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when i take more responsible he tend to lazy down and avoid doing things which are easy for him to do??

2006-11-19 17:42:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Couple start taking each other for granted when they reach that stage or they are in that comfort zone where they start feeling that even if something is not done by them the other will automatically take care of the same. They become lazy cause they know that the other person is always there to take care of things. And that is exactly why your husband is drifting from his responsibilities he knows for sure that you will do it with perfection.

The best way to overcome this kind of frustration is that the partner must sit and have a long talk. You have to sit and talk with him tell him that the marrige cycle runs on 2 tyers it stops when one does not give in imput.

I am sure he will understand. Then futher small things that the partners can do for each other are they should thank each other when they do something for you. Surprise them on and off with gifts or just cooking up a great meal. Making your spouse feel special and loved. and Last but not the least, there is no single recipe for marital success.

Novelist John Berger once said, "All weddings are similar, but all marriages are different." Every couple must find their own formula. So Go on and make your own!

So Good Luck and God Bless

2006-11-19 22:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0 0

you answered your own ?

he's lazy & why should he, ? he knows you're gonna do it his share anyway..

I griped for yrs., then one day it hit & it hit hard...

stop..............................................

so what if you have to step over his dirty laundry,

so what if he can't tell you he needed this, that & the other from the store till you came back from shopping,

so what , you can't get up ?, set your alarm clock or be late to work...

I was married to the " KING of LAZY "....( now divorced this year )

what a great feeling...

your children are one thing, but a grown adult, male or female...no excuse...they'll use you up...

having a 15 minute argument on taking out the trash, when it would have takin' 60 seconds ?

don't miss any & all of it....put your foot down girl...

you're not asking for the world ..

.hang in there...make it happen...

your sanity & peace of mind will be worth it...

have a great hoilday season...

get his butt in gear...

2006-11-19 18:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you and I have the same husband. We worked together in a job where we traveled constantly. It really took it's toll on me and he said I could quit and rest for a while. No biggy... he had it under control. Two weeks later (today) he quit his job. He had been fighting with them since I left. I have noticed that whever he wants me to work, he backs off and works less barely paying the bills. I'm trying to decide what to do now myself so I can't tell you what to do.

All I can say is that if everything else is good, it isn't worth throwing away. Really think about it and decide what is fair and good for you. Good luck!

2006-11-19 17:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i think of you ought to tell him the way you experience and then sit down lower back. do not start up up intercourse or something intimate and spot if he chases you. If he would not then issues are relatively undesirable. desire he will open up and inform you what that's nevertheless- something is definitely up- regardless of each thing you have basically been married a quick time, it relatively is atypical he isn't in a won't be in a position to maintain my hands off you section. do not freak out it ought to be that he's only under pressure approximately something. you may desire to get him to open up. ought to he in all probability be gay BTW? desire you may artwork it out.

2016-10-22 09:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

ya if you yourself is taking more responsibilities then its obvious that responsibilities from his shoulders are getting lowed up. so he will think that since she is ready to do then why should i give pain to myself. so just pass on some of your responsibilities and work on him and then he will do it. you yourself is the reason for your husbands lazyness. tell him to do this or that and i am sure he will do it. all the best.

2006-11-19 18:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The responsibility of a family in the hands of Husband as well as wife (both). The responsibility does not mean cooking, etc. or doing some kind of “house-hold” work alone.

The husband’s during the first few years of marriage they are more and more active or slowly adjusting with family life and are active. And some are more active and keeps it up for the coming years also (continue) But some are going backward like lazy or not taking any much decisions/action/active, etc. One of the reasons is some women talks unnecessarily to their husbands all the time, as man has a straight “thinking of things” and heart, but the women due to one or other reason spoils it somewhere in their life time and it make the man “very very different” in habit and the wives can not do anything except divorce, which is not the correct way in our society and the wives due to one or other way spoil their life (without adjusting).

Here some husbands are very “situation/circumstance understanding mannered people” and they know very well how to “play the role” and they make their life the best, in the society. This comes from their background, education, general knowledge, believes in God, etc. and other aspects of life.

I am a husband and know things around very well and manage situations/circumstances prevailing in the family/society life, would like to advice you girls/wives/women to always co-operate with your husband and make him happy and good to you/your life/children’s life, etc. Because man is indifferent – do not think even how a man response/reflects/act, etc. Do not try to play with your husband try to respect him and allow him to do things instead of you advise him to open bank account in a particular bank, etc. or deal with somebody on such a way you think (of your advise to him). Man always needs support from family/wife/etc to execute the things out-side.

Remember, I did a mistake buying a four wheeler about four year ago but my wife did not say anything to me because she knows that it happened by a chance not by myself. And she know that if she say she/me can not do anything first, and I do not care much about it. So do not play with your husbands unnecessary and make problems to your own life. Allow man to do things let them enjoy it and let them learn things by doing… they are like a child…. Do not interfere in such matters and later cry – remember nobody can help you please because you dears (including myself) are making problems to ourselves, please read and understand.

If your husband is “bone lazy” you can not do anything. And When somebody complaint we think that our husband/wife is like that (lazy) . And do not talk about one side alone?

Ladies, be patience in all things you do, don’t be hurry in life, things will change once, which even you will know! Only adjust with the circumstance as circumstance are more powerful than man and it will change gradually.

Wish you a happy married life. May God bless you in all path of your life.

Best of Luck

2006-11-19 18:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by SA-bic 4 · 0 1

I know many husbands that are very responsible.
I know many wives that are just like the husband you described.

Some people are responsible and some are not responsible. It doesn't matter if they are male or female.

2006-11-19 17:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by J T 6 · 1 1

That's called being a man, however the reason they don't do much is because we females let them get away with it. So make him do it.

2006-11-19 17:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

u don't take more responsibilities.
if any one is there doing for us , its human that they slip doing themselves.

2006-11-19 17:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

how many husbands have you seen, my dear ! stop making over-simplified generalizations like this !! please remember that your father is also a husband to someone ...

2006-11-19 22:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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