2006-11-20 19:19:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Recognizing that passion has taken a downward turn is the first step toward correcting it. A couple that is committed to maintaining a quality relationship will monitor it carefully. They will discuss their declining passion and will seek ways to restore aliveness and pleasure. This is a marriage that is in a constant state of creation.
I am fond of telling people that love is a verb not a noun. Love doesn't just happen. You don't "trip" into love and you don't "fall" into love. Real love and passion is something that two people must work at together.
A good sexual relationship is nothing more than good communication. To communicate, first and foremost, you need to know how to listen. To listen you have to get out of your own way. You need to empty your head of your arguments, preconceived notions, expectations and opinions and then be open with your entire being to what the other is communicating.
No small task.
Good sex is a function of learning how to listen. Many of us carry a great deal of baggage into our bedrooms. That baggage might be parental or religious do's and don'ts or some image based on grade Z movies about how a great lover is supposed to perform. While he is worrying about duplicating the sexual gymnastics of some mythical Hollywood lover, she is feeling abandoned.
Both men and women need to let go of trying to prove themselves to one another and learn to satisfy one another. When they achieve that goal, their reward will be a passionate and loving relationship.
2006-11-20 23:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i try-ed to bring back the spark in my relationship with my ex.boyfriend and it took me 3 years to realize that he didn't want the spark back.if he is not trying to make any mores to get it back he might not want it.and don't Ly to your self the signs are there SIGNS-u always make the first move,(if he make the first move and all y'all do is have sex and he roll over r leave, that move was about getting some) if u have to say i love u first then he say it that 2 is a sign,
2006-11-21 03:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by breab360 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to find it in your heart to work with the issues that have brought you to this point & speak from a place of love, at the end of the day if you have a solid foundation & you will get past this..... Meanwhile work on making yourself ready for the next stage. e.g do things that make you happy.... This raises another question, how can one have a satisfying relationship when one isn't satisfied with oneself?!
2006-11-21 03:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Realness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to rekindle the flame of that new relationship by learning something new together. go to dance class together or pottery or really anything that makes the two of you have to work closely together. those types of activities tend the ease the hum drum lives of those who have been married a while.
2006-11-21 03:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thatnot something to ask yahoo people online you got to know your spouse or whoever in order to bring it back. If you met at a place take her back and romance it up.
2006-11-21 03:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go somewhere u guys went when u first dated remember the old time then u will realize how crazy u were about each other
2006-11-21 03:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it fresh friend! do little things. Leave love notes,small gifts. Make room for quality time. and let your other half know there still the one....
2006-11-21 03:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to learn to appreciate each other'.you can do this by looking around at the world and realizing how lucky you are just to have somone.
2006-11-21 03:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by telecaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the things you both enjoyed doing before-hand....and try not to make those same wrong mistake's twice..
2006-11-21 03:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋