My friend and her hubby have battled I want 2 more kids for yrs thing. She wants them her didnt. So the other day he went and got fixed without her knowing about it and he told her 2 days later .She is in shocked because I like she still wanted 2 more .They before marriage wanted 4 .He said about 5 yrs ago that once the bills were payed off and she worked full times they would . Well she is and did do this and he went and got fixed .. Waht do you think of this?
2006-11-19 16:40:44 · 11 answers · asked by iamblessed 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That was really selfish of him. She deserves so much better. And what else is messed up is before they got married they had a plan. The plan was to have four kids, for him to go back on his word like that is plain selfish.
2006-11-19 17:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was was a little wrong. He should have at least told her what he was gonna do but you know the "my body, my choice" thing works both ways. If a woman can have an abortion, then a man can have a vasectomy. He had every right to do what he did. It is not fair for her to force more children on him. He is entitled to change his mind.
2006-11-20 01:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes wants and needs change and talking b4 marriage sounds all great but actually living with all the kiddies and day to day activities change. Man can have this reversed by the way.
My cousin and her husband did this too. THey talk bavk and forth as you say neither agrees and now its dealt with by him lol.
but he can have it changed back later if later they still feel like having more.
2006-11-20 04:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage involves communication and working together to solve differences. His doing this without her knowledge is deceptive and insensitive. It's a HUGE decision to make on his own without her having been consulted.
2006-11-20 00:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, the choice to have children should be agreed to by both people.
Personally I think he should have talked to her first, HOWEVER, it's his body, right?
Isn't that the argument a woman uses to abort? And I think that's a decision that should be made by both parents.
There's no clear cut right or wrong here.
2006-11-20 00:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a bit hard to understand you totally did not make any sense please learn how to write a sentence before you post something. I think that this not a question you have a right to ask, I mean it is your friend and everything, but that is her buisness on how to deal with it. Was he wrong of course, what do you think?
2006-11-20 02:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Huh???
How old are you?
What are you saying? Try asking this question in your native country, because no one who speaks or writes English has a clue as to what this says, sorry......
2006-11-20 01:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oooohhh!!!! That dirty DOG...no...wait...Wanda Sykes says "Men aren't dogs...dogs are loyal!!" That's horrible. I'm not married, so I can't say much, but that does sound horrible.
2006-11-20 00:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Alishia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dude is a dud. help her get a lawyer and really "fix" him!
2006-11-20 00:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he won't be spending money on any more kids, he can spend it on me.
2006-11-20 00:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋