Marriage & Divorce - 28 October 2006

Even though I don't even have a girlfriend yet, I have the dream of being in a long, happy marriage with her. Do you think that's why I don't have a girlfriend? Am I setting my sights too high? Are my expectations too high? (Sometimes my dreams of finding her are also literal dreams I have at night.) If I'm expecting too much, then how are there couples out there who _do_ experience long, happy marriages? How did they find each other? Right now, I'm looking for the woman. I hope that kind of marriage results from our getting together. Any suggestions? Do you think it's romantic and reassuring to hear a man admit to having these thoughts and feelings?

2006-10-28 04:42:14 · 16 answers · asked by Eastern US Guy 2

I need something to symbolize the closeness of marriage - not RINGS

2006-10-28 04:41:08 · 8 answers · asked by agliotti 3

please help me , i am 40 my wife is 30 we have been together 14 years, we have 2 lovely children and i love her more than words can say. we both work full time but my wife says she loves me as a person but is not in love with me. yes we have taken each other for granted, me especially. she has now said that we move into seperate bedrooms and live as friends for the childrens sake, this will happen tonight, i love her so much but i cant seem to do anything right, she does not have another man i am sure of that. i am in pieces PLEASE HELP. oh i dont have or want another woman....

2006-10-28 04:33:04 · 39 answers · asked by tractortribe@btinternet.com 2

I am repeating this because apparently many of you didn't understand the question. Let me put it in other terms. Say your spouse left you for another. Then your spouse wants you to spend thanksgiving and christmas as a family. No "other "around Between Christmas and New Years your spouse does not want to talk to you and is cold even when you have to discuss the kids ( although extremely nice on the holidays and when attending church.) For several more weeks, you don't hear from your spouse. You then get a call asking you to help plan and attend a party for your kid. Again, no "other" is to be around. Doesn't it feel a bit like rent-a-spouse and that your spouse wants to have his or her cake and eat it too? I am not going to the party unless I hear something really logical. ( Not, "it's your kid." Exactly. So I am planning to have a cake and celebrate with a few of the neighbor kids when I have her next week. Two parties! Wow!) She must realize that marraige is not only when convenient

2006-10-28 04:30:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

He seems to have no desire to have sex. Last time was July, my birthday. Time before that was my birthday last year. Have asked him about this many, MANY times. I try not to make him feel badly, but it's making me feel so rejected and ugly. He is an alcoholic, and needs help in that regard. But this question deals with why he doesn't want to have sex. He is not cheating -- I'm sure of that. He doesn't have equipment failure. Last time I "suggested" it, I got him to erect, but still got turned down. "I'm too tired." I don't understand!!! When we first got married, we had a very active sex life.

2006-10-28 04:19:52 · 20 answers · asked by ? 6

It is important to be on common grounds about important topics before commiting to marriage to prevent some misuderstandings later.

2006-10-28 04:17:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been seeing a married man for 6 years and decided to give him an ultimatum last week (before Half term).

He says he can't live without me and his marriage is dead! He has two children still in school and has said he will have to stay to see this year out.

I have never asked him to leave and he assures me that he is not servicing any kind of emotional or physical relationship with his wife.

I left my husband 2 years ago and set up a lovely home in the hop that my b/f would join me.

I don't know how much longer I can wait or how I've managed to get to this point.

Now I'm sat at home alone and he's on holiday with his family.

When I gave the ultimatum he cried and told me i meant everything to him, then asked me the size of my ring finger??

Please help a tormented woman, I don't know what to do.

Only genuine and helpful answers please no time wasters
Thank you in advance

2006-10-28 04:15:17 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

Let me give you the short end on things:

My bf of a year and a half moved in together so I could finish college 4 hours away from our hometown about 4 months ago.

He wants to stay home & watch tv or play on the net...he doesn't help me around the apartment @ all...& I work & go to school...& cooking/cleaning/laundry is a bit much when I've got a lot going on and I have to pick up after an adult. Oh, and I drive almost everywhere b/c he's scared to.

We have no kids/pets.

He only works 32 hours a week. I work & go to school about 35 (not including homework & such).

Yes, I've tried to help him by making him drive places...but then he gets mad @ me. I've tried doing everything in hopes he feels sorry for me. I've tried talking to him numberous times. I've tried letting the apartment go.

Nothing works!

I've cried, begged, made threats to move...everything! I don't know what to do.

Leave or Stay...what should I do?

Please help-thanks :)

2006-10-28 04:07:59 · 24 answers · asked by {{birthday girlie}} 3

let's say, you financed their studies, but things don't turn out as planned...instead of having a career, she decides to settle down, and you're not sure if they will pursue having a career, do you think that money is wasted?

2006-10-28 04:04:30 · 14 answers · asked by sandy d 1

how long does a relationship go thru that honeymoon phase before reality sets in?......a married 42 yr old man leaves his family for a 21 yr old he lives with now.........will it last and this man has no money for this girl to take so its not the money

2006-10-28 03:57:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

im married at 22 with the love of my life, ready to settle and buy a house but my sister has been overseas for 3 years travelling and seeing the world. she thinks i married too young, i think shes missing out on love. which one would you choose. happy married life or independant adventurous life

2006-10-28 03:56:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

if you need to go to page two and read about my wifes fantasy and should i worry. next question.. I agree with the majority of you.. i like her fantasies, she wont cross the line i know that.. however i want to spice things up also.. so with the fantasy being said, girls especially want to hear your answer.. would it be ok since she does have a killer body to have her put on a mini dress and a g string and take her out dancing and let her feel sexy....she normally dont dress like that but it is part of her fantasy so if i buy her a tight little mini dress and a g string and take her to a club would that be ok. would most of you women like that?

2006-10-28 03:52:55 · 12 answers · asked by needingitnow342000 2

my hubby of 10 yr's seem's to be a Liar or good of friends with the women he works with.And has been caught by me flirting in a very sexual way with married and single co workers.Such as touching each other shoulder to shoulder or acting as though their wasn't enough room to go past her without touching her bottom quickly before passing by her.Seduceing each other with eye contact alone.It would go so far that the women would not hide the fact and flirt with my hubby with me right beside him. when I would visit on his lunch break.I accused him of having affairs.He denied even flirting with other women.I knew better though,he finally admitted to flirting and being a womanizer,but that he did not have a desire to go to bed with any of them and swears he has never even kissed another woman. Why would a married man have a desire to flirt with other women if he say's he has no desire to have sex with them.Don't all men if intensely flirting hope to have sex.If not then why ?Am I being a fo

2006-10-28 03:51:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been together over 3 years and he's mentioned this at least a dozen times. (This was a guy he knew about ten years ago.) I don't know how the subject comes up but he usually says something like " this old buddy of mine married a stripper, she made a ton of money AND she has a masters degree. She was really nice and never cheated on him. When he tells me I don't say much and ignore him but last night we got into an argument about it. He said if somebody likes your body and wanted you to work in their club I'd be ok with it. I was offered a stripping job before I met him but I declined. He couldn't believe I turned down such a job (!?) I told him if you take your clothes off for money for strangers that makes you a skank no matter how nice you are. He doesn't go to strip clubs, he's only been to a few before he met me. He says they don't turn him on because he "can't do anything with them anyway." I couldn't care less about it but why does he insist on bringing it up...

2006-10-28 03:43:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband decided he wanted to be single again & he moved out. This has been really hard on our 5 yr old. We try to be nice to each other for her sake. But she still misses him so much. She cries for him every night. Whenever she starts crying for him, I dial his phone number so she can talk to him. Lately she has been having more temper tantrums & after they are over she always starts asking where her dad is. I just try to reassure that just because daddy lives somewhere else he still loves her. He visits her about 2-3 times a week. Katie used to be such a happy little girl, but she is changing. She's picking up insecure habits & has started sleeping with me again. I just try to let her know that Mommy will always be here, because now she's asking when am I going to go away too. I tell her that Mommy is NOT going anywhere. but she doesn't believe me. How do I get my little girl to be happy again?

2006-10-28 03:40:44 · 26 answers · asked by Amy 3

2006-10-28 03:39:00 · 13 answers · asked by Reina S. 1

My wife and I have been married for 10 years and last night we fought over some money issues (we are in major debt) and are currently going thru debt councilling. My wife says she does not love me any longer and thinks that I am a bad father (which breaks my heart because I love my boys with all of my heart). I know I haven't been the best at earning a living ( no education) and have been out of work for a few months during our relationship but I dont think that constitutes me a bad father. She said some things to me that I dont know if I can ever forgive her for. I have been a pot smoker for 25 years and currently have been clean for 11 days.
I have for many years denied that it was a problem but now I have seen the light and will do what ever I can to rectify that problem. My wife like to pick fights in front of the kids which I think is totally unfair?? I am scared to leave which is what she wants me to do. She wants a divorse and i am considering leaving. I am lost and confused.

2006-10-28 03:36:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-28 03:27:42 · 8 answers · asked by [kill me] 2

My wife left me 5 months ago for another woman. She has also since dated two other guys ( I know this because she moved three blocks away, but that is another story.) She is giving my daughter a 7 year old birthday party at a kids' party place. She invited me. I don't want to go. everyone said that that is terrible.

I get my duaghetr and my son next week. I can buy her a cake and invite a couple of the neighborhood kids over then. I am beginning to feel like rent-a-husband. For the high holidays, she called me to go to services with her and the kids, I did. Then she turned as cold as ice. She then called to "plan" the birthday party. She is not inviting her man or the other men or their kids. She wants this to be a "family occasion." She can't have a family when she wants and act single when she wants. What do you think. As of now, I am planning not to go. Thanks.

2006-10-28 03:25:14 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is better at every single thing we try together than i am. in fact, we just ended a little "friendly competition" between us and i lost. i laughed it off while he was here, but as soon as he left for work i cried. why does this bother me so much? if i tell him about it he'll either feel sorry for me and try to do worse at things or think i'm crazy. he is smarter, stronger, makes more money, is more responsible, sings better, and plays the guitar better than i play the piano. i know i must sound pathetic, but i don't know what to do about this. any suggestions? or better yet-has anyone else out there ever felt the same way?

2006-10-28 03:12:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

She and I would get into arguments and when i couldn't handle them, I would walk out and spend time at my mothers. We have a baby on the way and I work 2 jobs, and I really don't have anyone to go to to vent or for advice, so I think some strees is involved. She told me to get my things out of the apartment we once shared and she has yet to call me. It's been a little over a moth now and the baby is due in April of ,07 and we were to be wed in May. . I really miss her and wanted to contact her but when I did that, she called the police. We have never hit each other. So what do I do in this situation?

2006-10-28 02:59:19 · 7 answers · asked by elimua2002 1

Here is the deal in a nutshell. Been with woman for 5 years never married did not have sex for 4.5 years, supported her financially for last 2-3 years. Did not have sex because I didn't want it(cannot answer you or her on why just didn't,) I also never NEVER strayed from her either, just alot of self-satisfaction. She cheated on me I left her we got back together because she wouldn't leave and I was weak (possibly scared to be alone) When we got back together we had a weird combo makeup/anger sex for like 2 weeks (remember first sex in 4.5 yrs) and "we" got pregnant (unplanned). Did a common law marriage (for the benefits) she has none and my medical plan rocks. After that realised I made a mistake taking her back, meant someone and had/having an affair, love this woman very much feel like she is my soulmate. My son's mother is someone I love but have never felt that passion for. Any input,

2006-10-28 02:49:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I get married 2 months ago with somebody I was engaged to since 1 year. She is from US, I am from somewhere in EU.

Her ex from US was the first guy to her. I discover that few day before I get officialy engaged, I accepted it anyway on the conditions that she was going to love me and that I don't wanted this guy to appear again in my life.
But they do still talk together once and a while. I close my eyes, bc I know she left her country for "me". But when he discover she get married, he suggested her to marry her whenever I will be "bad" with her. She said: "I don't know how to make it not hard, but just know.. I am still here."
This "hero" is really making my life hard. Especially when I do my best to make her feel good and work really hard for that.
Today after a none-related discussion, she puts her ring in my pocket and left me in the middle of the street. She always play the victim.
I have to go to work now, and I don't know how to focus..What should I do to solve that for good?

2006-10-28 02:47:47 · 21 answers · asked by AEuropeanguy 2

am mother of 3 nice children , and yes i have gained weight but i still look nice as well i work .

2006-10-28 02:46:00 · 7 answers · asked by angel a 1

Husband and wife videod sex together in home, in private over a three year period, in different homes, and countries.. The wife liked to play roles, and have a little rough sex, like having her hair pulled, light slap etc. All sex was consentual, and she continued to do this for years. Tapes clearly show she enjoyed it, and never said stop. Can she use these tapes in a divorce against her husband?

2006-10-28 02:44:46 · 25 answers · asked by Joe 1

i am 28 and he is 45 i don't see what the reason i can get so lonely sometimes and when i ask him to come to bed he don't what can i do to get him back to bed.Please help

2006-10-28 02:33:42 · 29 answers · asked by ? 3

At checkers, he cheats on me at checkers

See
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agcpty_gbzigyyogiNgML9bsy6IX?qid=20061028055440AAymE3A

2006-10-28 02:31:37 · 18 answers · asked by coach mora 1

my guess is beacuse they pretended of course but you owe it to yourself to deal with it

2006-10-28 02:30:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

reason is because I have not talked to her for 2 years, but I invited her to my wedding- she's upset because even though we are friends I still should have asked- also she never has any money she still lives at home at 29- she would have had no money to buy her dress & I havent talked to her in 2 years- she brought this up now 3 times since the wedding what should i do? should i feel bad or no?

2006-10-28 02:27:02 · 8 answers · asked by bigsexy8232 1

He says its cause I don't brush me teeth, what should I do?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20061028062305AA8gdZp&r=w&pa=FZptHWf.BGRX3OFMhzZVVP3qZDO6Am9CDnV22ztJoZDPpHbKeA--#NbUvWDC.VzMF_au32A8W

2006-10-28 02:25:11 · 11 answers · asked by coach mora 1