this question is for a friend.she is married and cheated on her husband,even got pregnant and doesn't know whose the baby's father.She also caught an STD.She never told her husband about anything.on the day of delivery for the baby,her husband saw on paper works that she was treated for an std.Now the baby is here,and her husband wants nothing to do with her and the baby,even if the perternity said its his.Now hes filing for a divorce,and she doesn't want that.As a friend to her,can u help me give her some advice?
2006-10-09 13:06:21 · 20 answers · asked by lovegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, she made the mess and nobody can help her at this point. Maybe if the baby turns out to be his he'll come around, but I wouldn't count on it.
2006-10-09 13:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Her husband most likely will file for no-fault divorce. No-fault divorce is divorce in which the dissolution of a marriage does not require fault of either party to be shown, or, indeed, any evidentiary proceedings at all. It occurs on petition to the court, typically a family court by either party. Either party may request, and receive, the dissolution of the marriage, despite the objections of the other party. I would advice her to agree with husband decision, contesting is expensive and time consuming. She can still petition court for child support and maybe for alimony. I would advise her to seek help of the attorney.
2006-10-09 20:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people get angry in the heat of the moment. Finding out about infidelity is a real crusher. Everything you thought you knew about the person you loved suddenly is a lie. So I think that this husband has every right to be upset. The best advice you can tell this friend is to give hime time. As much time as he needs to cope with his loss of his dream. If they are meant to be together they will find a way together to work it out. Tell her not to push him. That will only push him farther away.
2006-10-09 20:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by what do you think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her stew in her own misery. I have no tolerance for love cheats. Poor Man. Poor children. She should hang her head in shame.
The only thing she can do now is to grant as much access to the kids for the father as he wants and explain to the kids when they ask that she did something bad and thats why her and dad have split up.
If she did that I would forgive her for what she did, however I would never sleep with her again.
2006-10-09 20:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been faithful to her, then he knows where the STD came from and he also knows she could have passed it on to him without telling him.
If she doesn't want a divorce, she should have thought about the consequences of her actions. There isn't much you can say to her that she doesn't already know.
Just be there for your friend right now. Hopefully she learned something.
2006-10-09 20:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something that is very serious I don't believe that in the given circumstances that she will stand much of a chance because a husband and wife by definition in its self is to be loyal to one another and bad habits are hard to stop try and come her help her through but take it as lesson and move on with her life shes still young and could have a blossoming life
2006-10-09 20:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by rporpto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but there is nothing you can do but be there for her as a friend. She bought that on herself and if she was gonna cheat she should have been careful. She got what she deserved in this case and now all she can do is let him go and all you can do is be there for her the best way you can as a friend.
2006-10-09 20:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but she is the one that commited the sin and caused this problem If the baby is the mans I think he should have it and the women should suffer for cheating.
2006-10-09 20:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be to late for her, because she should have at least said something even though she would have been scared. The only thing that gave her up was a std, thats bad
2006-10-09 20:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by enj4you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your friend.Sometime we make bad decision.Your friend have to live with the consequence.She have learn a hard lesson.Your friend would have to pull herself together and focus on being a mother to her child.As the old saying say if you play with fire you get burn.
2006-10-09 20:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by 40something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋