Marriage & Divorce - 19 November 2006

I gave birth to a daughter one year ago. She was a premie and things have been very difficult. For the sake of our unborn daughter, we had to stop having sex during pregnancy and never really have attempted since (maybe once). I am not really happy as I was before...my husband always second guesses me and never takes my opinion into consideration. With the birth of my premature daughter, he has continuously challenged any of the information relayed to me by trained doctors and seems willing to take chances with my daughter's health (i.e., bring her into crowded places)....She is a premie, so we have been told to keep her out of public places. Anyway, has anyone stayed in a marriage without sex. If so, for how long and why?

2006-11-19 19:33:07 · 17 answers · asked by Gina 1

I know I really hurt him. It had to do with his abuse as a child. I am completely stumped as to what to say or do to make it up to him.

2006-11-19 19:09:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

There's a man I sort of know from a city I visit for work once in a while and we get along great. I found out from another in his office that he's married with a child, but he has never mentioned it to me. He doesn't hit on me directly but I do have his attention and we have been in situations where it would have been quite wise for him to let me know he is hitched. We have had many conversations where I think he had opportunity to let me know. I finally innocently mentioned it to him and he didn't deny it.

Is it because he shouldn't be required to tell me this kind of information? Am I totally off my rocker?

2006-11-19 19:03:25 · 13 answers · asked by carlaerickson 5

I know the situation is unusual in the first place, but it seems a liitle weird to get him a ring. Is there something else creative that I can do to show my love and commitment?

2006-11-19 18:57:53 · 11 answers · asked by Christy 2

2006-11-19 18:47:13 · 13 answers · asked by payman has lost his religion 4

My husband offend's me on a regualr basis and I tell him that it upsets me (what he says) But he just acts like it's a joke and then I get mad and he suddenly moves out of the 'Joke mood' and into the 'angry mood' within 2 seconds. Pleaseee helpp, I'm totally stuck!

2006-11-19 18:42:09 · 7 answers · asked by Melissa 4

My husband and I can never agree on anything and everything and anything I say he challenges even if I am right. I have made big mistakes by leaving a good relationship in the past - I don't want to make anymore mistakes, or have regrets. When I attempt to chat with him to tell him about my feelings it always turns into a fight. I feel like I am always wrong and he is not to sensitive when it comes to how I may be feeling. He feels that I have nothing to be unhappy about. Again, nothing I say seems to count - even when I have told him that I am not happy. We have grown extremely distant. I still love him very much, but there are things that just irk me about him. I gave birth to a daughter last year and don't want to deprive her of anything, but I also feel like I have to be true to myself and my feelings, so I can be a good mom. Also, I have issues with his family members...they truly don't like me too much. Very difficult situation would appreciate any and all advice. TY.

2006-11-19 18:40:07 · 9 answers · asked by Gina 1

We have been married for 10 years and have 4 kids. I was gone for a year and when I returned, she has been acting cold and distant. Almost like punishing me for being gone. It's been years now and she's still behaving like this. The romance has been sucked out of our marriage and now we dont even make love anymore. Is she cheating?

2006-11-19 18:35:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a guy promised to give u a day, but end up only spared less then two hours. What should I do?

2006-11-19 18:32:17 · 10 answers · asked by Blue Sapphire 1

Its about a relationship. I dated this girl for 3 years we had our own house and everything. I ended up taking her for grantite and we fought alot she wanted me to be there but i wasnt. She wanted a break and she took it we been broken up for 2 months. At first i tried asking for her back etc. then i stopped i didnt talk to her for a lil while then she called me and wanted to hang out with me and have dinner. She has done this a couple times she wants me to show her that i care by building our relationshup up again should i show her that i want that as well or should i just move on I LOVE HER and i think she still loves me is she just playing with me or does she wanna try

2006-11-19 18:27:11 · 11 answers · asked by Confused 1

2006-11-19 18:24:47 · 12 answers · asked by bgsfnstldy 2

when i take more responsible he tend to lazy down and avoid doing things which are easy for him to do??

2006-11-19 17:42:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

How does it work, or how do they figure up the amount of child support the father's fixed amount? What if the mother is remarried, the Hubby works and she has had another child with new hubby and chooses to stay at home instead of returning to work? Does this affect the amount the father pays even though the new hubby provides support and insurance? Also the father has not seen the child in over three years, and no attemps at contact AT ALL in that time. How is this handled???

2006-11-19 17:37:16 · 5 answers · asked by Country 4

I met a guy.I gave him my number. Everything seemed perfect until he told me he was married.he was honest with me from the beginning.I totally turned him down and told him I don't get down like that.he said he only wanted to be friends since we worked at the same place.I'm not stupid and left it at that.I told him that if he was expecting more than a friendship he was wasting time.time went on,I slowly fell in love w him.One thing led to another and we had sex.I wasn't the psycho type.I would never tell him to leave his family ever,but now this affair has gone on for almost two years.I moved away bout 1 yr ago but we still stay in touch and when I go home we see each other not sexually all the time.I have a boyfriend, but I can truly say I love the other one.He always said if he ever cheated it would have to be w/ someone better than her (me)he has told me he loves me,but he loves his son 2 much (understood).This is just 2 long to have been only 4 sex. Men, what does he really feel?

2006-11-19 17:34:11 · 19 answers · asked by anonymouslover 1

2006-11-19 17:00:10 · 18 answers · asked by angel 1

2006-11-19 16:55:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last week at a going away party for a male bartender at a bar and
resturant the following discussion occured. The bartender said he
was leaving the area because he gets letters demanding $19,000.00 dollars in back child support. He fumed,"it is the women
who are obsessed with having children", let them support them".
the men clapped. "Besides, he said, if I was a woman I would protect
myself". The men clapped and hooted. Should men be forced to pay child support? what do you think?

2006-11-19 16:52:09 · 39 answers · asked by CODY 2

My boyfriend of 4 years cheated the girl got pregnant and she is due dec 18th. She is saying she got pregnant on March 30 this dont add up! Can You help me calculate this!!!!!

2006-11-19 16:48:54 · 13 answers · asked by h_m_jcutie 1

i mean to say...can you have a better converse on yahoo answers than you can with your partner??i know i can!!

2006-11-19 16:48:16 · 29 answers · asked by free-spirit 5

well married for 8 y have 2 kids one 5 n one 2y old dont get along with her for 2 y now i wanna know in such a condition can i go in for a divorce she also agree that we both donot click. but have my doubts once her family gets involved she can create any problem

2006-11-19 16:47:35 · 9 answers · asked by ajaydelhi 1

My friend and her hubby have battled I want 2 more kids for yrs thing. She wants them her didnt. So the other day he went and got fixed without her knowing about it and he told her 2 days later .She is in shocked because I like she still wanted 2 more .They before marriage wanted 4 .He said about 5 yrs ago that once the bills were payed off and she worked full times they would . Well she is and did do this and he went and got fixed .. Waht do you think of this?

2006-11-19 16:40:44 · 11 answers · asked by iamblessed 6

Why did you marry him/her? What changed in between? Why did you divorce?

2006-11-19 16:36:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

This also bothers me as this cousin is very special to me.. She is 40 years old....married to a 40 y/o guy, they have been married for 20 years...they have two boys....19 and 18... My cousin earns more than her husband, she takes care of the finances...rent, car payments and bills. the husband helps out when he wanted to. he verbally abuses her....and yet when he is in a good mood, he treats her like a queen...and make her feel that she's the most beautiful and smart woman in the world. When she pours out her heartache to me..i can always say i wanted her to get out of the relationship but she never did. i introduced her to chatting in YM and she met lots of friends...now her husband is getting jealous of all of them to the extent of e-mailing them nasty stuff. my cousin is not cheating and yet...she told me that she wants out of this marriage because he never trusted her, always belittling her..calling her names. Do you think she's right that she wanted to divorce him?

2006-11-19 16:26:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

A few years ago my husband had an affair with my then best friend. I recently went out of town for the weekend and when I got back my husband said he wanted to let me know that she had called him because she said she was having a bad day. I find that a little hard to believe that after all this time she would feel comfortable enough to call and talk to him. I feel like maybe he isn't telling me everything. Am I being paranoid or am I justified in my feelings?

2006-11-19 16:19:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

The couple was married and has always resided in California. The husband wants to go to China to divorce his wife. Is this legal in California? Can he do this?

2006-11-19 16:19:24 · 6 answers · asked by Al 1

My husband is an immigrant who came here 6 months ago. Now he is a sweet man, but sometimes I feel resentful as my role as sole provider. He relies on me for everything! He speaks little English and he won't even go to the supermarket by himself. He doesn't work (but that's not quite his fault...he's waiting for a green card). He never wants to do anything...the only time he wants to go outside is go with me to the store so I buy him beer and cigarrettes. He watches animation ALL DAY! In other words, he makes no effort to adjust here.
We both lived in Korea (his country) and even I was the one who worked and provided the income. My husband has no ambition whatsoever and never really tried looking for a job or finding a passion in life. Whenever he feels down, he just drinks like crazy. Now, I'm not a golddigger looking for a man to provide for me, but am I wrong for feeling resentful of a man who cannot be indepedent? I'm tired of taking care of everything.

2006-11-19 16:08:07 · 30 answers · asked by Ms.Kimchi 1

How do i approach him with this marriage topic without being too pushy or creating discomfort to his part? He is away working oversea and calls me every night for the last four years till now. He comes back once every year. He is a workaholic who loves me very much and wouldn't let me go even after so long. I do not have much money but i would like to abroad where he is and work and live with him but do not qualify the strict migration requirements in Australia. He said he's not thinking about marriage yet... Help!!!

2006-11-19 15:59:48 · 16 answers · asked by Alisa Grace S 1

O.k My husband has two children from a previous marriage and they live in Santa Maria CA. and we live in Charleston SC. He only gets to see his kids in the summer right now but he always pays child support...Well thats really beside the point...We do not know how to handle christmas......I guess in Ca. kids are out of school a good chunk of Dec. His ex wife is wanting us to pay for the YMCA after school care and two weeks of full day care for two kids plus send christmas.....We can not afford that.... I guess I am looking for the best compromise that will not make my husband be the total bad guy. I thought maybe send some gifts but not as much as we could if we did not pay fot the YMCA and then pay for the after school care.... Then his ex wife could buy the kids gifts also if she chooses and the kids can either stay home alone( they are old enough) or she will need to pay for the YMCA. We just paid for the YMCA for Nov.any suggestions and compromise ideas would be appreciated. Thanks

2006-11-19 15:58:24 · 7 answers · asked by bambam0229 2

i guess he really doesn't love me

2006-11-19 15:57:51 · 27 answers · asked by chrissy s 1

can it be that he has done something and think I did to. Do you think he has cheated ? Buy the way he moved out a year ago but still comes around. He asked me for a year to see if thinks can be work out (our marrige).Do you think he has something going on with someone else? Should I even think of going back? He is verry abusive with his mouth. He tells me that no one will want to be with me because I have kids and talks about my acne and weight. Allways putting me down. I love him verry mutch I have 4 kids with him the oldest 16 the little one 11. Should I get him back? Has he cheated?

2006-11-19 15:55:49 · 19 answers · asked by gloisl 1