If a guy promised to give u a day, but end up only spared less then two hours. What should I do?
2006-11-19 18:32:17 · 10 answers · asked by Blue Sapphire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it too shallow to dump a guy just because of not giving enough time, although that's not the first time?
2006-11-19 18:36:32 · update #1
Business is always the excuses. His phone ringing half of the time.
2006-11-19 18:41:00 · update #2
I understand that he is busy, that one for sure. But having intention to spend time to solve a matter and actually spending time to solved the matter, is 2 different things. Promising and Actually keeping to your promises. I'd like to be with him, but I'm run out of excuses to justify why I need to keep my commitment with someone who doesn't know how to keep a simple promises time and time again.
2006-11-19 19:05:20 · update #3
I never asked his time if it's for mushy mashy gossips or just chit chat.
The time I asked is for (I presume) serious matter, e.g. deciding house renovation, our parents matter, etc.
I aint that kinda gal that like to chit chat rubish whole day, infact I can't gossips unless with my gf.
I mean, if on bloody earth, he can only spare 2 hours, dont bloody earth tell me a day. And ask me if he can go office on weekend. People put effort to spare time whole day, to just get 2 hours. I can plan work to do in advance if he tell me that.
I'm simply too dissapointed now(again), to think about what work can be done.
Are guys born to be just plain liar?
2006-11-19 20:06:03 · update #4
If I need to take no feeling (or being drama, as some guys might said) on what happened, that will be the same as treating him as my customer.
Well, at least my customer economically justified for every single time I spare/wasted with them.
2006-11-19 20:18:39 · update #5
Although I appreaciate and happy for the time and monies he spent on our many many overseas trips, not exactly holiday, but we hardly discuss our serious stuff, during the trip. Something are just can't be discussed when the place are literally not right.
2006-11-19 20:59:15 · update #6
I don't know that there's much you can DO except be disappointed and tell him that you are. What did he say he had to do instead(if anything?) Does he make a habit of this or was this your first date? Did he seem to like being with you during the 2 hours or did he seem to be in a hurry to be elsewhere? These are questions you have to ask yourself or him. Personally, if somebody makes a promise to me it's a BIG black mark against them if they don't keep it without a good excuse!
2006-11-19 18:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what im hearing is his time is prescious and although he is busy he's trying to fit you in like a doctors appointment? tell him this is not acceptable. not in those terms of course. let him know you really like to see and be with him and you know he's a busy mman but that when you do make time to connect you would like to have his attention more than 2 hours. if he can't promise you that he will let you know keep in mind too he may have a busy day let him make the time when he is more free he will know his schedule with work. as long as your not always last on his list let him know your a priority too and not just another house call.
Maybe he isn't aware you feel this way. Try to really express how you feel and see what his response is if he then knows you want him with you and he says look honey its not going to happen then you have to decide if you can live with his arrangement. cause he aint' moving for you my dear.
its hard to know with all the facts i don't know his schedule and how often he does this with you and when you do spend the time together even if its a short 2 hours it could be an intense 2 hours of his undivided attention some guys can hang out all day on the couch and say less that 2 words. so I can't say for sure what this is witout knowing more.
Also be independent yourself you know don't sit around the phoen waiting for him. you get busy doing things too and make a date when you two can catch up then its back to work... happy medium im sure you can work something out that works for the both of you without giving him ultimatums and demanding him being here or there at a specific time. heck no one would want a chirper like that on there arm.
2006-11-20 03:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be really that busy, but you need to see how much effort he willing to put in to spend time with you. There are things he may need to handle on the spot and personally, but not all cases. If he willing to make other arrangement if possible inorder to spend more time with you, then you should stay on and observe further, if not, you should leave him.
2006-11-20 02:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be independent, and more scarce.
Time away and him seeing you successful will allow him time and opportunity to miss you. And think back to why they liked/loved you in the first place.
2006-11-20 03:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by purpleklipse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be flexible. Ask him to make-up for the unfilfilled hours.
2006-11-21 02:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. he obviously doesn't want to be with you or he would keep his promises and spend time with you..
2006-11-20 02:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it give him another chance and if does it agin that get the picture
2006-11-20 02:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by Cool gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont spend one second more thinking ........ next. true to yourself then truth will answer
2006-11-20 02:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by bikerdarby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him.
Or talk to him about it, and if things don't change then get rid of him.
2006-11-20 02:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not suitable for you. Dump him.
2006-11-20 06:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋