how long does a relationship go thru that honeymoon phase before reality sets in?......a married 42 yr old man leaves his family for a 21 yr old he lives with now.........will it last and this man has no money for this girl to take so its not the money
2006-10-28 03:57:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life can indeed be cruel. Who knows if it will last? Hopefully his wife does not fall apart and can see that her husband is the misguided one.
2006-10-28 05:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 42 year old man seeking a relationship with a 21 year old is no doubt going through a mid-life crisis. I bet he's starting to feel "old" and is looking at his life as boring - where's the excitement?
I can't imagine that a man whose girlfriend is half his age will not have a lot in common. When she's ready to go out and party, he'll be ready for bed. Many people go through this phenomena (mid-life crisis), which is why some men buy sports cars, motorcycles and such to spice of their lives when they hit this age.
Although I am no expert, I predict this 42 year old guy will go back to his stable family soon enough. If not, then it wasn't meant to be. His wife may find someone else to spend her life with and then the guy will be out of luck.
Life is cruel, but everyone has some cross to bear sooner or later. The key is to get through the hard times with the help of friends and relatives.
2006-10-28 04:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't seen many of these relationships work and I've been around a long time. Eventually the age difference will be a problem. Right now she is"arm candy" I'm sure and makes him feel young again but some time in the future she'll start to wonder if she could take him from his family couldn't someone take him from her. 21 is still a growing age and eventually someone will come along that she has more in common with. Time will tell if it's true love but now days that forever thing doesn't seem real.
2006-10-28 04:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by rose v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to open with a pithy comment about life throwing you lemons to make you appreciate the good times- but that seems sadly out of place now.
I'm going to assume the situation above is actually your situation for the purposes of my tired mind... (Its 1am here in deepest darkest Melbourne).
The honeymoon phase- depends on the couple. Usually a month, two months, three? Everyone is different and each relationship a new dynamic.
The relationship described above has no future- money or not. Its sex. Pure and simple.
In time I suspect he will come to realise that he has forsaken something so rare and valuable that he will fight to get it back.
However he has made his bed- and now he must lie in it!
Life is cruel my friend, because there are people in this world who think only of themselves.
The Iceman.
2006-10-28 04:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bella, I have seen your many questions and I can tell that you are hurting deeply. I feel for you from the bottom of my heart. It won't take long before your husband realizes he made a huge mistake. It will get old real fast when he has to be around her "21" year old friends and try to "fit" in. She will soon realize that he is too old for her and end up wanting to be with someone her own age. She is young and thinks this is "love". Hang in there and try to stay as busy as you can. If you ever need someone to talk to email me. I would be happy to listen. tobefree1954@yahoo.com Bless you..
2006-10-28 06:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's merely trying to keep his youth thru this young girl. It will wear off. Unsure which will occur first........She will come to realize he's an old man and unable to keep her pace. Or he will realize she's young and foolish. At any rate, the wife should count her own blessings, and NOT wait around for his return. He's lost his chance at real happiness. And another wife is FREE to experience LIFE!
2006-10-28 04:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is cruel at times coz it is meant to make us learn the lessons of life the hard way before we learn to appreciate the gems of it
So, acknowledge and appreciate it happened to you now. Learn from it. Empower yourself with the strength u've got from learning it and you will be able to view life with ease. This man u mentioned is just a tiny little thorn on your foot that pricks you. Pluck it off gently and you will be able to walk again.
Easier said than done, u may say but it is not impossible... : )
Be kind to yourself and you will be amazed at how you can set yourself free....
2006-10-28 05:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by DiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as the 21 years old realise her mistake the 42 years old will come back to you. Pray that 21 years old will realise it fast.
2006-10-28 04:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by janet j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 12:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Belle I think the real question is will you be around when it falls apart and will you take him back.
Only you can answer that.
Don't let him cop out on his responsibilities as a father (if there is kids).
Try to turn the negative into a positive.
Do something for yourself you'll feel much better.
2006-10-28 04:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by justpatagn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going through a mid life crisis. What is making him do this? It is something that needs a good conversation as to what is going through his head, why and when will he come to his senses. Is she looking for a father figure? Did he not sew his wild oats when he was young?
She'll get tired of this guy when she finds someone younger than him
2006-10-28 04:03:41 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋