Its about a relationship. I dated this girl for 3 years we had our own house and everything. I ended up taking her for grantite and we fought alot she wanted me to be there but i wasnt. She wanted a break and she took it we been broken up for 2 months. At first i tried asking for her back etc. then i stopped i didnt talk to her for a lil while then she called me and wanted to hang out with me and have dinner. She has done this a couple times she wants me to show her that i care by building our relationshup up again should i show her that i want that as well or should i just move on I LOVE HER and i think she still loves me is she just playing with me or does she wanna try
2006-11-19 18:27:11 · 11 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is your opportunity to show her by your actions that things can change for the best. so now is your chance if u love her and treasure her show her by your actions things will change. she has come half way and met you, and has been open with her desires to have u back. definitly don't move on, we can learn alot about life if we can take a little critisism and not get all bent out of shape. we can always learn. depends if she is worth it to u, and your life would be better with her or without her. u love her so don't walk away, opportunity seldom knocks a second time, this is your chance to win her heart back. good luck.
2006-11-20 05:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying to see if you really care or not. You say you took her for granted. She may be looking for signs that you have changed. Romance her again and if she comes back don't take her for granted. Nobody says you can't have friends and do things that don't include her but you must work daily on a relationship of any kind to keep it going. When you are with her give her your attention. You said she wanted you to be there and you weren't. You need to figure out why you weren't and go from there. It is one thing to be lonely but to have someone in your life in be lonely that isn't a very good feeling. Put yourself in her place and see how you would have felt if she had done to you what you did to her. It seems to me like you are being childish and aren't ready for commitment if you are thinking of only yourself----especially with the statement you asked her back and they you didn't talk to her for awhile. You need to either commit to the relationship or let her go so she can find someone who truly cares about her.
2006-11-20 11:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by jacksonpappyswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you think she's playing with you she is trying to meet you half way she has even told you she wants to try again but go slowly and work on this at the same time she has hung out with you as you said a few times those are all green light signals. now if she's hanging out with other guys and coming back to you for handouts free dinners and money then i say no. but you didn't say that so it sounds like she's just weary of you and wants to see what your made of and how much your really care about this relationship she's watching you now.
ball is in your court good luck
2006-11-20 03:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give this a chance, your first step to fixing the relationship was to admit what you did wrong. You took her for granted and didn't appreciate her. Now it is time for you to SHOW her that you love her and do appreciate her. I don't believe she is playing a game, she sounds like she is honestly trying to get this relationship to work. So take it slow and go with it, and keep in mind friendship is the foundation to any relationship and that is what the two of you need to work on first, and it sounds like you are off to a good start...
2006-11-20 02:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all do you still want this relationship?? If you do then go out with her and get it started up again.. Women need a higher level of attention than men, if you were taking her for granted she felt insecure and got your attention by leaving.. Not the best solution to a fixable problem but affective none the less.. Now she's got your attention and if you want her back now's your chance..
2006-11-20 10:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well her even wanting to be around you after you were so distant is a hard thing to do. if you love her as you say you do id try fixing things. if she is playing you then you'll find out. if you love her, it is worth the risk. 3 years is a long time to spend with someone, why let those three years go to waste?
2006-11-20 02:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by linderlou2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
building a relationship takes two.who is she to come in and out of the relationship whenever she pleases? i believe she is playing games with you. this game that she's playing could go on forever until she is satisfied.do you want that?
2006-11-20 02:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to try again and since you still love her, why not give her another chance?
2006-11-20 02:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took her for, "granted" not, "grantite" or, "Granite." Maybe she wants to see if you have learned to spell yet.
2006-11-20 02:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Pincher 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2006-11-20 02:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋