We've been together over 3 years and he's mentioned this at least a dozen times. (This was a guy he knew about ten years ago.) I don't know how the subject comes up but he usually says something like " this old buddy of mine married a stripper, she made a ton of money AND she has a masters degree. She was really nice and never cheated on him. When he tells me I don't say much and ignore him but last night we got into an argument about it. He said if somebody likes your body and wanted you to work in their club I'd be ok with it. I was offered a stripping job before I met him but I declined. He couldn't believe I turned down such a job (!?) I told him if you take your clothes off for money for strangers that makes you a skank no matter how nice you are. He doesn't go to strip clubs, he's only been to a few before he met me. He says they don't turn him on because he "can't do anything with them anyway." I couldn't care less about it but why does he insist on bringing it up...
2006-10-28 03:43:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What ever you do stick to you guns about this. He has a slanted view of what a stripper is. Perhaps the only thing he can see is the money you can make. A horrible reason to be "okay" with his wife nude in front of a lot of other men. That alone blows my mind.
I am sure he wishes you no harm with this but when he brings up his old buddy it is just a way he has of telling you of what he thinks his experience with strippers is.
I would worry more about why you are even talking about this. Sure you have had a few offers. Clearly you have the body to do it but first and foremost "it is your body". His view of this does not count. And shame on him for being okay with having anyone else but him looking at you.
2006-10-28 04:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the others that are telling you that this is his fantasy -- for you to strip FOR HIM. He knows that if you were willing to do a strip tease for him in the privacy of your home, he'd be able to have sex with you - the stripper - afterward. I think it has potential to be pretty fun and spice up your marriage -- if you're willing. Don't know now that it's become such a sore spot, though. Maybe ask him nicely if that's what he wants -- for you to strip just for him.
2006-10-28 04:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he brings it up because he is jealous of his buddy who had the stripper. men go to strip clubs to see women with nice bodies take off their clothes and pay attention to them like men normally do to women in the 'real' world. your husband is impressed that this stripper had a masters, made tons of money and his friend got to f*ck her. that is what he wants. pretty obvious.
2006-10-28 03:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk about this in a rational manner. Why does he feel this way? Have you given him any reason that you wish you could strip? Is he getting lazy and he wants you to be the bread winner? Does he have a financial problem or addiction? Communication is key!
2006-10-28 03:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he has fantasies. Why not do a strip tease for him one night? If you've already done this, maybe he has some far-reaching fantasies about seeing other men wanting you? I would ask him in a non-accusing way. I think he may be bringing this up repeatedly to try and get you to talk about it.
2006-10-28 03:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by frandsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lying he wants to go watch you and other women strip, but don't do it the money is not worth it. Happines is more important, my wife worked as a bartender at astrip club ended up getting raped by two of the customers.
2006-10-28 03:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by shawn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to strip for him. It isn't the money though. That other stripper was what he thinks a guy should have in a marriage.
2006-10-28 04:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mike F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has found the right buttons to push. He pushes the "irritation button" because it works so well. Seems to me there are deeper issues in your marriage, and this one thing is covering a lot of immaturity on your husband's part.
Next time he brings it up, tell him you are not even going to go down to his level, ignore him and walk away...
2006-10-28 03:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by gagam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has some other issue going on here, he may need to speak to a counselor. This is what he wants you to do, tell him that is below you, you have more respect for yourself. Tell him that is what he wants to do. Ask him why he keeps bring up this subject? Their has to be a reason.
2006-10-28 03:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋