by mischellebeck 1

We've been together 4 years. 1 baby. He talks of marriage. But I don't like his porn habit. It's so sneaky (while I'm sleeping, showering, away) It's always teens, hot young models. We're both in our 30's. I've gained weight from the preg I'm now 143 lbs. at 5'4" 34 DD. but even when I was in super shape from stripping, it was always young girls on the web. In the time we've been together, we've both gained weight, and he's fatter than me. His porn habit has me feeling angry, hurt, fat, old, ugly. We've talked about it. He says it's an addiction. And I've tried the tit-for-tat game. It doesn't work. He doesn't care what I do online as long as I'm not chatting or on some date site. I can't cancel the internet, because I'm doing online schooling. But I want him to stop. Of course he won't look at porn with me, I've tried. Foreplay has long since been over. I don't even get kissed anymore, except occasional closed mouthed kisses. What do I do?

2006-11-20 17:49:52 · 12 answers · asked by manywarhoops 3

2006-11-20 17:46:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is a belief that my mother in law teaching her daughter who is my wife. Me and my wife have two kids and seperated. I was asking my wife about her intentions in the future and her mother was also there. Her mother could not hold herself from stating that she(her daughter) doesn't need man anymore because she had what she needed from man. I was stunned by it. Why does mother tell this to her daughter? She doesn't want her daughter to commit to any relationship or what is going on. My wife lives with my mother in law. Somebody told me about her belief about 4 years ago and I did not believe the person who told me this. But now i have heard it myself so i cannot say that i did not hear it. Please tell me what is going on and what is best option for me. Also it is me who is trying to reconciliate with my wife for last 2 years.

2006-11-20 17:44:41 · 9 answers · asked by mrPablo 1

We met over 18 months ago. He is 18 yrs older than I but sex is outta this world, although we are both married to others we enjoy what time we have together; and are so copatible.Get to see each other at least once a week for a romp in the hay more satisfaction from him than my spouse. DIVORCE is outta the question. HE and I like just have sex and talk.WE dont expect anything to happen in our relationship at this point. Just need a release from tension.He and I make each other whole till the next time.We both say we love each other.

2006-11-20 17:42:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is filing divorce against me due to her extra marital reasons. Court order me to pay my wife maintenance!! Does the law encourage women to fling and let the man suffer?

2006-11-20 17:37:03 · 8 answers · asked by zul_zoom 1

Twenty-three years and I still wonder how to get along with my wife...Where do her swear words and anger come from, when I never yell or swear? Such a mystery... I am not questioning the worth of marriage, I am a far better being because of it. Anger causes needless suffering yes?

2006-11-20 17:21:54 · 9 answers · asked by monk 2

We have been together for about 5 years. we got married about 3 months ago, I know this is bad to have cold feet after the wedding but...about a year ago I did some some bad things, I got into drugs and ended up cheating on her....a couple of times. but she had the heart to take me back and sober me up. the problem is that I still kindof want to do drugs on a recreational basis and I find i still have a wondering eye sometimes and think, is there something better. should I leave her and let her find someone better than I? I have told her she sould leave me but she dosent want to. she says she loves me and I do love her too.

2006-11-20 17:08:43 · 18 answers · asked by bungalo 1

i am a virgin, waiting till marriage... im 20 years old
but my boyfriend sometimes plays with me (manually) and i never come... even when i TRY to to it on my own, i cant... i can only reach it when we have dry sex (that means simluating sex but with clothes on)... how will i know if i will ever have an orgasm during sex? it freaks me out that not ONCE have i come during fing....ring
and dont tell me to find out what i like because ive tried and i dont like ANYTHING.. not even with myself.. whats wrong with me
is it harder to achieve it with manual than by normal sex?

2006-11-20 16:59:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-20 16:52:10 · 8 answers · asked by Bridhichand S 1

how to get a quick divorce? irreconsiable differences. married for 1 year. together for 3 years. tried everything.

2006-11-20 16:42:19 · 5 answers · asked by maddy 2

It's been many years, there has been great joy and happiness since, but it's there, I'm afraid it always will be....

2006-11-20 16:34:50 · 23 answers · asked by Brianne 3