I have a very low self estime, which I am working on, but I want to be in a commited relationship that will someday lead to marrige. Do you think it is no longer a posibility for a woman that will b turning 28 soon with a 9 yr child.
2006-11-20 06:25:52 · 15 answers · asked by castillo5247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ive seen someone in their 30's with 5 children get married... so don't feel like you're past your "prime" to settle down. First, I think you should work on your self esteem because if you go into a relationship with low self esteem, you run the possibility of ending up with someone who isn't healthy for you simply because you want to be in a relationship. You can't look to someone else to validate you and make you feel good about yourself...you have to do that on your own....you can't love someone until you love yourself.
2006-11-20 06:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by bscottsbabygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex boyfriend is just PO'd that he is your EX. Dont listen to the dweeb.
Now what are you doing to get your life better? You are single and have a child...that is a free ticket through college. You can get grants and books to pay for everything in most states. So go back to college and get yourself a hot, smart guy. Make yourself interesting and people will be interested in you - whether you are 28 or 48. If you just sit around with a dead end job and feeling sorry for yourself, no one will be interested. Get up and get going! Dont want to go back to school? Find other ways to improve yourself.
Also - when you have got yourself going - run a personal ad for a nice guy and mention you have a 9 year old. There are TONS of single nice dads with kids who would be very interested.
I was single with a child at 38 and found a great guy who is now my hubby. I went from being a poor single mom to a college grad in biology with a great job and a nice hubby. But it came with a lot of hard work. I found most educated guys with good jobs want someone who is a college grad too. I wasnt a great student so it was a long hard time getting through a tough subject but it was WORTH it! And there are lot of great guys in college you might meet too.
Peace!
2006-11-20 15:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Blondana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely it is a possibility.
Your ex is just a "bad breaker-upper" and a jerk. Ignore him.
I was 28 with a 12 year old son and met a great guy. We got married by the time I was 32. Regretfully it didn't last, but then I met a better guy at 35 and a darling 1yr old daughter at 39.
Things will get better and work out, don't listen to him.
2006-11-20 14:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. I don't think there is ever a point where you become "unmarriable" in America. I've seen mothers with 15 year old kids marry, brand new moms who realized the father wasn't the right man marry someone else, and on and on.
If you put yourself out there, I think you'll meet someone wonderful, though it does take courage and a little time.
2006-11-20 14:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for a 28yr old women to still get marride and have a child. Just place yourslef out in the world and you'll see what happenes. Don't listen to people i mean sometimes it may be good but sometimes their commits are wrong so stick wiht somethign that you think is right its not to late to for anything.
2006-11-20 14:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by young 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bollocks! There are millions of young single mothers who are getting married. Hell, my mom was 30-something with three kids (10, 10 and 8) and she STILL got married. Don't listen to your ex.
But remember, marriage is not the end all be all. It doesn't make you any less of a person for not being married..
2006-11-20 14:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay no attention to your ex boyfriend. He is trying to demean you by those comments that he makes. You can live without him. I think that it is very possible to find a comitted relationship, even with a child. There are still many good and decent men in the world, and sooner or later you will find each other.
2006-11-20 14:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should settle, if that's what you're asking. There is someone out there for everyone. The very first thing you have to do is build up your self-esteem. Figure out who you are as a person first, and then a relationship will follow.
2006-11-20 14:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by pixy_stix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is possible. People get married in their eighties even. You can find someone to marry if that is what you want. Don't sell yourself short. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-20 15:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure there's a possibility! Just hang on and don't give up hope because you never know what's around the next corner.
2006-11-20 14:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋