I am currently separated from my husband, soon to be divorced. I am, a "lieing, cheating, whore" in his eyes, although he is the one that got caught by me, naked in bed with a woman who was also naked.(says they didnt have sex, so its not cheating) anyway, he writes letters and text messages me about 3 to 10 times a day stating how much he loves me, wants me, etc. I, on the other hand have a difficult time understanding how he can possibly call this love when he calls me those things I mentioned above, at the same time he claims his love for me... hmm, I think someone needs to re- define what Love is, for me. Better yet, for him!
2006-11-20 19:25:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I HAVE TO SHARE THE LATEST, MY FRIEND AND i WERE CHATTING ON LINE TONIGHT, AND SHE TRIED HITTIN ON HIM JUST TO SEE IF HES FOR REAL, IN REGARDS TO THE LIES HES BEEN FEEDING ME. SURE ENOUGH HE FELL RIGHT INTO IT! when will i finally get it?! he will never change.
2006-11-20 21:58:51 · update #1
Love is loyal.
Love is wanting the best for the other person.
Love is compromising and working things out in a way that you both can win.
Love is finding common ground.
Love is trying to come together in a way that makes the world a better place.
Love is selfless.
Love is caring about the other person’s emotional needs and feelings.
What Lust is…
Lust is self-gratification.
Lust can be obsessive.
Lust is usually tied to sexual gratification.
Lust is selfish.
Lust doesn’t consider the other persons wants and needs.
Lust doesn’t care about how the other person’s day went.
When someone’s in lust they aren’t interested in meeting family or friends.
Lust is wanting something to the point that you don’t care who gets hurt.
Lust manipulates, destroys and controls.
Lust often involves raging.
People who lusts may think they are in love, but the fire burns out quickly when they get the person or thing they lust for.
Lust doesn’t last, but love can.
2006-11-20 23:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a battle- which you are in-remember"fool me once-shame on you- fool me twice..." don't get fooled- soething about wanting what you can't have. The one truelly looking for you is out there my dear- love can be many things, and you have things good and bad to learn from your relationship- remember hate or revenge etc only hurts you-sounds like he is a child and you need a man, who can also laugh with you and be your friend while you live a good life together (with good rolls in the hay) I found one at 30 and he was just 22- its been 20 years and high or low- he was always my husband- the problems were never about a lack of trust, jusy\t getting to "see" and know each other. Go be happy with someone better suited to a partnership!
2006-11-20 19:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 12:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just left a marriage that was emotionally abusive. There is nothing loving about someone calling you names. The only way he can feel good about himself is to put you down. No matter what he says he was having an affair. The way he's acting isn't love. Unless he's willing to make a commitment to go get help then I wouldn't go back.
I have this pact with my girlfriends that unless a relationship with a man has LOVE HONOR AND RESPECT then it isn't a relationship worth keeping. You are a worthy person and deserve love honor and respect
2006-11-20 19:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by seeshelbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet venting felt good! It must be a confusing and frustrating experience for the both of you. I'm sure he feels love for you, but to express it and to live it is difficult for him. People who are products of dysfunctional families tend to bring their dysfunction into current relationships, so that is an explanation for the cheating and not an excuse for it. If you really want to give him a chance, hit that couples therapy with the goal of "behavior modification". If he can't learn to have a healthy relationship with you, then you really should consider bailing. I'm not sure if it's the case in your situation, but sometimes women do things that drive men away... if and when you go to therapy, be sure to listen to his deepest feelings, be accountable for your behavior, but don't let him turn the tables on you like it's all your fault. Good luck.
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I know I didn't directly answer your question, but love is an emotion, which by nature tends to be irrational. Your question was kind of rhetorical anyways.
2006-11-20 19:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Zloar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is overlooking someone's faults and never even thinking twice about it. (no resentment) Willing to make sacrifices for this person, because you know in your heart they would do the same for you. Always being there for them because you know they will be there for you. Not being able to even imagine life without them.
I think love is when the longer your together the closer you become. And sometimes it takes a while to get there, and that is when the patience and understanding needs to be intack for both people. Having faith that they will get there.
Anyways, that is what I think love is.
2006-11-20 23:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is consideration and truth and honesty and loyalty and putting ones feelings above your own.and not wanting to hurt that person ever and not allowing that person to be hurt love is being able to say you are sorry and mean it love is understanding one another and above all love is selflessness love sometimes hurts but love should never be taken lightly.the l in love stands for loyalty the o stands for overcoming the v stands for virtue and the e stands for eternity. and the person you say you love should never wonder if you really love them.love is so many things but to mention them all would take to long but love should never make you mad or be weary.if you cry and worry more then you laugh and relax.love is not the top priority in someones life.
2006-11-20 19:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by kathy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Love is a desire, that is a hidden feeling of your soul .
2. Love is a pain which can't be described, it only feels, who is addicted of it.
3. Love contains perdictions of hope, dreams and life.
4. Love can't be measured by weights or a sketch in a picture.
5. Trust me love can be seen in the tears of a lover.
2006-11-20 19:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by GS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that... Love these days is really weird thing ha? I didn't find any true love yet, but i can tell you when someone love it would be impossible for him/her to cheat...
2006-11-20 19:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, if you can describe it then you are not in it.
i once loved a woman so much words could not describe my fellings, that's love.
He'll cheat on u again, don't fall for his lies.
good luck, i wish you love
2006-11-20 19:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by jawtar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋