my hubby of 10 yr's seem's to be a Liar or good of friends with the women he works with.And has been caught by me flirting in a very sexual way with married and single co workers.Such as touching each other shoulder to shoulder or acting as though their wasn't enough room to go past her without touching her bottom quickly before passing by her.Seduceing each other with eye contact alone.It would go so far that the women would not hide the fact and flirt with my hubby with me right beside him. when I would visit on his lunch break.I accused him of having affairs.He denied even flirting with other women.I knew better though,he finally admitted to flirting and being a womanizer,but that he did not have a desire to go to bed with any of them and swears he has never even kissed another woman. Why would a married man have a desire to flirt with other women if he say's he has no desire to have sex with them.Don't all men if intensely flirting hope to have sex.If not then why ?Am I being a fo
2006-10-28 03:51:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is an attention addict. He likes to feel wanted and likes the non-committal flirtations to make him feel better about himself. It's a horrible and destructive way to do this, but chronic womanizers eventually over time will inevitably go all the way unless he's willing to talk to someone about it. This is more serious than you think. It's a selfish and insulting approach to life.
2006-10-28 03:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ego boost.
Some men flirt to get sex.
Some men don't.
Some men flirt for an ego boost.
Some men flirt for attention.
Some men flirt for fun.
Some men flirt for some excitement in their lives.
Some men flirt because it's their character.
Some men flirt because they like to make others feel good.
Some men flirt because they know they can get away with it.
Some men flirt to see if they still 'have it'.
Some men flirt subconsciously cuz they're not happy at home.
Some men flirt because it makes sex with wife better.
Some men flirt because they wanna see how far they can go.
Some men flirt because it makes them feel sexy.
Some men flirt because they think it's their job to.
Some men flirt because it makes them feel desirable.
Some men flirt because they like to play games.
Some men flirt because they are gay trying to prove they are not.
Some men flirt because they have a ring on their finger they can do anything they want.
Some men flirt and don't realize they are flirting.
2006-10-28 04:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by lady from the other day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a married man. Sex is a natural, wonderful gift, handed to us from God himself. Why do you think that God said be fruitful & multiply? You think that people multiply without sex? Do you think that animals in the wild are sinning because they mate? The institution of marriage was created to allow you to have sex on a regular basis, with your mate. Without sex, you may as well move in with your sister. You are not a priest. Heck, even priests are not celibate these days, ask the altar boys.... Sex with your mate is not a sin. If the church is telling you otherwise, find a different church. It will not make you respect women more. It will make you and your wife miserable. She may decide to leave you because you do not desire her anymore. You cannot stop your sex drive. If it has stopped, something is very wrong with you. Go see a doctor. Don't blame this on God.... He paired us all up for a reason. Adam & Eve????? Ever heard of those two? OMG... I cannot believe that this is a real question. You have to be trolling, because this is a question that is beyond ridiculous.
2016-03-19 00:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lying. ALL men have fantasies about being with other women...there's nothing you can do about that. HOPING to have sex with others is another matter entirely, so please look at this in the right way. After 10 years together it is possible that he feels you are no longer as attracted to him as you once were, so he feeds his ego by flirting. Flirting is natural and healthy, but you feel he is going too far. I think he is playing a dangerous game. One of these days, one of the "ladies" (and I use that term loosely) is gonna come and collect on his flirtations-what will he do?
2006-10-28 04:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear darling, I think we have a problem don't you..?
You've spelled out how you feel and he has lied to you. You pushed the issue and when confronted with his lie- he has lied again.
I would seek professional marriage counselling if you love him and want to be with him.
But if it was me and my wife acted in this manner- I'm affraid I would be un able to trust (hence continue to be her husband), her again.
I am so sorry for you. I hope things turn out for the best and you manage to find some happiness in your life. It is obvious that you deserve someone much more loyal and honourable.
The Iceman.
2006-10-28 03:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to offer a solution to your situation. I agree with the other members about your husband flirting and lieing to you. I would sit him down in a very quiet place with no distractions and confront him about how his flirting makes you feel and how it hurts you. I would also state the next time he flirts you will confront his coworkers on their flirting and e mbarrase him in front them. I would also act on it the next time it occurs. I WOULD SIT DOWNWITH HIM EVERY FEW DAYS AND CONFRONT HIM EACH DAY until the message is loud and clear. If the flirting still continues I WOULD CONSIDER ENDING THE MARRAIGE or seek serious marraige counseling. Also you must fix this problem now before you have children where the problem only worsens. Also a great book to read is SELF MATTERS BY DR PHIL. YOU MATTER ACT ON IT!!
2006-10-29 10:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by OLIVIA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is very disrepectful to you and you should not accept this kind of behavior. some men need this ego massage constantly - they need to feel they're still desirable and able to seduce other women... do you honestly believe that if one of these women he flirts with wants to go further with him, he won't do it?? no woman has to go through this... you deserve someone who respects you and is glad to be with you every day of his life. of course we feel attracted to other people when married or in love, but touching them and doing what your husband seems to be doing is a whole other story.
2006-10-28 03:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love to flirt but that doesn't mean I want to be with someone else but my couple. I love my boyfriend but I like when someone is attracted to me...that's nature...
Don't bother him with questions...mens doen't like womens asking for everything and showing they are jealous for every woman passing in front of them... give him the chance to be free and be sure he is gonna be trustworthy forever!
2006-10-28 03:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by Vero 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think it more of a case of knowing that even though he is in a commited relationship, he still HAS IT. he could go out and flirt and get any girl he wants. thats why so many men go throguh midlife crisis's. they feel as though they are losing it. the exuberance they had in their twenties.
2006-10-28 03:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just a player, and has never grown up yet. Tell him to act as a married man. and have more respect for you and himself! Tell him he makes you very uncomfortable, acting this way. Ask him what he wants out of life!
2006-10-28 03:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋