Marriage & Divorce - 9 October 2006

I've been married since Feb and I've caught my husband in SEVERAL lies since. Lies about where and how he spend his money and time. I even found out that he was dating his "best friend" up until we got married. We decided on a divorce but then he changed his mind saying he's sorry and wants to work things out. On one hand I've heard this all before and the trust is more than gone. On the other hands, isn't a marriage about working out your problems? I love him but I have lost faith in his ability to change. Is love enough to stay or is the lack of trust enough to leave? What do I do?

2006-10-09 14:26:38 · 21 answers · asked by bettiboo 1

The fleslight is the best substitute for your girlfriend?

2006-10-09 14:23:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean, are you picky about which side of the bed you sleep on? My husband and I are! He is really anal about his pillows too! He has to have three huge feather pillows, and I have to have those poly fill ones! Anyone else really anal about this??

2006-10-09 14:20:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have no savings account, I owe 9000.00 in arrears because the judge ordered the increased amount back 1 year. With the new amount I am not able to meet my monthly living expenses.

2006-10-09 14:14:46 · 18 answers · asked by gourdman1 1

Im not talking grocery shopping,I mean going out for a good time and how late do you.he/she usually stay out?
Just curious.

2006-10-09 14:14:06 · 13 answers · asked by TrofyWife 4

or wait until everything is final?

2006-10-09 14:10:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a really good friend that I am in love with and I have only met him through my 360* page, e-mails and I have talked to him over the phone. We are 3000 miles apart. He is married and has two grown boys and is not happy with his wife.....I have learned this through our conversations. I don't think he has ever been actually happy with her but I cannot be sure of that. If he is happy, I wouldn't ask him to leave her. Heck, I wouldn't even ask him to do that if he wasn't really happy. My question is this.....he won't leave her (so he says) because he is afraid of his family falling apart and losing his sons over this. Do you think he should leave her and at least try to be happy? Or should he stay and fake his happiness to everyone? I love him very much and I know that I could make him a very happy person if he would just give me a chance.

2006-10-09 13:59:15 · 15 answers · asked by Golosa 3

we are maried for 10 years... hes teling me to keep this only to us..so no 1 will know..and this is to spice things up..ihave asked ques abt him leting me flirt with others.....i need to talk with ppl who had experiences...plz contact me on yahoo....id-litafedricks

2006-10-09 13:58:44 · 12 answers · asked by Lita fedrick 1

Would you tell him or is it betterleft unsaid? I don't want to jeopordize his business or his friendship. I would never cheat on him.

2006-10-09 13:57:19 · 4 answers · asked by sweetie 3

My ex is filing for a modification of our custody order. He wants full custody. I am wondering if it is better that I continue working or quit my job and stay home? I just recently started working about a month ago. I am married so I was able to stay home. Now I work 4 days a week 11 hours per day. I am wondering what is going to look better to the courts? Staying home with my children. Or working? my husband makes a fair living, we have a beautiful home on several acres of land in a terrific neighborhood. My girls attend a great school. What is your take on this?

2006-10-09 13:48:43 · 12 answers · asked by lilmisstickletoo 3

2006-10-09 13:48:21 · 11 answers · asked by Julie A 1

How can a woman move on with her life after splitting up with the man that she has an 18 month old son with and is 7 months pregnant from him. Things are not working out and the verbal abuse is constant. I am afraid! Any advice or help???

2006-10-09 13:36:32 · 18 answers · asked by Jersey Girl 1

2006-10-09 13:35:56 · 4 answers · asked by SarahL 2

I just recently left my baby's father and I need some motivation from single mothers out there. I have an 18 month old son with him that has a benign tumour and I am pregnant 7 months. I am afraid to go out there alone and do it all on my own. I have no job because I have to care for my son and no one will hire me pregnant. I am now left alone in the house we had rented together not able to pay rent the 1st of the month. Any advice??? Please be nice I am going through a tough time and I will not desire this to anyone.

2006-10-09 13:34:17 · 27 answers · asked by Jersey Girl 1

Before we married (and while our relationship was long-distance), my wife was sure I had an affair with a former female friend. I didn't -- certainly in the sex etc sense. But I did lie about keeping in contact (after gf/wife expressed discomfort with level of contact) with the friend; and in an after-party situation I inappropriately touched friend's boobs. I later confessed all under questioning, and have since (2yrs+) been apologetic, contrite, indulgent (pay her debt$, home alone with kids) and timid - all in the face of unending extreme anger & bitterness.

We conceived baby AFTER scandal broke, we married later still, and now have a lovely daughter. Bitterness & coldness are now getting to me, affecting my ability to hold down work with which to support family (including her son/my step-son). Is enough enough? I doubt I'd get custody, but am I doing the right thing "staying for the sake of my daughter"?

When things were good, our differences didn't matter; now, they're MAGNIFIED

2006-10-09 13:23:07 · 29 answers · asked by twentyfive 1

My wife hates the fact that I make her cook dinner for me every night. She says she's tired of waiting on me hand and foot and that I should help out around the house more often. I feel terrible about the situation and so I have a really important question to ask --

What should I tell my back-talking old lady to make me for dinner tonight?

2006-10-09 13:21:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

should i have to remind my husband? because he does not remember any of our special days??

2006-10-09 13:20:26 · 17 answers · asked by kiran123 2

if there is such a divorce how can you make it legal?

2006-10-09 13:17:30 · 9 answers · asked by maria s 1

this question is for a friend.she is married and cheated on her husband,even got pregnant and doesn't know whose the baby's father.She also caught an STD.She never told her husband about anything.on the day of delivery for the baby,her husband saw on paper works that she was treated for an std.Now the baby is here,and her husband wants nothing to do with her and the baby,even if the perternity said its his.Now hes filing for a divorce,and she doesn't want that.As a friend to her,can u help me give her some advice?

2006-10-09 13:06:21 · 20 answers · asked by lovegirl 2

My husband and I will be celebrating our first wedding anniversary and would like to do something extra special, something that we wouldn't usually do on any other weekend or previous special occasions. We are willing to travel, but no more than 2-3 hrs to celebrate our special weekend.

2006-10-09 13:04:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 6 years to a guy I met in high school. We were each other's first. I guess I am what you call a late bloomer. I have always been heavy and due to a dramatic lifestyle change, I am now considered very thin. For the first time men find me very attractive. Last Christmas eve, my husband drank a lot at my parents. When we got home, he shocked me by saying he would like to see me with another man. I changed the subject because I didn't want to seem eager, but it intrigued me. He never brought this up again. My husband doesn't like the club scene so I go out with co-workers and he trusts me completely. One co-worker gave me a ride home and we got some tall boys and sat and talked. He ended up taking it out. I told him what he already knew, that I was married. My sister's husband is African American and told me they were big, but I had no idea. I am curious and would like to bring up my husband's proposal. How could I bring this up again to him?

2006-10-09 13:02:55 · 7 answers · asked by We're Making Paper 2

I know he says he never really loved her and that she disgusts him but he hates talking about her and their relationship AT ALL because he says he hates his past and his decision to marry her in the first place. Still, it seems like he could talk canditly about it, I have talked to him about relatiosnhips I have hated. Just think its wierd. maybe a guy thing?

2006-10-09 13:01:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Marguerite and eddie vs. George and Mary

2006-10-09 12:57:40 · 2 answers · asked by TT_100% REAL 1

2006-10-09 12:51:46 · 8 answers · asked by johnsonkava 1

2006-10-09 12:40:52 · 10 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3

Me and my fiance are planning on getting married. Where are some nice places that do same-sex marriage?

2006-10-09 12:36:08 · 1 answers · asked by Heather 3

2006-10-09 12:24:49 · 27 answers · asked by zhaedez 1

we've been married 6 years. overall he is a good man and i have never cheated on him he's been gone for over year. before Iraq good for us during R & R was nice but last 6 months he's been really stressed out and on internet talking to women etc. I'm pretty sure online stuff. I see correlations with big events when he needs this escapethe most. My dad died and he seemed different after that. he gave me his new address and reads my emails but he doesnt want to reply and tells me to leave him but you can tell he is confused. Isnt it best to just wait until he's back home to make these major decisions? I've been putting positive support/respect messages for him periodically but overall he's responded once but seems to talk online alot. Iraq has REALLY REALLY been hard on him. what do you suggest? even his friends are like he says its over but doesnt talk to me. doesnt talk to his mom, and sometimes his other family I'm thinking I should hold off on the d word

2006-10-09 12:24:37 · 17 answers · asked by A Praying Wife 1

newly wed over 1yr. Had baby ,I grew up and found stedy jjob asked her to stay home and enjoy mother hood.. since she was raised by grandmother while mom partys.before baby come we move into aour own place i dont ask for much just a clean housenow her mom want to basicly raise my baby and i wont have that. she sleeps all day and has panic attacks before i come home & realizes that the house is a mess. we fight about it and shee leaves all weekend long comes back 2 a clean house and just lays in bed does not ask how the baby was doing and expects to make love like nothing happen

2006-10-09 12:22:12 · 21 answers · asked by helpless in il. 1

newly wed over 1yr. Had baby ,I grew up and found stedy jjob asked her to stay home and enjoy mother hood.. since she was raised by grandmother while mom partys.before baby come we move into aour own place i dont ask for much just a clean housenow her mom want to basicly raise my baby and i wont have that. she sleeps all day and has panic attacks before i come home & realizes that the house is a mess. we fight about it and shee leaves all weekend long comes back 2 a clean house and just lays in bed does not ask how the baby was doing and expects to make love like nothing happen

2006-10-09 12:20:40 · 9 answers · asked by helpless in il. 1