i am a virgin, waiting till marriage... im 20 years old
but my boyfriend sometimes plays with me (manually) and i never come... even when i TRY to to it on my own, i cant... i can only reach it when we have dry sex (that means simluating sex but with clothes on)... how will i know if i will ever have an orgasm during sex? it freaks me out that not ONCE have i come during fing....ring
and dont tell me to find out what i like because ive tried and i dont like ANYTHING.. not even with myself.. whats wrong with me
is it harder to achieve it with manual than by normal sex?
2006-11-20 16:59:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with you - many women are and were in the same position that you are in now. As I understand it, it is just harder for young women to have orgasm - but as you get closer to 30 it gets easier and easier, until you are 40 and then I hear it's even better.
So don't worry, it will happen.
Peace!
2006-11-20 17:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but I say try anything and everything. It may be just a start that the dry humping helps, and you know that manual touching doesn't work. Maybe you need varying types of pressure on your vaginal area. Try all kinds of things. Don't give up or be relentless. Try longer versions of fore play. Let him kiss and touch different parts of you for a certain amount of time. You just can't say that you have tried everything. Your only 20 and I'm going on 20 as well. Just don't give up on yourself.
2006-11-20 17:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might be focusing too much on achieving an orgasm. try to relax and just enjoy your boyfriends touch. when with the right person, sex can be fulfilling even without an orgasm. Enjoy the moment...and you'll be surprised what pleasure follows. Just remember, for girls orgasms are sometimes more emotion than physical...
2006-11-20 17:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by loodoogal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I read in one book it says only 10% women in the worls had orgasm because men does not know how to make women orgasm. Ask your boy friend to give more foreplay
2006-11-20 21:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than likely you will *** when you start having vaginal sex, i have never came when been fingered or have participated in oral sex, bu when i'm having vaginal sex i come almost immediately. Some people's bodies just like some ways better than others.
2006-11-20 17:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just if your ready, and I think you are,, dry sex, oh come on.it's fun, but you are ready for the real thing. sweetie... have an orgasm. we need it. Men can do without. sorry,, I am feeling like this.
2006-11-20 17:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just love what you are doing. Then only it will be interesting. I am not a women, I am man. Having sex with your boy friend is not a bad one. If you have only one boy friend. If you feel it is mistake then don't do it forever until you got married. Just be patient. Don't feel anything. Have nice sex with your friend.
2006-11-20 17:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Karthick N 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well...i think u need to explore yourself by yourself and not be afraid and get to know what you like first. you cant tell any man what you like or what to do if you dont know what you want. masturbation is natural.
also, open up your mind to another women....that might something to think about. women know what women like!
2006-11-20 17:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry...but you dry hump...you have finger penetration...why do people still consider themselves virgins...you may as well go for it...technically you are not a virgin....as far as the question goes...relax it will happen but if that's all that is on your mind you probably are preventing it yourself
2006-11-20 17:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
whoa....maybe you gotta have sex
2006-11-20 17:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋